Four threads to freedom! Divorcing Twatchops once and for all

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Still can't copy and paste links but my last thread was New name, new game, less stress, more progress!

This really, really is the last one now - I hope that my story has helped anybody breaking free from abuse - it's bloody hard but you can do it!

Have a great time - you're starting to live at last!

Hi Name great update. Well done on avoiding Twatty's eye - he will still be trying to reel you in with all the usual tricks. Its just that you know this now, and so you know what to avoid as well. Good on you for side-stepping his tactics - this sort of assertiveness will also help you feel better about yourself, that you are protecting yourself physically (by having him ejected from your home), mentally and emotionally from his Twatty Tactics.

KOKO Name, good to see that the emotions are on an even keel now.

Sorry to do this, name, but I was faffing about on Google Images, and I found this. I think it's your engagement photo. Sorry if it's triggering. >sadface

You are welcome. I can't admit to being an adult movie star either Name, but yes watching the relationship of Lovelace and her husband was very interesting.

There's plenty of time for us to be loved the way we so deserve to be!

Oh also I watched First Wives Club tonight after being reminded of it on here a while back. Thanks for that. X

Keep side stepping name!

It was mentioned on Andrew Marr this morning that emotional abuse is to become a criminal offence and possibility of 14 year jail term. Wonder if TC would ever think any of it could apply to him?

from Google: "In the news

New domestic violence law will outlaw coercive control
Telegraph.co.uk‎ - 2 hours ago
A new law on domestic violence, making it illegal for someone to ... of coercive control could face up to 14-years in prison and there will be no ...►

Emotional Abuse To Be Made A Criminal Offence
Sky News‎ - 5 hours ago"

Keep strong and enjoy your freedoms

Wow I have just finished all of your threads. What a saga, you could write a book about his twattery.
Woman, you rock!

Haha thanks Snooky

Alice thank you for that - very interesting. The PO was telling me more laws would be coming into effect soon. It's a good thing.

Love FWC goldenmama

Haha Pedant, yep that was definitely me! Look into my eyes, not around the eyes....I'm back in the room now though

Hey Darkest hope all good with you

Thanks Zazzles and everyone!

I had a rather hilariously messy night with my friend - loads of fun, felt 20 again, ended up snogging some random and then telling him something he had said was a red flag lol he just looked at me like I was mental, which I suppose I am a bit at the moment haha!

Back to normality now though - h talked to me at drop off - he had to flag up that the hotel they had stayed in had had some bed bugs and could I give them a bath! I was like, err I was going to give them a bath anyway stop fucking talking to me!! he was doing the humble, friendly, I'm not at all a dangerous loon act.

Anyway - it's my weekend with the kids next week so won't have to see him hopefully.hope you all have lovely Sunday evenings everyone

Woah! You go, Name! You are in command mode!

Last night sounded like fun

Good news about EA becoming illegal. About bloody time. Though I bet most of the perpetrators won't recognise that they're even doing it, even if it's laid out before them in little baby steps.

err I was going to give them a bath anyway

Please, please come back and tell us that you actually gave him that look , Name. Oh, what I would have given to be a fly on the wall and watch that scenario play out . Good on you for reasserting yourself, and setting the boundaries with this Wanker. It is no less than he deserves, and he actually deserves far worse.

KOKO Name, you are doing brilliantly

Haha I did kind of Zazzles he looked a bit red in the face when he was talking to me, and when I said what I did, he nodded in a kind of 'of course you were, silly of me to say' and looked down at his feet uncomfortably pah ha ha!! Just fuck off Twatchops, and next time maybe take them somewhere slightly classier where bed bugs are off the menu!

Ah fanx for the flowers Name. Go you, getting to play tonsil hockey with some random and getting a bit of fun back into your life!

Thanks Jux!

Oh it was the least I could do Dinnae, the flowers and the tonsil hockey haha!

Have a good week everyone

Hope all is going well. Just stopping by to wish you (& everyone) a Happy Thanksgiving. Even though it's an American holiday, you have so much to be thankful for!

Still keep checking up on you, hope you're doing okay

Bedbugs??? What kind of hotel did he take them to?

Bedbugs??? What kind of hotel did he take them to?
Indeed

Cheapskate. What a charmer.

Haha I know!

Hey everyone - been crazy busy this week - started work, finished the Freedom Programme, very up and down.

Dropped the kids off to H earlier in the car....and he congratulated me on my new job and called me babe twice 'ok babe.....well done babe'

Ewwww, is he seriously starting it up again? Or did it genuinely seem like a slip (ok ok, let's not kid ourselves, it probably wasn't a slip).

Sorry if this is my first post in your threads and seems a bit random name, I can't remember if it is or not, I've been lurking for a long while now, cheering you all the way. :)

Have been wondering how its all going.
How long is the freedom programme then? Wondering if it would be good for me, but not sure if there would be one very close by.

Congratulations on the job Babe

Babe? Ugh What a colossal twat.

Well. BIL phoned me today and put the suggestion across that me and H communicate through email only in regards to the kids. He first said text and I was just no way about that, so then I agreed to email because it can all be documented I guess. He sounded like a right old bouncy Labrador puppy in his first email - I was just one liners back but he was all, hi! Cool! Thanks! And so when I dropped off he was much more confident - dd1 said 'mums got a new job!!' And h said 'I know, I heard well done babe' and then ok babe when I said not too late for dropping them back.

I don't know how I feel now really - new job started today so I was naturally the sort of office outcast, I've got all this going on in the background and he turns up as if we're happy families! Needless to say I'm in bed! The kids hate me tonight because I had to get really angry with them, dd1 called me her nemesis and dd2 said she wanted dad to move back in and that I'm a horrible person for throwing him away like a piece of rubbish!

So, hey ho KOKO and all that

Thank you for all your messages

Oh and h is fully into his counselling now. According to BIL his counsellor wants to send me a confidential questionnaire to fill in about him! Well, where do I fucking start!

I said to BIL, um, ok but he has accepted it now hasn't he? And he said, he knows now that he was working too hard and his focus was all wrong....arrrggghh the fucking work stress excuse is back.

Think I'm going to tell BIL tomorrow that actually I'm not happy with email contact yet, can we resume contact through BIL.

Bloody hell. Can you clarify/remind him in an email that as you are no longer a couple, it is wholly inappropriate to use terms like 'babe', and that he should stop it, as it is confusing for the children? Or, has he breached any of Rottie's rules by doing this and speaking to you like that in front of the children? What a prick he really, really is.

Uhh, just one question: is DD2 old enough to have come up with 'throwing him away like a piece of rubbish' himself? It sounds an awful lot like someone's been filling their heads with poison...