The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Hope everyone has had a good Xmas, had a very civil day with ex over.
Had a lovely Xmas eve with MT, we had lunch and he went round shops with me. Not use to a man dragging along and holding my bags, made a nice change.
Anyone got opinions o kissing in public, MT cant seem to stop touching and kissing. I'm not use to it, ex was a cold fish.
Rioux I am also scared of loving again, took me a Lon time to come to terms with my exh lack of love for me. Very cautious with MT which probably hinders things.

Rioux yeah I know what you're saying re hurt.

However this man read my honest profile and seems to be serious and wants what I want kids etc. I get he's apprehensive I am too and we barely know each other but I can't cope if he's holding back due to his ex how can I compete etc? I'm prob overthinking this have also had a few g&ts today so a bit tipsy too.

Also I have a habit of not being mysterious any ideas on that?

I've been logging onto smooch again arranged to meet someone else too. How do you get rid of people who really want to meet? Nice enough man a bit pushy and I don't think he's my type he begs to differ tho. So I hope mr sexy blue eyes won't mind I've been on there he did notice I was checking out his profile the other day (to remind what he'd said) but men don't care about that or do they?!

gotta glad you've had a good Christmas.

I think if you've been married etc with a lack of love then you're bound to be cautious. Natural. And would take time to be less cautious.

super Just read about Mr Sexy and his comments on ex. I don't think it was fair of him to say that. We all know that if you like someone then you don't talk about the ex, its not respectful unless you asked?
I am not going to tell MT that my ex was my first true love and That I don't think anyone will know me the way he does or share so many mutual interests, but he's my ex for a reason and we don't work as a couple anymore. I also won't slag my ex off to MT, its just not a good thing to do.
I think its a good sign that Mr Sexy didn't slag of his ex, he wouldn't be talking to you if really thought he'd never find someone to feel something about. He's fear is one most have after a break up, i thought it myself. Who would except my good and bad sides like my ex.

I would not focus too much on what he said, avoid the subject in future conversations. Did he have children with his ex ?
I have to see my ex due to dc, MT knew my ex was over for Xmas, accidentally i called my exh darling, we both just cracked up laughing :)

If he wants children then that's good right? I made it clear to MT that i don't want more children and he felt the same, its important to know this.

Rioux and gotta yes the ex thing came up briefly only and I don't think he meant to mention her it was what he was saying that led him onto the topic of her. I think I will avoid the topic as you say gotta but should I never bring it up? I don't want her sceptre to hold us back and would think about moving on so early if that was the case but I think I will take it easy for now, 2nd date tomorrow.

I do appreciate what you said about his fear though maybe in a sense it's good he's felt comfy enough to open up in that way with me.

He didn't have children with his ex. And he does want them in future which is good. Whether bio for me or otherwise I'm happy to adopt lol but that topic can wait!

He didn't slag off his ex (mentioned Kent lad as he asked on 1st date and I think I kept that one brief and nice about Kent lad lol) which is good on his profile he talks about importance of talking things through in r'ships which is mature.

Rioux I totally agree with your comments re you had love and will it be returned. We all think that way I think. I did v briefly mention to Mr Sexy that I'd had my heart broken on earlier this year and he acknowledged that (1 line text) but it was after his disclosure about his ex and I did briefly want to make the general point to him that I'd been hurt etc... But we moved on!

Tomorrow it's drinks/food and play I think with him. The guy I'm seeing tonight Rioux he is a bit like yours a mate date I don't really fancy him we have dated I think he thinks he can break me down but no harm trying! And got date for next Tuesday am definitely keeping options open!

Morning daters.

So my date with Mr F got cancelled, by him on Monday night which was a bit disappointing but his reason seemed genuine. We did meet up the following day for a coffee instead. We were texting on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day and he was really communicative but no mention of making firm plans to meet up again.

I sent the last text on Xmas day in the evening, and assumed I would hear back the following day, but still nothing.

Should I drop him a text, or should I leave it now? One part of me thinks, if he's keen/interested he will get in touch. Another part of me thinks, we've been on a few dates, up until Monday it was all very positive and he's been in regular contact, so it's worth just sending him another text.

