The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Hi

I'm not really dwelling, I don't see him last night was a mistake.

We nearly had a child together I Mc at 11 weeks. So there always going to be that.

I know he cheated on his last two gf , but I k ow he didn't with me asked his best mate who I do trust.

He was good to me but I doubt I'd go back to him .

Rioux Both would be good :)

gotta and docmartens

Well I think he is backing off and needs motivation (both your comments) I am very tempted to confront him but I've already put the ball in his court to contact me.

I think I'll leave it for now, maybe ask if he's interested later in the week so I can draw a line or not.

I am in touch with another man from the same site. Let's call him Mr Darkside (he isn't!). So far we've been emailing using the site and now he's offered me his mobile number to text. He works Saturdays (has Wednesday off) before I dated someone briefly who did this and I wasn't happy re time but it doesn't have to last forever the workdays and I'm hopefully thinking maybe he doesn't have the baggage of MSBE, the alcoholism (even though he's dry) was a slight concern to me!

gotta to be perfectly honest I'd date someone else as MT, he may come good may not but at least you have a backup plan.

I'm pleased that I'm messaging Mr Darkside too as it gives another option. I didn't do this with Kent lad or the other man so I'm pleased I've kept my options open.

There's nothing wrong with dating more than one person Americans (New Yorkers) do it a lot.

Super For me mentally it is probably better to not just date MT.The guy that contacted me on OK, call him Mr Acoustic, he's profile reads very open and interesting. I can see us having good varied conversation and not just about how great my bum is :)
MT had next to no info on his profile, still don't know that much about him except he's been single 6 months, 2 exp and two dc in 6 yrs.
Maybe one of our MN guys can comment, I don't think its a good sign that MT never asks me any Questions on dates about my kids or anything much. Mostly drooling over me and acting all loved up. Maybe he doesn't want the reality of my life. I want a man to take an interest in who I am. He goes on about going away for the weekend and stuff which I take no notice of. He's the one who was pushing for me to be his girlfriend, we do have very good sexual chemistry which I don't mind taking advantage of without the bull.

I cant go on Pof because we agreed to be exclusive, but I wouldn't sleep with two men at the same time, if you know what I mean:)

gotta its hard as the right person would probably say lots of lovely things but they can be red flags! I wouldn't worry about not having a neat reality - the right guy will handle it. Re: dating more than one guy, I find it best for me to just date one (from date 2 or 3 anyway) but I think you should do what is right for you.

gin, don't worry about when to dtd, I haven't found an issue yet and if a man tries to pressure you or isn't happy about it, then they are showing you they aren't right. Also, if you do just go with the momentum and do it earlier, don't worry either. Just do what you feel comfortable with at the time. If they have a sexist view that you have had sex too soon (but hold themselves to a different standard), that's also a good sign they aren't right imo.

My first relationship I waited a couple of months but found that it played with the momentum a bit for me - it sort of created chemistry that wasn't really there so since then, I've gone with the flow a bit more. For me, I think the right time is around date 10 (but did it on date 3 with latest guy!).

Rioux I have stated on my old profile that DIY skills are most desirable.

Still chatting with the inappropriate one, despite being at work. It's not so much as he is different to me, he is actually very much my type. Which is probably why there is such a spark. But i know that long term it wouldn't work as it's a bit unconventional and I have responsibility.

Vintage I would take that spark and see what happens, I quite like unconventional.

vintage , I agree with gotta - go with it, don't second guess too much at this early stage, if nothing else it's fun!

"He said a few things Sunday which gave me a glimpse of what I might not like in a man"

Like what Gotta?

Afternoon all hope you are all getting into the swing of NY

Gotta you seem to be cooling towards MT?
Jesy you ok?
Really NC is the way but no doubt he will find some else to cook for him, think he will miss me and then probably be too late

Well have date tomorrow night with a chap I have been messaging for a while, we spoke on the phone last night and he sounded really nice and on my level. Very hard to decide if I fancy him, latest picture looked really nice but I know from experience it is very hard to know until a F2F meet. ( not got a name for him yet)

Wow, this thread moves fast!
I agree with Doc Marten about the importance of moving on. Also, a man that slags off his current partner does not sound like a good person.
Gotta, are you cooling because of the red flags with MT (major tom?)
Good luck with date blossom.
Good name raspberry beret. I love prince. Finally saw him live last year and he was SO GOOD i nearly wet myself.

I have 2 dates organised from guardian... one with Mr Actor and one with Mr ireland. I know you said talk first, but I am going to go for 1 drink with each and see what it's like. I still feel like talking on the phone doesn't really tell me anything more than messaging. Plus I work from home on my main business and spend a lot of time on the phone in annoying conference calls. It's really put me off talking on the phone!

I like the American way & prefer to date more than one man at a time (greedy) but the men that I date don't like it. I think it's a case of double standards
My date from the weekend wants to introduce me to his parents. This makes me want to run a mile & I probably will do ...
Men are such a puzzle at times.

Imnot, how long have you been seeing him?

Thanks polly
imno I with you and happy to date several men at the same time, I one day when I meet someone special closing down my on line profiles would be such a good feeling.

Imnot
My date from the weekend wants to introduce me to his parents
After how many dates? Not just one?
Also curious to know if you mind them dating other people, I'm assuming you don't??

Blossom Hope it works out for you but enjoy your date in the mean time and hurry up with a name

Jesy New day today and some very good advice from everyone on this thread. Hope you are feeling better

Polly Good luck with your dates, I understand not wanting to phone(I spend my day on FB or PMing for work and don't want to do it at home) but I really believe you can get a feel for a person.

Gotta you have to do what feels right and something isn't feeling right with MT for you at the moment? Take other opportunities!

Super
works Saturdays (has Wednesday off) before I dated someone briefly who did this and I wasn't happy re time What would you expect timewise from someone you are dating? This is to anyone but just on the back of Super's comment!

Waves at everyone else

Argh, I know reallyme! I feel dead nervous about it.
Also have to say that now work has ramped up and new business is taking up rest of my time, not to forget 2 year old DS, I already feel like i have no headspace for this OLD dating malarky!
Does anyone else feel like that?

Polly, Blossom
I think I need to cool it with MT for my own sanity and like most have said, Actions speak louder than words. Also he's too much about the looks and lust which is fine for now but actually doesn't do anything for my confidence. Sunday he kept saying he Loved me, after a month of dating?
I do fancy him, physical attraction but not sure if he's sincere. He might be insecure about himself, his sexual anxiety is there a bit but not a big deal for me.
Someone mentioned gas lighting, coming on hard and strong but burning out fast.
immotMeeting the parents, how long have you been dating. He must like you loads.
Messaged Mr Acoustic a few times today, he seems interested in my life and interests, no mention of my looks :) But F2F is vital for chemistry.

Gotta time will tell, if MT is that into you he will give you space. It still is early days isn't it.
Really I know normally a name comes to mind, will think on it.

gotta I say trust your instincts... my last bloke was a bit like this. Really full on really quickly, then all of a sudden it ended just as quickly. No explanation, just "I don't feel the same way anymore". Cool things off a bit and see what happens.

polly totally get you , I run my own business too and 2 children under 5... dating is a bit of an inconvenience right now ... as my two free days every other weekend are now taken up with this guy .. While it's great at the time , I am constantly playing catch up !!