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a hole different kind of sex

174 replies

snoopdoggy · 08/12/2014 23:03

I don't like olives. let one slip in once in a mouthful. find them the most revolting food anyone could eat. But yet others find them delicious. Maybe my tastebuds are unadventurous. You could advise me to try them in a variety of ways scenarios , but I wouldn't believe you and stay ignorant to this delicacy....

So if we all have different tastes and if:

It's a given that loving sex is the best kind of sex and we all feelclose and intimate.

It's a given that some couples want to spice up their sex life by introducing toys/positions/clothing/massage/s&mand likes. Intimate but fun between consensual adults.

It's a given that some couples want to try threesomes/swing etc. and say if you have a good solid trustworthy relationship this can keep a relationship healthy and long lasting.

But anal sex is something that from the boards here I am feeling that is a violation and unnatural. That it is the man that would primarily want this. Is this the general consensus or a delicacy that you just don't want to try ever.

OP posts:
Squtternutbaush · 08/12/2014 23:41

As long as both participants are up for it I don't see any issue with anal or any other sex act, neither do I see it as demeaning to women or unnatural.

I actually pushed the idea of trying it out with my DH and we decided to give it a go but neither of us are keen to try it again.

sillymillyb · 08/12/2014 23:42

I bet Brian from hull does a lovely Buffett Grin

TrousersSchmowsers · 08/12/2014 23:43

Hope he's washed his hands first though sillymilly

AuntieStella · 08/12/2014 23:44

Anyone else remember the beautifully illustrated thread called 'I've worked out how to do bumsex"?

I think it must have been in chat, because I can't find it

planetrees · 08/12/2014 23:44

What about haemorrhoids OP, do they add or subtract from the enjoyment would you say?

Shonasnowqueen · 08/12/2014 23:45

'trying the olive' ! that's a new one on me...

Shonasnowqueen · 08/12/2014 23:46

trying the olive should I say

MadeMan · 08/12/2014 23:48

"Anyone else remember the beautifully illustrated thread called 'I've worked out how to do bumsex"?"

Was it illustrated in a Quentin Blake sort of way?

Original poster
snoopdoggy · 08/12/2014 23:49

trousers. why do you assume i am a man.
This is what i mean when i refer to another post. there are alot of assumptions on mumsnet and people jump to conclusions randomly. I made it light hearted so that any responses wouldn't take offense and also wouldn't just assume xyz. I wanted to do a like to like in that some things people try once and say no to and never try again and could be wrong.
I am a woman. I am normal and enjoy intimate 'normal' sex.I have tried it on ocassions. At first i hated it.
But i met a man who was gentle and loving. As a poster up there said about friends of hers. He changed my opinion on it and for me it felt good.
so now there my opinion on it. But i think i am in a minority and wondered do many feel different/same.
thank you to those who did respond objectively and personally also.

OP posts:
Mrsmorton · 08/12/2014 23:50

Is english your first language? You write ever so formally...

TrousersSchmowsers · 08/12/2014 23:50

It's interesting to me, the differences between the way men and women talk about sex. Men are much more likely to use quaint little phrases, euphemisms, off-colour puns and jokey metaphors than women. I think they think it charms us. I think it makes them sound terrified.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 08/12/2014 23:51

OP writes like a man trying to write like a woman

ImFineThankYouSusan · 08/12/2014 23:52

Given how the OP types, I thought that the 'hole' in the title was a deliberate play on words rather than a typo.

Shonasnowqueen · 08/12/2014 23:53

I don't think snoopdoggy sounds like a man...

Lweji · 08/12/2014 23:53

This is one of those threads where you wonder what it is about.
You didn't like olives before, but you tried them with a gentle man and now you like them, at least with him.
Fine.
So...
Are you saying we should all try olives?

TrousersSchmowsers · 08/12/2014 23:54

This is Mumsnet. We can handle "Who takes it up the arse and enjoys it?"

ItIsSmallerOnTheOutside · 08/12/2014 23:54

All I want to know is, was the spelling of 'hole' in the title intentional or not?

Shonasnowqueen · 08/12/2014 23:55

Grin we should all try olives but only with a gentle man!

Shonasnowqueen · 08/12/2014 23:56

course the hole was intentional !

MadeMan · 08/12/2014 23:56

Also, are we talking about the black olives on pizzas, or the pimento stuffed olives in jars?

Lweji · 08/12/2014 23:56

At least stuffed olives.

I wouldn't add garlic, although I supposed they could be spiced off a bit.

Lweji · 08/12/2014 23:57

Ups, I suppose.

sillymillyb · 08/12/2014 23:58

Ooh, I'm wincing at the thought of chilli olives ConfusedConfused

planetrees · 08/12/2014 23:59

I read a post on here once where the woman and her DH enjoyed regular straightforward vanilla sex. It did everything it needed to do, it sounded lovely, they sounded lovely. Ahhhhh.

Shonasnowqueen · 08/12/2014 23:59

well I think if we are going to try them we should at least try the spicy stuffed ones

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