The stupid thing is, I'm not even sure how much I like him, but of course as soon as someone backs off a bit, it makes you feel like you like them more!

What dating site would u suggest I'm 48 female been married twice & have 4 grown up children & a 5 year old DD ?

All was going well with MT, spent a lovely day together yesterday and I let myself see the possibility of opening up my feelings. But later that day he sent me a text saying he was in love with me. I didn't text back that I was in love with him but said I could see myself falling for him.
Love is a big thing for me to say and I'm trying to be careful with MT.
Today he's really cooled off and I was starting to really like him but knew it was too much to soon with him being so ott.
Feel a bit down now but I shouldn't of got carried away, if something seems too good to be true and all that.

Hello All, hope you all had a lovely Xmas. No dating for me, X came over on Xmas Eve and had just left, We had a lovely time but we are not a couple and no future discussed, is all very strange.
logan I am 49 use POF, Match and PlentyMorefish, found OKcupid full of young boys and weirdos.
gotta re MT MT sounds great

gotta MT in love after a few dates? Crickey that's a bit ott in my mind. He cannot even know a tiny bit if what makes you you in that amount of time. Don't forget about being put on that pedastal then falling off!

Hi

Well I have a date tomorrow , I'm not 100% sure but he seems nice, we been texting for a couple weeks and he seems for real.
I woke to a text this am from him saying I'll make sure you get home ok as I was worried about getting home

Bit self conscious as I have a black eye n cut face but he say not to worry
Bot sure what to wear tbh it's just drinks killing cope with food but do t want to look silly in a coat if goes past one drink

Jesy Did I miss something how on earth did you get a black eye?

Blossom

I was playing with the dog as nd she ran into me cut my nose and gave me a black eye. Nothing nasty just just lively dog and her mum being tipsy xxxxx

I am thinking of arranging to meet MR Lotus on New Years Eve, I have had a couple of offers but being single and everyone else are couples makes me really sad. Think I would rather spend with a virtual stranger. Am I being totally mental?

Tortillas any news from Mr F yet? I hope I'm wrong for you but I've found that when they go silent it doesn't bode well...

broken No I would not contact him. Let him do the running but only if your happy with the FWB situation.

No, no broken, do NOT text him! He's flakey and you deserve better. Come on, they're ten a penny, these blokes. If you want more and you're prepared to take a load of shit for it, it's never going to end well.

Ok glad everyone had a good Christmas jesy that's great about your date and I wouldn't worry meeting your date with black eye just enjoy and explain if he asks!

broken I'd give same advice as blossom gave.

gotta I've got to say its way way too soon for MT to say he loves you and to be blunt for me that'd be a red flag. He can think it but why say it?

Me - well I saw Mr Sexy Blue Eyes for our 2nd date (lots of texting tho) and we Dtd. It was sort of planned but no pressure. It was amazing we had seen a film earlier and got cuddly and I spent the day with him at his place today.

V interesting on 1st date but I hadn't taken it in he's a 12 year recovering alcoholic but he goes to meetings and he's teetotal. He told me a bit about it and my dad was an alcoholic too but I feel relieved he's come through it and faced his demons.

He did mention he was a bit of a wreck relationship wise (due to his ex) and told me a bit (we swapped ex stories briefly today) about her and it's def over and he wants a relationship and wants to work through any problems etc and talk has words to this effect on his profile. Has anyone got advice or experience re mine with him? I do like him a lot. Have got a backup date lined up and still messaging men as I don't want to put all my eggs into 1 basket with this man.

He texted it was good to spend time together wants to see me again I just think we'll have to take it day by day generally and I must reread Rules of Thread and not invest too much too soon. But he does make me smile and feel happy which is great. And total opposite of Kent Lad who I told him about.

Blossom Min Been on 7 dates and DTD 3 times, got great sexual chemistry and I feel comfortable with him and he's very sweet. He's very passionate and seems to express it a lot. I'm just at the stage where I'm feeling nervous about feeling something.