The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Sorry im not a dater so probably shouldnt be posting on this thread but i agree with Super Fly. Red Flag.

Gotta you started another thread about this bloke on this board. So at the back of your mind there must be a little niggle there.
You had some great advice on there.

Rioux

It's all gone a bit mad, Mr dog still about but not convinced that anything will happen.
Then there date today , I think it a case of we will see he nice enough seems honest .
Then to add to the fun , my ex texted me last night , we broke up two years ago remained friends , to friendly on occasion, but he split with the financee and so lot of counselling off me for him and he suggested that he try n find me a dste lol

Super

He knows about the black eye , I'd posted something on fB about and he texted saying let me guess we're you drunk and playing with that rope toy u got her.
Scary he New me like that lol

The eye covers up well it not swollen just dark mark .

Rioux MT does come on strong and he's sexual anxiety hasn't been a problem for us. We do get on, spent time together and bumped into a few of his friends out and about.
I love you thing did throw me, but I come from a family and exh who don't show much love or affection.
Right now I cant find fault in the way he treats me, he's a real gentleman and always wants to help.
I am being myself around him, had a terrible hangover when he last visited me and he looked after me.
I will admit he's acting very smitten and isn't holding back but I am the type to hold back and not want to let my barriers down and get hurt.
He's cooled off slightly but gets all excited again.
From reading threads on MN, the chances of me getting involved with the wrong type if man are high. If MT turns out to be the wrong type and I end up hurt then it will be a lesson for me.
I really don't want to live with the attitude that all men are no good or end up thinking that.

Hello all -- regular reader , occasional poster here...hope Christmas for you all went as well as could be...
Last time I posted I had a arranged a date with someone I met in RL. Then I cancelled as I decided I just wasn't ready for the dating game.
Fast forward a few weeks and I finally set up an OL dating profile thanks to the helpful advice from this thread.
I have already had a few propositions, gosh people are very forward!! But I am chatting to two very different men and have arranged to meet both this week (not at the same time , of course )
In spirit with this thread I will call the first one Mr HT (home town). He is very local (very small town) , in fact this is the part that I find most off putting. At some point we are going to have friends/aquaintances in common and I would prefer to keep my business to myself at the moment- nothing to hide just would prefer to discuss things at my own pace and not hear or be heard from someone else. We have lot in common on paper and he writes well ,not using text speak...He is quite witty and has no children (part of my search criteria)-likes dogs.
Mr A (auditor) on the other hand is as new to the game as me, very recently separated (a little too recent), quite shy and has three children in the mid to late teens (still not sure how he turned up on my matches list). He uses too many 'lols' and 'u', isn't' great at asking questions but for some reason I feel more of an affinity with him...Of course it is all nonsense until we meet up face to face and they could both hate me !!
So fellow daters, the nerves are kicking in as these will be the first dates in 20 years...reassure me...

Really

I'm also in a,small town and I have that trouble every one seems to know every one else,
Even looking on my date today fb page I've seen he knows some one else I've chatted to and having a nose at his pictures I recognised a football mate of Mr it .
I nearly called today off coz of it it then thought it's inevitable that ppl will know each other.
It's like on a date with Mr IT in summer and well bumped into a girl I'd not seen in 20 years lol

Thanks Jesy , I hope your poor face is feeling better?

I am still uncertain but on a positive note Mr HT doesn't drink so our first date is out of town walking the dogs

Good luck with your date today

Really

Thanks not sure about it all tbh
Last night spent ages te ting my first love then ended up crying as I missed what we had .
Even he said we should have had more nights out ect , we like an oap couple at times.
I was devastated when he told nephews getting married but now it over I just want to shake the ex gf and tell she a fool
I'm not saying perfect he not but he hard working and loves his kid.

I think nerves are getting. Better of me for today first time yet again and that why suddenly want ex back lol

Jesy keep calm and think of how easy you have chatted to him (via text etc?). A first date is just an extension of that...

(Says me who hasn't had a first date if forever )

Are you going somewhere nice? Have you planned what you are wearing? Give your dog a long walk Keep busy until it is time to go.

First love is always hard to get over, is there no chance of trying again now he is single again?

Rioux Just love my small town normally but feel that I need a break from the usual...until I know if dating in general is the right thing for me at this time I would prefer to keep things light and private. Funny really as I am usually a pretty open book...

Could be fun meeting both at the same time but even funnier if they hit it off with each other (as mates) better than with me...

At this moment in time I still feel a bit confused, although I have a fantastic circle of friends and family, am I looking for more? Or just feel the urge to make new friends who know me now, not the person I feel I have been for the past years...

Clichéd I know, but I still feel like I am finding myself...

Mr HT has text a couple of light hearted messages today which are sweet and of course being off work I have time on my hands.

Really I am in a village not even a town so tend avoid people very local, though wow it would be more convenient.

Blossom I will count myself lucky then but yes would be very convenient. Do you find you have to travel quite a lot for dates?

Really I tend to make them meet me in the next village, lol. Have had to put wrong village on the profile otherwise I would be too worried in case I encountered any weirdos.

Blossom I have arranged to meet Mr A in a nearby town. And have only put a very broad area (ie.county) on my profile. It is as much to do with my job as anything else too.

Took my dog out before and felt like I was peering round corners in case I bumped into Mr HT (am in my scruffs, no make up etc) and would like to make a good first impression.

Rioux sounds like you have the same problem as me. Actually saw someone on OLD in same village, just could not make contact as could be rather awkward in the future. It is a small world. I have a feeling you are in the same neck of the woods as me.

No South West Actually. Full of farmers and cider drinkers lol

Rioux Thought we were LOL
Have agreed to spend NYE with my X duh, had an offer to meet MR Lotus but would meaning going to his and not that comfortable about that.

Rioux Yea why not some time, you have already broken the Thread rules, lol. Private message me where you are if you like.