The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Really Advice on MN was to be careful, everyone has two sides to them and in the beginning you mostly get the best.

has anyone had any trouble with the POF app? I have just realised it was showing me as online even when I wasn't!

Got a message on OK, older man looking for younger woman to spoil and become friends with, nothing serious. Odd lunch, dinner, drinks and the odd night or weekend away.
I replied No thankyou...seriously. And no picture so must be a married man looking for a bit on the side.
Not the kind of man I want to spend time with.

gotta I find OK weird, had one from young boy saying today "sex with me" lol. What do they expect oh yes please. Don't even respond to anyone without a photo
I am in communication with so many blokes right now am a bit getting confused, must be the time of year.

God, dating drives me mad.

Talking to a guy from POF for around 2 weeks, and we met up for coffee on the 27th Decmber. Got on well, liked him- great for me, I never like anyone enough for a second date. Second date two days later, and we had a lovely time. We met for 2 hours, endud up staying for 4. Made it quite clear he liked me too. He is single, no previous marriage, no kids, but a self confessed workaholic (I've never been married but I have DD who's 11, and plenty of ex baggage!). He seemed absolutely fine about everything, clarified he wasn't about to be dragged into a Jeremy Kyle situation, and that was that. Asked me to let him know when I was free again, and he would make time for me.

So, we're now 8 days later, and I've had 2 messages in that time. Nothing since Saturday. He told me sorry for the delay in messages, family visiting, could I see him this week. Yep, I'm free x and x, have fun with your family. Nothing since! Aaargghh!

I have sent him one last message today, at about half 9 this morning:
Hey stranger! Where you disappeared to? If you have decided not to see me again, not a problem, but I'd appreaciate a text to let me know. If you would like to see me, hurry up and arrange it already :P

No answer as of yet. I've deleted his number, there will be no more texts from me without reprociation. Gutted if he doesn't want to see me. Even more gutted if he doesn't get in touch. I had such a smile on my face after our date!

Sorry that was so long! Needed to get it all off my chest. My head is saying if he likes you, he would be in touch. My heart is saying I know he liked me too, so why isn't he doing it? I couldn't decide whether or not to text this morning, but I would kick myself if I didn't at least make that effort.

Rioux :) i probably wont learn anything new, this is very chartered territory :) and is very much like going back and holidaying in the same place.
He looks like a dark haired Kurt Cobain. It would be maybe a few weeks, a month max, Of crazy, intense, thrilling madness. And then id be left rather a bit upset.
That is probably adding to the sparks that have been flying all day, because i know i really shouldnt do.

However, its been maybe 2 years since i have got involved with someone like that, so its probably about time :)

Im just going to go for it, i have the rest of the year to be sensible!

Gotta- Doesnt sound all that great to be honest. Sounds like you have very cold feet.

Break, If he had wanted to have seen you, he would have organised it Dont chase someone who isnt chasing you, saves all the upset. You have text, now maybe just leave it.

Polly, when are your dates?

Met him Friday for a drink & had lunch on Sunday. I name him Mr Fur ... We'd only been messaging a week before meeting.

Break It is a funny time of year, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt, you have done the right thing and ball in his court. I would continue dating other people though. I had a similar thing not long before Xmas had a date and would have actually seen him again ( very rare for me to, don't seem to fancy anyone) after texting how much he thought I was hot and could not wait to meet again proceeded to vanish into thin air. His loss

Break Did you usually text more with each other but they died off on his part? He asked to see you so I would have took it he does want to, might just be rubbish at texting and organizing, which is no good to you obviously as you don't know where you stand - hence the, somewhat imo, insecure sounding text from you. It's only been two dates, I personally wouldn't have given him a prompt at this point.

Vintage- go shag his brains out, the chemistry sounds like it will be worth it to be honest!

Gotta to be honest, you don't seem overly keen on him anyway- do you have much in common?

Blossom Good luck for tomorrow- are you excited/nervous about it? It's normally a good sign for me if I am.

There will be no more texts from me without response, but I am very, very gutted about it. I'm not one of those people who gets carried away, but I totally have for this one. Trying to see the positives- even if he doesn't get in touch, I can use this as a yardstick for how I want to feel after a date. And I'm not dead on the inside, as I thought I might be- yay!

Hansle Not regular every day texting, but when we did speak it would be a conversation and/or a phone call. Gave him the benefit of the doubt as it has been Xmas/New Year. But he seems to make arrangements as if they are business appointments- make it a few days in advance, no checking in in between and turn up at the time and date specified, I have been assuming he was just doing that.

It's been two dates, I need to get my head screwed on right.

break I know what you mean about getting carried away I don't either. No not nervous or excited as such, learntnot to get my hopes up these days

I wouldn't be surprised Break if you do indeed hear from him, sounds like you like him so fingers crossed! It is a nightmare though, trying to second guess, I'm a 'put me out of my misery' kinda person too!!

Break, i think its the not knowing which makes it all a bit hard, you just want to know either way. I hope you do hear from him.

well, we have a skype date later, so, we will see. To be honest id probably be game for a one off even. Happy to throw my morals into the wind when i know it would be worth it. He probably knows this, men like that always do.

Break hope you hear from him but I think you're doing the right thing sending one text.

Go for it vintage :).

Good luck for tomorrow, blossom.

Avocado - I've heard of this, I did a bit of online searching about it today actually. As the guy I'm seeing (I'll call him Mr T) and I haven't deleted POF profiles but I've hidden mine. His profile says he goes online every day but that doesn't fit with the things he has said (and I never "see" him online, it just says he has been online that day). It especially doesn't make sense today in terms of what I know he has been doing. I'm 50% wary and 50% hopeful that he isn't chatting to/dating others. I feel better that there is a possible explanation anyway. When we (hopefully) next see eachother I'm going to try and mention it - no idea how though! Sorry - that was rather an epic way of saying yes, my research suggests the app can log you in either when messages come in or just when wifi kicks in. I deleted the app off my iphone as it was waking me up in the night with messages!

Blossom It's quite sad, isn't it, how much online dating takes out of you? I remember when I used to get nervous for first dates. Now I just seem to be able to tell when they walk in the door whether they will interest me or not, and have a reel of converstion topics to pull out if the conversation runs dry.

Vintage If he doesn't want to see me egain, that's absolutely fine- his choice! But just TEXT BACK ALREADY!!! It sounds like that one off might be worth throwing your morals away for the night for- just pop them in the cupboard for one night only!

Hansle If you'd asked me two days after the date if I thought I would hear from him again, I would have said definitely. He was more than keen, so I just don't get it. Actually, in all probablility, he's been at work for antisocial hours, hasn't wanted to text at an inappropriate time, and just put it out of his head. But it doesn't make it easier for me!

Break Most of us have our phone close and check our messages. Its not hard for a quick text back from the guy. I can find texting tedious sometimes but still reply to a text.

I like MT but still trying to find out what he's about before I write him off. Attraction is good between us but obviously there needs to be more.

Break said it before OLD is tiresome. I think it is a bit like a job interview you kind of know whether you want hire someoe within the first 10 minutes.
gotta Just give it time, best not to over think things for now.
Day 2 NC with X

Well just had a text from MR Lotus we had one date last summer and he got in touch before Xmas and have been texting since then. He has just texted me to ask me out on a date on Friday. Taking a deep breathe before replying.

Omg, im meeting him for a cuppa next week!