The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

I've been chatting to some one who call me bab but that just a local thing lol

Gotta - no idea when I'm seeing MSBE yet and as per your instructions not fishing either. May text him later.

That's a good idea with you and MT to spend proper weekend night with him, lunches to me always seem too short a period of time and DTD (daytime or otherwise) depends how long you string it out for.

jesy and gotta - yeah I know some people call you love as just general slang or whatever and the kisses I don't really mind, I suppose I'm just not used to it... I don't like or dislike it just think its a bit strange but what do I know?!

I dont recall saying that OLD is full of weirdos the reason that i wouldnt do it is that i couldnt deal with all the angst and the will he/wont he call shenanigans. Im not a person who deals with sudden changes well. And i wish ppl would read my posts properly. Im far from a smug marrried.

Hissy if you reread my post of 18.13 on 1st Jan you will see that im far from a smug married.

Anyway i dont belong on this thread so i will be leaving it now.

Rioux

Took your advice with Mr dog , it's his birthday so took a card up n some flowers lol only cheap but well it's thought

Question A friend advised me that its not worth investing my time with MT, she thinks it is odd that I haven't spent a weekend with him. He's had his kids and does taxi driving (Hope he doesn't read MN). I have been making myself available when its convenient for him, he's pencilled me I for a weekend this month and he's available Sunday for lunch and I'm sure he'll want afters at mine.
Am I being unfair to want to feel that he should be going out of his way to make time for me.
So far its been meeting him in the day, back to mine for intimacy and he's off for his taxi job. Loads of texting but not one telephone conversation yet. Getting fed up with all the talk and I Love you texts, kind of getting bored with it.
Not sure I should just tell him in not happy and think something is not right or get back on old and just see him for sex and take his declarations of love and me being his world as talk if a man in lust.
I like him but don't think I can mentally commit with all this lack of seeing him.

Did want to give him benefit of doubt it being a busy month that we started dating with Xmas and New Year.
RiouxI remember you mentioning a Friday night or Saturday girl, So far I have been a Wednesday and Sunday lunch girl plus on Saturday daytime.

gotta if that's mrt's job then it has to be expected that he is not available weekend nights... I presume he gets more money working those nights.
myself and my guy don't talk on the phone either... but I generally don't like talking on the phone at all.
I get the getting bored with texts and declarations of love... This last week I haven't had time to text as much and meeting has been tricky... but I'm not missing him yet (good or bad sign I don't know ) .... life , xmas and new year has gotten in the way. I've been so used to not having to find time to fit someone in , that now having to constantly find time is getting exhausting ! maybe it's just the post xmas tiredness !!

giving a man flowers works lol

As well as a couple of relationships, I have met some nice guys but-not-for-me on OLD & I'm afraid some weirdos too despite my filtering...

For all of you saying its hard in yr 40s or 30s - you should try it in yr 50s! I would like to meet a likeminded man close to my age but it seems most of them are looking for a much younger woman [& still looking much later if the presence of their profiles is anything to go on...]

A column started in the guardian a few weeks back (Nancy Grey?) which pretty much mirrors my experience & that of a friend in another part of the country

So, although I am still dating in principle, I have really lost heart :(

Dippin Going to see how things go this month with MT, going to try and not overthink things, something I do a lot.
He's more in lust than love but I know that's how a lot of relationships start, he keeps saying he's in love but i will take no notice. Love is something that keeps you with someone when their quirks and faults become clear once lust calms down.

gotta I wouldn't overthink this either or rule out Mr T completely. Yes a lot of men do think they're more in lust than in love and he's an adult and can decide how he feels when his lust calms down, also there's nothing wrong with lust either (chemistry?) as it proves you fancy the other. trust me I've been in relationships with no/little chemistry and it's no fun at all.

It is true lust is how a lot of relationships start too... it the basis of rules for attraction.

I.M in my 5oth year and looking for a younger partner , the reason for this is I want to have children. I have in the past dated older women. Age is irrelevent to me it's the feeling you get that is important.
Eg: fell in love with a friend who is 20 years younger, and latter part of 2014 fell for a member of our social group who was 20 years older . Neither felt the same. Hence still looking.

Super Still trying to work out what's acceptable behaviour from men, did ignore his sexting today because I'm not in the mood, he's very sexual and due to the lack of sexual chemistry with exh, its a bit overwhelming.
Your right, being in a relationship without chemistry/Sex is not good.

RiouxGoing to keep seeing MT and see how it goes, going to try very hard to not get drawn in until I know more about MT. I find it hard to detach, I like to go with my emotions which can result In some awkward situations and bad decisions.

gotta just briefly as on train but I'm like you I find it hard to detach and tend to go with my emotions too which like you has been awkward in the past....

Sometimes I feel like an overgrown teenager re love but then again if it's part of my/your persona I can only help that so much and change it so much, eh?

Aha Rioux maybe you speak sense re holding off until gotta knows MTs intentions and there is no rush!

Hi all - I hope I'm ok to keep checking in. I'm just getting to grips with all the acronyms on here but hope everyone's had a good day.

Could I ask - how common is it, in your experience, for people to lie? Not massive, totally fake persona-type lies, but exaggerating?

I agree rioux you have to do other normal things together other than dtd the whole time.