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I am currently packing his stuff. Am I overreacting?

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NorrisCole · 02/11/2014 19:39

I have had enough.

He was using the tablet over the weekend and left his Facebook logged in. He is in the pub and messages started popping up on the tablet for his Facebook account.

It was a woman I've never heard of or met but from the messages written it's an ex of his.

She was saying how he hadn't changed and how was he etc. He mentioned he had a daughter now but had been split up from me for over a year and lived on his own in a flat in his old hometown.

As far as I'm concerned we are very much together and things have been going fantastic. It fekt like a massive smack in the face and I feel so hurt and deflated . Messages have been clean but he's maintaining he's single and shes asking to meet up or for his number. He hasn't replied yet.

I do so so much for him and for him to just make out I'm not there and he's on his own is so hurtful and completely disrespectful. No mention of his stepdaughter dd1 who adores him just that he gets dd2 every second weekend.

I don't know whether to confront him now by phone or wait until he comes home.

He will completely deny it and say his Facebook was hacked even though I have taken sceeenshot and it's obviously him. We have been in this situation before and I forgave him.

I would never say I was single. I always acknowledge my partner of 5 years and my head has honestly never been turned. He is obviously playing the single card hoping to get a Shag or a new girlfriend out of it.

I am quite calm but I'm not sure how calm I'll be when he lies to my face when he comes home and I don't want to explode when dds are here.

I can't believe I've let him fool me again. I honestly thought things were getting better and out relationship has been brilliant recently. How stupid am I Sad

OP posts:
minibmw2010 · 03/11/2014 21:33

Hope all is ok Norris.

Earsareconstantlyringing · 04/11/2014 21:36

Norris my love, came on here especially to check if you're OK and your DD too. Really hope you're both alright?

Littleturkish · 04/11/2014 22:01

Also thinking of you over here, keep checking for updates.

Notmeagain1 · 04/11/2014 23:04

Norris, hope your ok and dd is better. Please update so everyone knows ur doing alright. Sending you CakeWine and an unmumsnetty hug that your ok. xx

Joysmum · 05/11/2014 07:48

How are you doing Norris? Really hope you're ok?

wakeywakeyteaandcakey · 07/11/2014 16:54

Hi Norris, hope you're ok? Please can we have an update to make sure your dd and you are alright?

OfficeNewGirl · 07/11/2014 17:00

I think the op has taken him back and doesnt want to say

Vivacia · 07/11/2014 17:36

That's understandable, not wanting to say, but I hope she'd know that we're still here for her and wanting to support her.

carlsonrichards · 07/11/2014 17:38

She probably took him back.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 07/11/2014 22:14

Norris. I'm not surprised you didn't ever post a thread about your daughter not being allowed in the car in case she was sick. You would have been very much judged... What were you thinking then? I'm really surprised that after that horrible episode, you reckon your relationship was getting better and was even brilliant. Just how? Shock

To me you sound like you're waivering. I hope he stays away, your daughters deserve much better than a pig like that anywhere near them.

Best wishes to you, it's obviously a shock but please, put your daughters first, he was bloody vile and it shouldn't have taken some cheating or wannabe-cheating to make you get rid of him.

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