How can I find incognito history on Chrome?

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I just came up to find an incognito window open in chrome on a website that I really would not be ok with my DH watching. Unfortunately by the I had noticed I had force shut down the laptop as it was not responding so I was not able to save the window.

Is there anyway I can find out what he is doing in incognito mode?

House ownership, money/savings. Possessions are what is called marital assets. They are jointly owned if you are married. This is why you need to see a solicitor, it is untrue to say you haven't worked since you got married. You have worked ev.eryday, just in the home instead of outside. You have also raised 3 children which are also his ! Do you know how much it would of cost him in childcare if you weren't there ? All these things are recognised by the courts as an equal contributions. You find out for yourself. It doesn't mean you have to do anything with the information, but it will mean you will know where you stand and your h won't be able to bullshit you anymore.

To be honest I think you need to leave him FOR the benefit of your children and financial circumstances. He will continue to financially abuse you and deny your children attention and respect.

As you are married all assets are considered joint assets, broadly speaking so you have a right to be in the home or benefit from the equity despite it not being in your name. You being a SAHM has contributed to the finances of the family unit as much as work would.

its a moot point really. If we sold this place we would not be able to find two places big enough for the children without moving far away. And I cannot bear the thought of uprooting their little lives.

I have had a shower. I feel so heavy. Like I can't even move. I wish I could lie down all day.

thank you for all your comments it has been a big help to me.

Please, if you do nothing else today: eat, and feed your children; ring your gp for an appointment (or midwife, as appropriate), and ring a solicitor for an appointment. You don't need to tell your story over the phone - just ring. Do these things so that you do not find yourself in a state of mental or physical collapse next week. When I found out about my H's affair, I did those things purely as a box-ticking exercise, but they are the first steps of Looking After Yourself.

By all means, do the investigations (I did) but you must continue to function, for yourself and all your children. Get through each hour. You don't need to think about anything else except survival - today - and you will survive today. Then you will survive tomorrow.

Stay well; take care of the most important people in your house.

You will be surprised if you see a solicitor and realise what you are entitled to - at least if not more than 50% of the assets (house, possessions, money etc), child maintenance and tax credits/benefits.

I really would make seeing a Dr or Midwife your priority today.

You don't need to find two places big enough for the children - you and the children will stay in the house and he will have to rent somewhere close by. I'm sure the costs of his cam habit will easily cover the rent.

You aren't ruining their lives, he is doing that all by himself.

I do see your need not to disrupt things but he will gradually destroy and erode you as the years pass until there is nothing left of you. And then what good will you be to your children? And what will you do when they leave home?

This situation is simply untenable in the long term

I am sure you will find yourself and the DC far better off financially on your own - I shudder to think how much money he must be literally spunking up the wall...

Yes, once you claim everything you are entitled to plus maintenance I would say you will be much better off than you are now. Plus hundreds of pounds won't be vanishing from the family pot on his grubby little habit.

I have a huge thing on tomorrow (my thing) that I need to do so much preparation for today. But I physically cannot move. I feel like I have been hit by a bus. The physical reaction to shock is something I would have never imagined. I need to get up but I literally cannot. I need to get through today and tomorrow and then I can collapse.

I know how much money we can coming in. The mortgage here plus a rental is not something there is enough money for. That I know.

Can he be forced to leave the house? There is no way he will leave.

Have you gone the the child maintenance calculator to see how much he would have to give you per month? And the website Entitledto also - that will be useful for you.

He has the whole 'madonna/whore' thing down to a tee doesn't he? You are the Mother/wife/housekeeper and they are the ones he turns to for sex.

Unfortunately, I am in the same position. 8 years no sex/affection.

If you can find any possible way out of this marraige I plead with you to take it.

Please don't waste your life. Turn to family, turn to friends. See a solicitor.

Get him to leave for a few days to help you clear your head (plus you won't have to clear up after him). You can't stop him contacting his other women, he will do it anyway. That damage is already done. Please have some soup.

You need to contact Women's Aid women's aid

They can give you advise.

Not all men are like this - i couldn't stay with someone who'd done this. It is sad for your dc but I don't think it sets a good example to them to stay with such a liar. If he is able lie so easily about something like this, he's likely generally a deeply unpleasant person, not a great role model. Many dc have parents that no longer live together - the trust is gone, conparenting with someone you no longer like in the same house is going to be very weird over time.

So sorry you're going through this op. You deserve so much better. You don't have to stay with him. It's scary. But you can end it. He won't change. He'll just get smarter at hiding stuff. X

A solicitor will advise you on how to make him leave the house.

In the meantime, tell him that leaving the house is temporary and also once again please do NOT do anything for him (cooking, laundry etc).

thank you for the information. I dont think I can go to a solicitor. I would have to take the children with me and I would literally break down.

I appreciate so much your comments as I have no one else I feel I can discuss this with.

It transpired he locked me in the house last night. I am looking for another key now.

Chances are you will stay in your house with the children and he will get somewhere smaller.

All the money he spends on those websites can be put to better use; by providing a stable, happy home for you and the children with him somewhere else.

You really should let someone in RL into this, it doesn't sound as though you are safe and the stress with you being pg too is horrible, you need support. Please do tell someone, this is his shame, not yours

Locked you in? - by mistake?

I feel so angry. You talk about wanting to prove your love and trust and you just fall asleep leaving the house in the biggest shit tip I have ever seen here. Never lifts a finger "because he doesn't see it". And on a night where I tell him I want to divorce he just leaves it all for me to pick up and deal with and heads off for a sleep. What an utter piece of shit.

Keep that anger.

I agree that going to your priest/religious leader would be a really good idea. You said you feel ashamed - the only thing you ever did wrong was pick this man, and you didn't realise you were picking him, you thought you were picking the kind, loving man he occasionally pretended to be.

Even if you go to your priest and say you're having a really, really horrible time at the moment and need someone to pray with, I have no doubt it will help you. Then you can say to your midwife you are having a relationship crisis and don't want to talk about the details but need an extra hand to hold.

You have talked about your solitude and isolation - please, please reach out to people whose job is it to help you.

He locked you in the house? You know that's really bad don't you? The more you post about him the more controlling and abusive he sounds.

I'm going to ask you a question now, and I might be WAY off the mark, but has he ever been physically threatening or abusive to you?

Another one concerned about him locking you in the house. What other abuse have you suffered?

And someone mentioned soup upthread, that's a thing I can always manage to eat even when I'm feeling awful, so please give it a try?

He locked you in the house? What if there'd been a fire?

Keep your phone on you at all times, fully charged. He is not a safe person to be around.