I know, I know... I'm not 15 really... I don't even know if I want him to. I'm currently resolutely single. But I am curious as to what you make of this, if anything. Largely just because I'm trying to understand the signs and signals of this sort of thing and need to know if there are any here. Or not.
I'm aware it isn't really very much of anything written down, and that much of this sort of thing is in the subtle nuances of non verbal communication/body language/expression that I can't convey here, but here goes...
I started a job earlier in the year and share an office with a colleague. There is a man who comes into our workplace twice weekly for a couple of hours at a time to work with clients. He's been coming in for a while, but our paths have only crossed since August.
He always pops into our office for a chat. I don't think he flirts with me, but he and I have definitely had chats that have recently become more personal (not really intimate, and certainly not 'inappropriate', although we have shared aspects of our personal lives. Eg. I know he's single and has a child), whereas his chats with my colleague don't ever leave the professional realm (we work in a 'caring profession' so a lot of the professional chat is quite 'emotional' and emotive anyway). When I am not in the office they chat, but she always tells me that he has asked after me. When she's not in we chat, but he doesn't ever ask after her.
About a month ago, he brought in a couple of books to lend me that he thought I'd be interested in based on a chat we'd had the week before. I didn't know he was going to do this. And last week, he gave me a daft little 'gift'. No great effort was involved, it was more of a 'token' than anything. But still, he did it. There was a small amount of good natured teasing, too, but that was it. My colleague teases me with mock indignation that he has 'forgotten' her...
So that's it really. What do you make of it? Just friendly, or could he be interested? (Be honest, but kind - feeling very fragile and uncertain of this sort of thing at the moment! Thanks)
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DoesThisMeanAnything · 02/12/2014 20:29
Ok, well in that case, as circle says, better to know now. Hope the next one turns out better.
lilac we only had a brief exchange but I think I'm right. Besides, I'm not interested in making excuses or being messed about. I have no tolerance for that. So, even if you were right, I wouldn't be interested.
circleskirt absolutely. Completely agree with you. I don't make allowances. Would be nice to meet someone who didn't end up on the shit pile, though. If I'm honest!
My exh is there, along with my partner before him, and the two boyfriends since. It just feels like it's getting a bit crowded there. That's all 
Arse, at least you know now. We all make excuses for men, oh he's a bit shy, oh he needs a bit of encouragement. The truth is the vast majority of men have no problem at all asking you out if that's what they want. Make allowances at your peril.
Yes OP, another one on the "shit" pile, onwards and upwards.
Not necessarily. Perhaps he is a really genuine guy who got more and more anxious about meeting you and the pressure of a 'date'. Did he say he is married? (Sorry it's ages since I read the whole thread 
) How did you end it? With total finality, or open ended? Perhaps you can meet for a coffee some time or other?
Ah well... I nearly updated and then didn't because I thought it just sounded ridiculous
He messaged me a couple of days beforehand to cancel.
He gave me a lot of bs about how he found me really attractive, but that his head was not in the right place to start anything, some stuff about his life being complicated... and he hoped I'd understand...
I do.
I think we all know what that means, don't we?
I call married man gets a conscience/busted.
Just a bit disappointed that he turned out to be no different to all the rest. One more on the 'shit men' pile then. Oh well.
Ruddy I hope you're right...
IfNotNow I 'know' you under my usual name. Way to lower the tone!! 
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My OH is 7 years younger than me and you'd never know it, and we never feel it. It's him-and-me, not younger-man-and-older-woman. If it feels right, go with it and enjoy it.
And yes, he does like you 
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