The Dating Thread 84.

[MadeMan]

Well, fancy seeing you here.

Quick update, coffee date today was really nice (does that count as a 3rd date?) Out for dinner tomorrow night. Can't quite believe it's still going on

I did
Wasn't there long but asked him about his daughter n cooking , played ball with the dog

Rioux not sure that everyone's easy topic is talking about themselves - I might clam up if put on the spot but would eventually get there after talking more generally e.g. bands I like (or is this what you meant?)
However I have been put off on several first & only dates by men who talked about themselves ALL evening & never asked me anything...and could not be dissuaded...one said as we were leaving "but I feel I know nothing about you(!)" but by then I knew all about his wife, his heartbreak over previous "girlfriend (she was married) who broke it off and the names of several kids in his class....he later complained he had been late for his train but I had been trying to leave for ages but couldn't get a word in

Hi everyone, I'm rejoining this thread after splitting up with the man I met on POF in August.

Ocelot, I agree that there are few things worse than going on a date where the other person talks about themselves all night. It really puts me off someone.

Jesy and Tortillas, I'm glad your dates today went well.

On a positive point, Had a great date with MT on my terms. He's very sweet and I can imagine a women taking the P because he wears his heart on his sleeve. He's is very intelligent and conversation was great, and we both equally spoke about ourselves. Second time dtd was very good :) I do feel like I can be myself around MT.
My exh asked if I was having a midlife crisis due to dying my hair, he's not changed and i felt rather sad about it.

Gotta that's all good - glad you didn't already give up on MT...hopefully he just is really nice :)

Ocelot Thanks, when I look at MT I can see a genuine man. Did ask loads of Questions regarding exp and he didn't stall. Going to see how it goes.

brilliant gotta sometimes there are just some really nice guys out there !! so glad dtd was good and you spoke etc.
I met my guy last night... We exchanged pressies for xmas and it's all pretty great. He is full of compliments and I find it hard to get my head around due to exh. maybe it's our turn to be happy.

I am clearly far too good at asking leading questions! It's part of the day job where I have developed the capacity to find a Q to ask in all circs....

I agree Rioux...though some people seem to find it so... have to say I have never discussed minecraft on a date(!) I'd have to ask "what is it?" as have only the vaguest idea :)

Ah - I get it now! No, minecraft passed us by - it was all "Age of Empires" here when my son was younger...
I was thinking of snowleopard but that was taken so ocelot was my next choice :)

Hi All, its been a while since I posted due to lack of action on the dating front, but i have been lurking and keeping up to date with you lot. I don't know if anyone remembers me and Mr Farter LOL,
Well after a couple of months of nothing happening on the OLD front I was ready to give up, my Match subsciption runs out next week and I decided to give it a rest for a while. Anyway the other night I clicked on someones profile by accident, this guy had viewed my profile a few times but but I don't know why but I have never looked at his. He sent me a message, we got chatting turns out he lives in the same town as me. We met up today for a coffee, chatted away for 2 hours and meeting him tomorrow for drinks. We have loads in common, he has texted me lots this evening. So fingers crossed for me guys I've got a good feeling about this one ( part of me is wary that he'll turn out to be a mad stalker ....just my luck). I'll have a read through the thread so I'm up to date with you all XX

Rioux but I'd still clam up if you asked me something personal :)
I remember you steelchic but if action on the dating front was a prerequisite I'd never get to post … though not for want of (some) trying...

I know what you mean Ocelot, but I have popped in now and then :)

:) Rioux I'm very far oop norf though...and anyway - haven't you already broken a dating thread rule thus?! :)

Gotta hey great news about MT.
steel welcome back, your date sounds promising.

Well date with MR Builder did not happen, he simply vanished and I am not going to chase him. MR Football has got the message and leaving me alone now. Am back in touch with MR Lotus, we had a date in the summer, we just never managed to get it tog, he wants to meet up again. He is very much on my level and makes me laugh, so will see. Trouble is have so little time over Xmas.

I went on a date with someone I got speaking to on pof, we had texted for a few weeks first.. I like him, but godddd dating is AWKWARD! He is keen to see me again, and I am too, but just the whole awkwardness I can't cope with it.

I think it was more my own hang ups on not knowing what to do, been in a LTR for 6 years and am only 26 so not really sure how it works (this was my first date ever too!)... Do I try again and hope it will be less awkward next time? Or should it not have felt awkward if we are compatible.

Blossom Mr Builder's loss! Good luck with Mr Lotus.

Blahdeblah This sounds promising. Things can feel awkward, but that can be kind of sweet. I would definitely meet him again, maybe do something fun so you can chat but also there's other stuff going on to alleviate the awkwardness (bowling?).