The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

That's ok Rioux I didn't get any negativity from post. I can't date more than one man at a time, I have alot on at home juggling kids and caring for my dc who has some mental health issues.
Did get a message from a very good looking 26 yr old who was very intriguing. But I prefer to date men who have kids because I think it takes them to a better emotional level. Having kids is about learning not to be selfish and caring for someone unconditionally. MT seems like a good dad which I find very appealing.

Gotta ah I've just seen your update... well not terrible but not brilliant either. depends how you want to play it...

It really is weird after a certain age... the City publishing man I was seeing after ooh date 3 went back to his, fumbling etc got my bra off knickers on had heavy period so he fingered me even though I wasn't keen, I sort of simulated sex on top touched his penis a bit then said do you want to finish off and give me a pearl necklace (which he did).... we then DTD properly for at least another month and it was good... not marathon but good.

Kent Lad we were both quite keen to DTD quickly so I think 3rd or 4th date - went to London hotel where I have to say it was bloody good sex (top 3), he even said "you have a look on your face as to say I've never been fucked this good before" (not quite true..., it was top 3). I got really into it, twice that night once the following morning. He did very much play on his size (not huge but big).

but what I'm saying is well it gets good and is great and yes you can know each other better and it gets better but depends on what you're comparing it to before etc.... I had one male friend say to me ages ago something about the urge being harder for men to get (literally) as they get older and him and his mate discussing Horny Goat Weed (I think) maybe a natural viagra, like a herb??!!

Super We dtd yesterday lunchtime, he was nervous but managed better than I had imagined. He was very sweet and caring, cuddles and compliments.
He's eager to do it again on our next date, he did have problems with vp on second round, but its a good sign he was hard and willing. Think he got anxious suddenly, I didn't ask why.

Super I kept seeing a guy because sex was exciting and very different from exh. But he was a selfish lover and told me to suck his you know and I don't mind a bit of spanking but he left a mark once.Also he kept pulling my hair and hand over mouth.
MT is very tender but I think this shows he's wants to treat me well and he was very attentive. I was just a bit off yesterday down to hunger and tiredness.
I'm not keen on bigness because its like some men think that's enough and can just pound away.
Glad MT was impressed with my body regardless of my stretch marks and not huge boobs.

gotta

I think its good you're giving him a 2nd chance and being understanding, I can tend to be too impatient... It's good you realise when you're not on your A game either - tiredness can be awful in making sex seem/be better. I quite like tenderness too.

To be honest a lot of men especially older ones are thankful for actually having sex - I know kent Lad wasn't the best looking man on earth, in fact in his younger years he was a catch but he had the enviable or unenviable reputation (in his mind anyway) of being 1 of 2 of the biggest men (penis size) in XXX town, he played on this and his surname was a play on words/meant sort of the same as bigger.

His size was great and he knew what to do with it, but it was almost like, that's it oh AND did I mention how good I was etc in other areas (he wasn't that great at all). and then for me it tended to be very good sex but after a while he was into dressing up etc... hmmm

"...reputation (in his mind anyway) of being 1 of 2 of the biggest men (penis size) in XXX town, he played on this and his surname was a play on words/meant sort of the same as bigger."

Have you been dating Eddie Large, Super, is that who Kent Lad is?

Super knew a mate who went out with a guy who's nickname was Donkey :)

MT has asked to be exclusive and close pof accounts. Wants us to be a couple, bit scary but I like him. I know some said he's ott behaviour was a red flag. I don't get a anxious feeling about him, he's always keeping in touch too.
He's looking forward to making love again, he's very sweet.
There's no harm in giving it a go and seeing how it pans out.

Rioux I'm sure I will still need advice.

Think I'm going to be leaving guys , I'm crap at advise for a,start,
I'm not doing anything on dating front ,yes possible mate date at weekend but I know his heart not in it it me who pushed it .
The ppl I've chatted to have disappeared .

Hope to be back soon zzz

I'm still staying and reading the thread too even tho I'm in a relationship. Like Gotta says us ladies always like advice

Not sure if anyone remembers me from the summer but I'm still here reading the thread and keeping up to date with all the old and new posters.

I'm still with MrMMA, coming up to 4 months now. Things are going really well. I've thought about updating a few times but don't want to 'jinx' it .

