The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Made Man I didn't mean by this I liked stuffed shirts. I guess it was more that he seemed quite studenty and I could see him dropping everything and going travelling for another year soon. Just looking for different I guess. Sometimes I feel quite envious of guys in their 30s as they don't have ticking clocks in the background.

Oh I see, Dolly. Yeah, it seems to be the thing to do in your 30's to go and find yourself. I was always wading through the travelling backpacking types on Match; profiles were all like, "Been here, been there, would love to go to here..."

MT mentioned Viagra and not wanting to disappoint me. He's really making me anxious now. I have no experience with this kind of thing, I thought Viagra was for older men.
I don't want to be insensitive. Could it be a medical problem.

Gotta Blimey he is really anxious I think. That would really turn me off, how are you feeling about the date? My X used Viagra with varying degrees of success.

Lots of test activity last night, got round to telling MR Football when he told me "I stole his heart" that we hardly know each other, seems to have backed off a little, saying he just wants me to know he respects me.

Interesting to hear from MR Lotus we only had one date but he was really nice, for various reasons we never made it to a 2nd date, I cancelled the last one. Goodness my love life is beginning to look potentially very mixed up

Thanks *Rioux I remember watching a Top Gear episode and they took Viagra, kids wanted to know what is was :)
He keeps hinting he doesn't want to disappoint me and will probably get very excited and for me to be patient.
This information takes away going with the moment because it will be in the back of my mind and I will be waiting for that anxious moment.

Blossom Want to see him today, get him back to mine and see what I'm dealing with. No point in carrying on for another week and it ends up a bigger problem than he lets on. The info is not inspiring me but he seems very keen for us to get intimate.
Wish me luck :)

Gotta it seems to me that you are both putting yourselves under the most huge amount of pressure. I'm not sure that anyone could 'perform' after such lengthy deliberation. Can you not take sex out of the equation for the moment, get to know each other a bit and let that side happen at a more natural pace? I feel sure with all that pressure it's going to be a huge disappointment and that would be the end. I understand your feelings about sexual chemistry and all that but does not sexual chemistry grow as you get to know each other and gain respect and confidence in each other? Maybe I'm just too old fashioned. Don't get me wrong I'm up for sex, enjoy it, have had my share of one night stands but it's not the be all and end all. There does not have to be this rush to get it over and done with.

On a lighter note it could be all a huge bluster of course and he could be a real stud between the sheets and he's been having a laugh all along.

Gotta Well def good luck. Look forward to the update.

Just had a text from mr Football saying he is happy we are now back on track, groan, oh this is going to end in tears

rioux Do you mean in person?

Min You make a lot of sense. Felt a lot of pressure with exh due to his negative attitude towards our sex life.
Maybe just second base :)

Yeah Rioux now know how scary I am lol

Good day yesterday till fell out with a mate he was just a text mate mate but still hurts

RioixVery funny, he always cracks me up.

Blossom oh dear.... Mr Football either seems to have the hide of a rhino or he really thinks you are made for each other...

I think, if you want it its time to stop the Ms Nice Woman side and be blunt and express your no interest!

Dolly

sorry to hear about your date... sadly some men are immature at 38 or any age. A bit of a shock having to go halves on the bill, I think I had that with one internet date ages ago and I was very unimpressed. He didn't get a 2nd date.

Also whats with the no manners after meeting you? Surely he could have said it was nice to have met you.

super think you are probably right. Sadly I think it is the latter, trouble with people without family this time of year can make them over sentimental.

"Surely he could have said it was nice to have met you."

Yes, after a hot date nothing shows enthusiasm more than the reply, "Er yeah, whatever."

I am intrigued about Jesy and Rioix have been dying to ask how the "mate date" went

I'm intrigued too Blossom; especially by Rioux's quote of, "Met Jesy yesterday too [big smile]"