The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

I've only gone and joined Match!! I should have kept clear of this thread :)

I'm in a good mind atm as just curious and not that bothered if I meet someone or not, was just getting nagged into it by someone.

How much have other people paid for this? I didn't see any free trial and have joined for 1 month, cost £29.99. I will cancel after a month is up weather I meet anyone or not.

I was looking at £12.99 for 6 months.

If you chose to leave after one month and say its too expensive, they wll offer you a second month for half price.

Its rubbish in my area, so ive just done the free for 3 days thing. there wouldnt be enough men to subscribe for long.

For some reason they are not sending the activation email even though I've paid. Gah, I'll have to email them myself.

I'm kind of regretting signing up as I'd rather not pay and hate my photo being visible to non members who want to do a search for laughs etc as I know this is possible. Guess I'll just have to suck it up.

no no, dont. if you dont want it and dont read or use the email or wink thing. then they can cancel it and refund it.
but if you use any of the features then you cant.

Good luck arrow, I had 1 date off match. Endless boring emails about cr4p. Meet face to face in Lidl's is a nicer way, you get to see so much. Other establishments count.

Yes, I'm half expecting a load of dross. I'll stick it out for the month and report back if anyone suitable turns up.

Evening all, interesting to read everyones opinions about flirting/sexting...this is such a minefield and despite being OLD in birthdays I would hate to think I am being misinterepreted in any way e.g I said something totally innocent and it has a hidden meaning in the OLD or sexting world.

And I received my first nasty message today from a cancelled date (Now really feel part of the 'OLD world' Thank goodness I did cancel the date...

"Meet face to face in Lidl's is a nicer way, you get to see so much."

Wasn't there a time when supermarkets used to do a kind of "Thursday night is singles night!" thing in their shops, just for the one basket or small trolley people?

Haven't heard anything in recent years so I'll assume it was a temporary fad.

Also, what would be the single female equivalent of the a-single-man-has-no-Tampax-in-his-trolley? What does a single woman not have in her supermarket trolley?

really - welcome to OLD!! what did he say? I had the same from someone, and years later he still keeps re asking me out. I say no, not after i saw his temper and he assures me he has no temper and is a nice guy. Not so nice that i got a ton of swear words and told i was the scum of the earth.

Mademan, Gillette for men maybe?

Vintage his command of the English language was excellent considering it is his second language. Along the lines similar to you but ended with 'and I only wanted my cock sucked like I've had off all the other bitches'

Oh, nice. so very nice of him. Wanker.

honestly, its shit like that why i refuse to go along with ' the process' anymore.

i feel like ' the process' just leaves people in a position where they get hurt/ abuse/ unplesantness.

Are you ok?

Thanks Vintage I'm fine it just confirms that I made the right decision to cancel and also that to not OL date is the right decision for me at this moment in time.
I don't think I was as shocked as I might have been because of all the stuff I've read on this and previous threads.

Of course you made the right decision so you should applaud yourself on some pretty good instincts there.

Still shit though.

I'm not quite sure what's going on in my head.... I'm seeing my guy for the last 9 or so weeks.... This week I've become a bit meh about the whole thing... tonight he was due to call over dc were to be in bed , but one still awake. So I cancelled ... I don't know whether it's because the kids are here or I'm just going off him . We are meant to be going away for a weekend next month.....

It's the whole ' wouldn't say it to your face if you just met' thing again, isn't it.

To so many of these men, and it might be the same the other way round, but they don't see you as an actual person.

So they don't treat you as one.

The sexting, agressive responses. They wouldn't do that to a person but have no trouble doing that to a photo and a blurb.

Dippin, this is what dating is all about, finding out if you have a connection strong enough to go the course.

It's not unusual to get caught up with a guy being keen and then going off the idea. Don't do anything hasty but if you aint feeling it anymore, best to extract yourself.

aargh, this is what I hate about OLD- the fact that you can see when someone is online. So, I went online to show a friend a pic of the lovely bloke I had coffee with on fri and I'm seeing again this week... and his profile says 'online today' And I know he could have just been doing the same, and I know he's perfectly within his rights to go back online, we've only been on one date, but still, it just makes everything so... tense!!

Dont be too sure they wouldnt do that to someone in person vintage. Wonder how many of those types are listed on Claires Law.

She doesn't fancy you, she's not on your wave length, she thinks your a bit boring, Oh ok, I'll win her round by getting aggressive or calling her names, wtf!? Exactly!!
wouldn't say it to your face if you just met' thing again This is so true, going to keep remembering it if I venture in to OLD again.

Dont be too sure they wouldnt do that to someone in person

Well they might, but you would just walk (or run) away from it. And call the police if it started to involve rabbits etc.

In future if I try OLD again and someone says/messages something I wouldn't like to hear face to face, then that's it .