Do you think he likes me..?

[DoesThisMeanAnything]

I know, I know... I'm not 15 really... I don't even know if I want him to. I'm currently resolutely single. But I am curious as to what you make of this, if anything. Largely just because I'm trying to understand the signs and signals of this sort of thing and need to know if there are any here. Or not.

I'm aware it isn't really very much of anything written down, and that much of this sort of thing is in the subtle nuances of non verbal communication/body language/expression that I can't convey here, but here goes...

I started a job earlier in the year and share an office with a colleague. There is a man who comes into our workplace twice weekly for a couple of hours at a time to work with clients. He's been coming in for a while, but our paths have only crossed since August.

He always pops into our office for a chat. I don't think he flirts with me, but he and I have definitely had chats that have recently become more personal (not really intimate, and certainly not 'inappropriate', although we have shared aspects of our personal lives. Eg. I know he's single and has a child), whereas his chats with my colleague don't ever leave the professional realm (we work in a 'caring profession' so a lot of the professional chat is quite 'emotional' and emotive anyway). When I am not in the office they chat, but she always tells me that he has asked after me. When she's not in we chat, but he doesn't ever ask after her.

About a month ago, he brought in a couple of books to lend me that he thought I'd be interested in based on a chat we'd had the week before. I didn't know he was going to do this. And last week, he gave me a daft little 'gift'. No great effort was involved, it was more of a 'token' than anything. But still, he did it. There was a small amount of good natured teasing, too, but that was it. My colleague teases me with mock indignation that he has 'forgotten' her...

So that's it really. What do you make of it? Just friendly, or could he be interested? (Be honest, but kind - feeling very fragile and uncertain of this sort of thing at the moment! Thanks)

Noooo, don't over think and panic, I have a good feeling for you plus I have all my fingers crossed and I have promised myself a bottle of Barolo if you get a date.

Ooh, I shall join you in a bottle of Barolo.

I'd better make sure it happens then. And that it's worth it!

Crack on Does

That's because I am OP. He brings you books without being asked, asks after you (& only you) when your're not there and gives you a (daft) gift. He likes you.

Now I'm getting worried OP might break Nice Man's heart!

Ooooh!

doesthismean and the man sitting in a tree K-I-S-S-I-N-G<

He likes you

Don't worry Cate. There will be no heart breaking here. I really only wanted to know if people thought he might like me. I don't know about myself yet - although I do like him. Whether I 'like' him or not would actually be the smallest consideration. Not sure whether I'm ready to take a chance on someone yet!

He's not really my type (he seems quite sophisticated and I'm a bit of a hippy at heart) but that might not be such a bad thing...

And I think he's younger than me...

Don't worry about that OP. DH is upper middle and I am common as muck stout country yeoman stock. We lurves each other though!

Gelf thank you. That made me, er, lol.

I've decided I'm going to say something the next time I see him. I don't think he'll be surprised, all things considered...

At the very least, it's got to be flattering to know that someone finds you attractive. So I won't be offended if he's not interested.

Oh, oh, oh just found your thread. > rubbing hand in excitement waiting on next installment.

Go for it with I reeeaaallly want to see that film, but have absolutely NOBODY to go with me and I bloody hate to go alone add a massive sigh at the end.

Good luck the next time you see him! I realy think you do "like" and he "likes" you too.

He likes you. :) but in a nice, shy, respectful-of-boundaries kind of way. You are slowly getting to know each other and I'm guessing any courtship will be sweet and old-fashioned. Make it really easy for him to ask you out in a non-date kind of way. Maybe suggest a coffee in order to chat about the books? I suspect he is a bit shy and so, while he won't take the remark about the movie as a come-on, might still not have the nerve to invite you, so don't despair! try it and see! I also have a good feeling about this! :)

Testing nc before I contribute...

I thought I'd resurrect this thread. I didnt come back to it because nothing much happened after I posted. I bottled asking him out after learning he was 8yrs younger than me! And deciding he wasn't interested.

Anyway, things continued much as they had been. But it didn't progress at all.

I left around easter time. There were "I'm going to miss these chats", "It won't be the same without you" type exchanges. But still nothing more.

On my last day, he gave me a present and said we should keep in touch.

Now, in the meantime another man asked me out. Because it didn't seem to be progressing, I said yes. So he asked if i were seeing anyone and I told him I'd been on a few dates and it just all changed in an instant. He just said, "oh, you kept that quiet." Went very quiet. Seemed a bit 'odd' and left.

Anyway, since then he and I have exchanged no more than two or three emails. He recently asked how my romance was going, I told him it was no more.

And on the back of that, we are going out for the day in a couple of weeks time.

My friends are convinced it's a date! Although nothing's been said like that.

But as one said, a day out is a bit more than a quick coffee with an old colleague when we haven't seen each other for around 3 months And our only contact was a few snatched half hour conversations prior to that.

One friend said, "he must really think you're someone he wants to spend time with!"

So, the question still stands. Do you think he likes me?

Of course he bloody does, but if one or other of you doesn't get off the fence it isn't going to fly.

Um. Yes.

Hahaha, he likes you!

I think we can all agree that yes it seems he likes you, likes you even!

Haha good. I was a little worried I was seeing what I wanted to see!

Definately a date!

worse yes, you're right. Ok. Shall make my move...

OMG woman!
Does he have to hit you over the head with his wiener?
He likes you!

Is the age difference not an issue..?

Of course it is a date!

I don't even spend time with colleagues I like, never mind ones I barely worked with who left months ago.

Age irrelevant unless he was the 17yo office apprentice or something

He liked you in December - he still likes you now! Do something about it this time. and good luck!!!