I am currently packing his stuff. Am I overreacting?

[NorrisCole]

I have had enough.

He was using the tablet over the weekend and left his Facebook logged in. He is in the pub and messages started popping up on the tablet for his Facebook account.

It was a woman I've never heard of or met but from the messages written it's an ex of his.

She was saying how he hadn't changed and how was he etc. He mentioned he had a daughter now but had been split up from me for over a year and lived on his own in a flat in his old hometown.

As far as I'm concerned we are very much together and things have been going fantastic. It fekt like a massive smack in the face and I feel so hurt and deflated . Messages have been clean but he's maintaining he's single and shes asking to meet up or for his number. He hasn't replied yet.

I do so so much for him and for him to just make out I'm not there and he's on his own is so hurtful and completely disrespectful. No mention of his stepdaughter dd1 who adores him just that he gets dd2 every second weekend.

I don't know whether to confront him now by phone or wait until he comes home.

He will completely deny it and say his Facebook was hacked even though I have taken sceeenshot and it's obviously him. We have been in this situation before and I forgave him.

I would never say I was single. I always acknowledge my partner of 5 years and my head has honestly never been turned. He is obviously playing the single card hoping to get a Shag or a new girlfriend out of it.

I am quite calm but I'm not sure how calm I'll be when he lies to my face when he comes home and I don't want to explode when dds are here.

I can't believe I've let him fool me again. I honestly thought things were getting better and out relationship has been brilliant recently. How stupid am I

But you are not finishing with him over that are you? I suppose all she can see is that they messaged innocently (from her POV). What she doesnt see is the lies he told her and you, the way he has treated your DD when she was ill and (guessing here...) they selfish ways he acts the rest of the time too.

Leave the bags where they are and the key in the door.

What either of them has to say is of no consequence.
He's dumped.

Stick to your guns OP.

Bollocks. Even if it is true it doesn't excuse his behaviour earlier not letting your DD in the car as she was sick. They're also his kids I'm presuming?

Oh and I call Bullshit on the phone/bar thing. No one leaves their phone on the bar these days, and his mates just happened to message his ex that he just happened to have friended on the same day he just happened to defriend you?!

I suggest you use this phrase "Sorry dear, but I am not as stupid as you want me to be!"

.....and all his mates know his pin code for his phone do they?

The Facebook thing is secondary to the absolute utter bastardness of sending your sick child home on the bus. That is one of the saddest and most sickening things I've ever read on MN.
That is why you should be dumping him. Forget about the cheating. He's obviously a callous shit with no regard for a little defenceless child.

and he did say or imply to the woman that he was single.
She's protesting her innocence because she doesn't want to be implicated, and tbf she has nothing to blame herself for.
He is a lying twat, who has form, and who treats you and DD with contempt and cruelty.

Please don't fall for it OP.

Aaahh, the old "mates fucking with my phone for a joke" ploy. Like that hasn't been trundled out before.

Tell laughing boy his laughing mates can put him up for the night, and every night hereafter.

Well done for being strong you've hundred percent done the right thing you will never trust him again so it's not worth puttin yourself threw it x

Well, now's your chance to tell her all about the bus, isn't it?

He is beneath contempt, OP - get rid of him now.

You could reply 'Oh god, believe me, that isn't even the main reason. Good luck if you want to give him a go love, but from one woman to another, you could do better. In fact almost anyone could. All the best, Norris'

He sounds absolutely vile! For The bus trip alone he needs kicking to the curb..
You say he has form, don't fall for his rubbish and messages from her..ditch him while you have the chance!!

So did his friends defriend you too?

That's the lamest load of bollocks I've heard in ages.

What.a.knob.

If you fall for that, you are as daft as he thinks you are

He probably texted her once he got your text and told her to send a Facebook message protesting her (and his??) innocence. Just stick to your guns. I would say to her "I hope you don't have any sick children, he won't let them in your car as he made me get the bus 35 miles today with a vomiting child! You're welcome to him" Selfish git.

Get the locks changed and leave his stuff out the front. Don't go posting anything on FB, you will look like a tit (sorry to be blunt). So sorry this has happened to you, he sounds like an arsehole. Sending and .

What a cunt.

I would have dumped him the moment he told me to get the bus.

I call bullshit! And I suppose "his mates" also defriended you and added the ex before the messaging started? Please.
Both the car incident and this latest pack of not even very good lies show that he is a man of no character whatsoever, and not worthy of you and your DDs.

See, what i don't understand is why the text messages are even relevant, he made you and your sick child travel home in the bus in case she puked in the car

I am a little baffled you weren't posting about that first and chucking him out the door.

Seriously, get some self respect - get rid of him!

Would he have done the same for his own child? God knows but what an utter cunt, he thinks you are stupid, you do realise this don't you? he is probably having a right laugh with his mates over the "wind up"

The bus story shows he is beneath contempt... poor DD..

Ok

The messages unforgiveable
The bus 35 miles unforgiveable
No support, company whilst sick dd at home.
What a wanker.
Shit partner, shit parent.

Sod the Facebook message, I would be packing his bags re the sickness thing, fuck that. Your not need someone like that in your life.

And even if its was his mates mucking around, do you want to be with someone with friends like that?

Seriously, get rid

At last he is single.

Posting again to reiterate how horrified I am at the bus thing.

Lots of people cheat, its very common - shit but true.

But honestly most people wouldn't pull the bus stunt. Especially not with their own flesh and blood. That's shocking.

(by the way his mates are lying)