What would your DH do if you were awarded a First Class Degree?

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Exactly that really. I'm new here, but long time lurker.

I have worked really hard for this degree(OU) over 4 years, PT work and looking after 2 children with little help/support from DP who has a very 'busy' job. I'm so proud of myself.

Him, not even a card. He has said 'Well done'. But that's it. He didn't even want to help me revise for my last exam - he was too tired. That really upset me.

So, what would your DHs say/do? Do I need to get a grip?

Congratulations. I got a distinction in Law Finals and then DF was very impressed. I honestly can't remember what he did though - it was about 15 years ago, and we were about to get married, and he was away with the Navy....so probably not much, and probably outed self!

I did, as a mature student. DH sent me a huge boquet, bought champagne, and took us away for a weekend.

CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS .

He should be incredibly happy for you, and proud. Different people show this in different ways, but you should know this is how he feels and clearly you don't. He's an arse :(. And given how little support you got while doing your degree I'd be asking myself some big questions, but first of all I'd go out with my friends and celebrate, big time!

When I passed my counselling qualification I got an ipad and a pink leather briefcase from my husband, my parents told everyone .

Your husbands jealous and intimidated, your name is brilliant how about you do a little action and kick his arse to the far side of fuck
After all your an intelligent woman they did after all give you an ology for it

If anyone remembers the old BT adverts that is

Congratulations

X posted.

If relate was a waste of time and this is his idea if trying...i think the writing is on the wall don't you?

Super well done for your achievement not only without any support but while also dealing with other problems!

You really are worth so much more than this x

Congratulations !

At the very least, my H would suggest a slap up celebratory meal out with the kids.

I am sorry to see your H doesn't appear to value you very highly. His problem, not yours.

He sounds lazy (to not arrange anything and not help you revise) and/or jealous of your achievement, and is therefore being childish and petty. I'm sorry he hasn't got enough grace to congratulate you properly by marking the occasion in some way - doesn't have to be expensive if money is tight, a homemade meal with nicely set table, candles, helping kids make card etc - and making a fuss of you for a while. As theorientcalf says, he should be congratulating you on your effort and commitment anyway even if you'd not got a 1st but as you have, it does seem extraordinarily mean to act almost as if nothing's happened because it's not simple to pick one up just like that and he should be very proud of you.

I don't know what it's in or how you intend to use it to your advantage (hopefully) going forward but it'll almost certainly benefit the whole family - including him - if it allows you to develop a decent career. Maybe he ought to think on about that while he's sucking a lemon and being so mean spirited.

That's brilliant! Bloody well done actions

My dh would be incredibly proud. There would probably be a card, champagne, celebratory dinner etcetera.

X posted. As others have said, maybe you need to have a long hard think about whether you want him to benefit from your hard work going forward when he appears to have little care for you ?

That's seriously impressive!
Your husband's reaction is crap. Can you tell how that's made you feel and how the writing is now on the wall for the relationship?

I'm a mature student. It is actually my second degree.

My first degree is what I use professionally. Funnily enough, I have never quite got over the fact that when I got my first degree, (we were not married, just going out), I got a 2:1 and he wouldn't say it was good because his friend got a First! Yet I still married him! No-one to blame but myself.

No. It's his fault and his fault alone he is a Charmless Tosser.

I got a first.

My then husband got me a card. Tbh I didn't expect anything else, I did it for myself so being able to say I got a first was more important than anything else!

Congratulations, though. You should be very proud of yourself.

I'm studying atm to return to work and my DH is forever telling me how proud he is of me and continually updating all his mates

When I got a First in my undergraduate BSc my then boyfriend's response was 'I don't believe you' and ' I cant believe it' and general derogatory remarks. I ditched him soon afterwards

Congratulations

My ex would have done exactly what your DH has done.

"Ex" being the operative word ?

Um... I didn't get DH anything he didn't get me anything either though!

I think if you have kids old enough to notice I'd be wanting a big deal about how great it is.

Congratulations!

X-posted. That first a 2:1 isn't good comment is so wankerish.

I'm sorry he's not been supportive.

Absolutely AF, but if I'd had MN he would have been the EX a helluva lot quicker.

I just got a 'well done' from my XDP when I got my Masters. I recall another P from long ago being totally devoid of interest when I obtained a professional qualification.

What's wong with these tossers?

TeWiSaves the Day - in fairness, he didn't actually say it wasn't good, he just wouldn't say it was good! Why am I defending him? And yes the children are old enough to notice, and they have been more excited than him.

Anyfawker - Ha, ha. That made me laugh. I do believe he is, in this particular instance (a charmless tosser)

DH would be proud of my achievements, as would my DD too tbh. We would probably go out for a meal, and celebrate - probably involving a glass of something fizzy. I am not sure if i would get a card - I don't know if he would think of that, but it would definitely be a big deal.

When I got my degree DH just said congrats and gave me a hug on the day I found out my classification.
On the day of my graduation ceremony he took me and lots of my family out for a celebratory meal and got a bottle of champagne for the two of us to have later that evening.

AYellowCreation - who knows? don't like strong women? don't like the limelight off them, no matter how briefly? don't like you to get too big for your boots?

Missunreasonable -he did say I should go to my Graduation ceremony, but I don't want to. So maybe he isn't all that bad? This is my problem. I really don't know if I'm hyper-sensitive and over reacting.