I remember you Singlesock, you started seeing your guy around same time I met TT, glad it still going well

"I'm still staying and reading the thread too even tho I'm in a relationship."

I'm staying as well and reading the thread, even though I'm not looking to date at the moment.

Jesy Its not just about giving advice but also support. Don't leave just look after yourself and New Year could bring you something good.
This thread has helped me so much, its not nice to feel alone and we are all muddling along with old.

Jesy stick with us. I read and lurk and offer my two pennies worth every so often. Don't know how to define my dating situation clearly, with Mr Actor but early days. Sit amongst friends for a while xx

I should have had a,date last night but I thought I'd cancelled it and when he texted me he seems disappointed ,I apologised and said it was my mistake and said I'll send him extra pot of pickle up , but he texted me back saying what about an an Xmas kiss x

I just feel that as not had many bf and all three dumped me I'm not a lot of use lol

Min

It seems as if ppl on here my only friends , I was linked in on a fb post which saw today and and my so called rl friends hadn't asked me to go , I messaged saying great pics , message back saying ( and this was from a girl I've known years) didn't think u could afford it

Ffs it was a curry n pint night for five pound I could have walked down , dad would have picked me up it just hurt , ppl on here have treated me better

Jesy Do you like the Xmas kiss guy? Don't worry about how many boyfriends you have had, I have only had two boyfriends. MT wants to be my third boyfriend.
I have agreed to couple up but I wont see us as boyfriend and girlfriend untill I know more about him.
I have a date with MT Sunday, he's hinted that he wants to make love. He seems in lust mode right now.

jesy Your best friend in life will be yourself. I left all my bitching friends behind when I became a Mum and they were out clubbing while I had a baby. My Mum and Sister are people who have my back. I don't have friends but I don't mind because good friends are hard to find, people can be so judgemental and not always very kind. If people cant be kind and excepting of their friends then I don't want to know.
There are good genuine people in this world, I have chatted to many waiting for a bus.

Gotta

I do like him , physical he not really what I've gone for , but where has that got me.
But he kind ,I feel comfortable with him, which is good my one bf I wasn't I'd get so nervous around him and its not as if he was a stunner .

Morning all. So gotta sounds like yo are going give it a go with MT, good for you.
Supposed to have date with MR Builder on Sat but have heard nothing from him since Tues so not sure if he is still wanting to meet up, getting a bit cored with lack of contact. Just sent a casual hiys type text if I don't get anything back will bin him.

Bit this morning, just got a Xmas card from X's Auntie addressed to Mr and Mrs ( we were never married) wishing us lovely Xmas, clearly she has no idea we are separated as he had not told her. How odd.

jesyI think feeling comfortable around a man is very important. I felt anxious around the last I guy I dated. For me attraction is never just looks though MT is good looking and fit body, he does seem a little nervous round me.
Still you shouldn't have to sacrifice physical attraction because some other men have turned out to be the wrong type.
Attraction can grow I think if the man has a lot of good qualities.

I'm an idiot when it comes to men, last night I spent an hour texting my first bf trying to get him to make up with his gf

When I wanted to say come back to me , he texted me this am saying they'll be ok

It not like I'm s cared of being alone at Xmas and logic says I can't afford dates, cancelling direct debits so I can get gifts next week as we speak x

We will see what happens with Mr Xmas kiss , must be something we been texting 18 months or so lol

Blossom I would be very peed off with Mr Builder, if this is how he communicates now then it doesn't look good for later on. He doesn't deserve a date with you imo.
MT has kept the contact the same, good morning and then texting throughout the day. I have always left it to the men to initiate texting because i think that if they want my attention then they will try and get it.
Last Xmas ex and I didn't tell everyone we had separated mainly didn't want to spoil Xmas for kids, I found last years cards addressed to us. I have so much stuff with memories of our past.when I am low about myself I feel like asking ex what he didn't like about me, like a feedback form.
Its not always easy to just close a book on a past relationship.I grew up with my ex, sounds similar to you and your ex.

MT wants to spend Sunday together, did want Saturday too but I'm out with kids.
He's coming on very strong now with his desire to get back in my bed. Which I am happy to but I also want to spend time out and about with him. Get to know more, I was thinking of asking him if he's got A drinking problem, Gambling, Porn addiction or if any ex partners have had a restraining order out on him.These things are a deal breaker for me.
Obviously not so bluntly :)