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Do you think he likes me..?

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 02/12/2014 20:29

I know, I know... I'm not 15 really... I don't even know if I want him to. I'm currently resolutely single. But I am curious as to what you make of this, if anything. Largely just because I'm trying to understand the signs and signals of this sort of thing and need to know if there are any here. Or not.

I'm aware it isn't really very much of anything written down, and that much of this sort of thing is in the subtle nuances of non verbal communication/body language/expression that I can't convey here, but here goes...

I started a job earlier in the year and share an office with a colleague. There is a man who comes into our workplace twice weekly for a couple of hours at a time to work with clients. He's been coming in for a while, but our paths have only crossed since August.

He always pops into our office for a chat. I don't think he flirts with me, but he and I have definitely had chats that have recently become more personal (not really intimate, and certainly not 'inappropriate', although we have shared aspects of our personal lives. Eg. I know he's single and has a child), whereas his chats with my colleague don't ever leave the professional realm (we work in a 'caring profession' so a lot of the professional chat is quite 'emotional' and emotive anyway). When I am not in the office they chat, but she always tells me that he has asked after me. When she's not in we chat, but he doesn't ever ask after her.

About a month ago, he brought in a couple of books to lend me that he thought I'd be interested in based on a chat we'd had the week before. I didn't know he was going to do this. And last week, he gave me a daft little 'gift'. No great effort was involved, it was more of a 'token' than anything. But still, he did it. There was a small amount of good natured teasing, too, but that was it. My colleague teases me with mock indignation that he has 'forgotten' her...

So that's it really. What do you make of it? Just friendly, or could he be interested? (Be honest, but kind - feeling very fragile and uncertain of this sort of thing at the moment! Thanks)

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Momagain1 · 26/06/2015 20:37

The age difference doesnt matter if you are both legal adults. Anyone (who isnt either of you) who would fuss about it would probably find something else to fuss about if age wasnt available.

He waited, and kept intouch after being too slow moving before.

In my mind, a man who beings books is always worth at least a date.

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Twinklestein · 26/06/2015 20:39

Maybe he's just into you. Wink

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RuddyHellItsSoftCell · 26/06/2015 20:42

What a lovely thread

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lilacmamacat · 26/06/2015 20:43

My OH is 7 years younger than me and you'd never know it, and we never feel it. It's him-and-me, not younger-man-and-older-woman. If it feels right, go with it and enjoy it.
And yes, he does like you Smile

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 26/06/2015 20:46

Squeeeeee!!!

Ahem. Sorry!

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IfNotNowThenWhen · 26/06/2015 21:00
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Jenoftheweek · 26/06/2015 21:42

Yay!!
I hope you have a fabulous day.

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CookieLady · 26/06/2015 22:07

Have a wonderful date!

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 26/06/2015 23:10

Ruddy I hope you're right...

IfNotNow I 'know' you under my usual name. Way to lower the tone!! Wink

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 26/06/2015 23:13

Oh bugger...

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ChristinaTweet · 27/06/2015 00:11

dear me...

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MadeMan · 27/06/2015 01:24

Blimey, I remember this thread!

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mrstweefromtweesville · 27/06/2015 02:54

Oh, bless you! I was really cynical when I was reading in December, but I'm so glad that you have a date (I'd say its a date!) arranged. Have a wonderful time.

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MissingToy2015 · 27/06/2015 08:01

YES! You lucky thing!

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IfNotNowThenWhen · 27/06/2015 10:04

S'ma job Smile

Wait...what?! Confused

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IfNotNowThenWhen · 27/06/2015 10:06

Oh, sorry, I'm with you now!
Even more yay!

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 27/06/2015 10:24

And it doesn't matter if there's little/no contact in between now amd then?

I mean, it's certainly not an issue for me.

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 27/06/2015 10:27

God, I've convinced myself he's reading the relationships board on mumsnet now and is shaking his head and working out how to cancel! Haha!

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MadeMan · 27/06/2015 11:18

Well if he is reading this thread, then it'll be your fault for digging the thread up again.

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dirtycarpet · 16/07/2015 12:43

Any update?

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circleskirt · 16/07/2015 13:59

OP's busy. Wink

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lilacmamacat · 16/07/2015 14:57

Oh! I can't wait to hear what's going on. Too. Much. Tension.

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DoesThisMeanAnything · 16/07/2015 18:47

Ah well... I nearly updated and then didn't because I thought it just sounded ridiculous Sad

He messaged me a couple of days beforehand to cancel.

He gave me a lot of bs about how he found me really attractive, but that his head was not in the right place to start anything, some stuff about his life being complicated... and he hoped I'd understand...

I do.

I think we all know what that means, don't we?

I call married man gets a conscience/busted.

Just a bit disappointed that he turned out to be no different to all the rest. One more on the 'shit men' pile then. Oh well.

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MadeMan · 16/07/2015 19:31

That's a shame, Does.

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lilacmamacat · 16/07/2015 19:38

Not necessarily. Perhaps he is a really genuine guy who got more and more anxious about meeting you and the pressure of a 'date'. Did he say he is married? (Sorry it's ages since I read the whole thread Blush) How did you end it? With total finality, or open ended? Perhaps you can meet for a coffee some time or other?

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