advice needed husband cheating

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Dh been away for a family funeral abroad. He returned last week uploaded all his family pictures onto the laptop. Just been looking at them and one girl seemed to feature heavily in the pictures just always in the background.

Checked the recycle bin sure enough deleted pics of her topless, he is crap at technology and obviously didnt realise.

Logged onto his facebook for which he doesn't realise I know the password and there are 10 calls today logged on messenger and a private message from his friend warning him about too many photos of this girl on his page.

I am sat here shaking. I know I need to take action he has cheated on me before I can't go through this again.

Please advise me and hold my hand. He is out until 10. What do I do?

Chuck him.

Sorry, that was too blunt.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Find your anger and use it constructively.

Pack his bags and leave them on the doorstep! Although I fully understand that this is easier said than done. Or if you're feeling a little childish, upload the topless photos to his Facebook and wait for him to realise.
But honestly, you deserve a hell of a lot better :-( and for his friend to warn him - YUCK! Be strong and refuse to forgive, he will only do it again.
My heart goes out to you xxxxx

What do the messenger messages say. It doesn't look good. I would restore the topless pics and either print them off or leave them open on the computer and confront.

Oh man, that's grim. But you have to face it and deal with it I guess? I know it's tempting to sit on it and see what happens but this man is now a serial cheat and I can't see a way of ever trusting him again.

I think the advice on here is usually to be on the attack, don't end up begging or pleading. Tell him to move out if you can.

Will be blame funeral related stress do you think?

Sorry this is happening to you.

In fact print the pics and leave them on top of his bags outside the door.

What a dirty rat! I would not let on immediately. Use your knowledge to find out as much as possible and hide as much money as possible ready for going it alone, if that's what you want. It sounds like a horrible thing to uncover, which his friend clearly knows about to warn him too many pictures. You say he has done this before, so he clearly doesn't respect you. I'm sure lots of people will leave you done good advice.

I really want to upload the photo. That thought has seriously crossed my mind. I was also considering setting it as the screen saver so when he logs on later it will pop up.

I'm so done with this. I know he did it before but I thought he had changed. We are ttc at the moment. He obviously has no respect for me at all.

if you forgive this/sweep it under the carpet you are a mug

Yes to what Twitter said about money. If you need to go to online banking and transfer what you will need if possible.

I am so scared now I have to tell everyone and make it official. I know I will cope on my own it's just getting him out.

You are right anyfucker.

The messages were just calls. He uses it to phone people via messenger

You are right he has no respect for you, he deserves nothing. Pack his bags and double lock the door or put the chain on.

Do not bring a child of his in this world! You will never be rid. It's hard to see it now, but you are better off without this arsewipe.
I like the upload photo idea!!!

We already had dd together.

Oh I'm so sorry for being insensitive!!

Anyfucker is usually right. Do you already have dc's? If so he has shown them no respect either, do you really want them growing up thinking this is the right way to treat their mother?

Cross post. Even more reason to put his bags out and not answer any calls/texts.