I am currently packing his stuff. Am I overreacting?

[NorrisCole]

I have had enough.

He was using the tablet over the weekend and left his Facebook logged in. He is in the pub and messages started popping up on the tablet for his Facebook account.

It was a woman I've never heard of or met but from the messages written it's an ex of his.

She was saying how he hadn't changed and how was he etc. He mentioned he had a daughter now but had been split up from me for over a year and lived on his own in a flat in his old hometown.

As far as I'm concerned we are very much together and things have been going fantastic. It fekt like a massive smack in the face and I feel so hurt and deflated . Messages have been clean but he's maintaining he's single and shes asking to meet up or for his number. He hasn't replied yet.

I do so so much for him and for him to just make out I'm not there and he's on his own is so hurtful and completely disrespectful. No mention of his stepdaughter dd1 who adores him just that he gets dd2 every second weekend.

I don't know whether to confront him now by phone or wait until he comes home.

He will completely deny it and say his Facebook was hacked even though I have taken sceeenshot and it's obviously him. We have been in this situation before and I forgave him.

I would never say I was single. I always acknowledge my partner of 5 years and my head has honestly never been turned. He is obviously playing the single card hoping to get a Shag or a new girlfriend out of it.

I am quite calm but I'm not sure how calm I'll be when he lies to my face when he comes home and I don't want to explode when dds are here.

I can't believe I've let him fool me again. I honestly thought things were getting better and out relationship has been brilliant recently. How stupid am I

And what was he doing the whole time "his mates" were playing with his phone?

How fortunate they picked this particular woman and how fortunate she chose to play along.

How did he explain deleting you off his Facebook friend list?

Yeah yeah and you only have one functioning braincell op. Except you don't and you know that's all bull shit. Tell her to pull her knickers up from round her ankles and to do one and him, you are doing just fine. He's gone op. Because if he isn't, it's just a waiting game until he does it again. You forgave him once. Fool you once, not twice.

I can absolutely assure you I will never ever take him back after his behaviour today.

I was honestly going to have serious words with him about the bus thing and I was really upset about it but with the shock and everything finding the messages I posted about that first instead.

He hasn't been back yet so I've double locked the door and I'm off to bed with dd1 who is roasting hot and not keen on lying still

Thank you for your replies

Hope you get some sleep

Have you got support nearby? He'll be back trying to get in.... Drunk maybe. Won't be pretty

Good night, Norris

It doesn't really matter if the Facebook thing is true or not (according to him) the fact he made you catch the bus today with a baby and a sick child, is enough to get rid of him. He's an utter cock

Good for you, Norris

Hope your DD1 has a peaceful night and feels better in the morning.

Night Norris

Sorry I didn't see your last post.

I hope your dd is ok x

Goodnight love, how you both get some sleep.

If she's still being sick tomorrow, flat full fat coke always does the trick for ds.

How= hope ffs.

Well done on chucking the useless cunt. You're worth more.
Hope your little one gets well soon.

Wow. He really thinks you are a mug doesn't he? Good luck with it all.

The fact he de friended you before he got into a 'conversation'with the ex highlights the lie wrt his friend posting on his behalf. I suppose his friend did that too? Then ran away?

You are well rid of the the arse.

Good luck and hope your dd feels better soon.

Hope your DD feels better poor thing...oh and that your ex isn't too noisy picking up his stuff. What a foul excuse for a partner and parent.

Things will get better Norris, I am so sorry you had to wait 5 years before you got rid of him. Have you told anyone in RL yet as you may need some support?

Good night Norris, hope u and dd's rest well and tomorrow you kick his ass properly.

Poor dd1 :( lots of mummy cuddles. For the record I highly doubt I could stay in love with someone that prized his car more than his sick child. But you know that. I'm sorry he did this to you op but I'm glad too. He showed you who he is and you can get away from that, be happier.

good god i am aghast at the fact he wouldn't drive your sick DD home in the car and made you all take the bus! WTAF? unbelievable.

please don't believe a word about his 'mates' sending those FB messages or listen to the ex-g/f backing his pathetic story up.

you are well rid. hope your DD feels better and good luck to you, must have been horrible to read those FB messages too.

Am speechless about the bus trip!

He did not even take dd2 with him?

Who does that?

What a git!

Wishing you all of the luck-the Man is a fool.

FB aside, this "man" is an utter shit.

But the "friends winding things up" bit is just ridiculous. Complete bollocks. What's that they say about birds of a feather? His " friends" sound pretty pathetic too.

, I am so sorry for you and your dds. How heartless. I can't get my head around the kind of person who makes his partner take her sick child home on a bus. Your DD deserves SO much better than that, as do you.

Good that you are in your home town with RL support. Don't let him back in. Text message ex has done you a favour, you are better off without him.

Hope you get some sleep and dd feels better soon.