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My brother has gone missing

179 replies

maewest · 03/10/2006 14:12

He went out to work yesterday morning and didn't turn up. My mum got at phone call from them at 10am asking where he was. He's 26 and lives at home, but is v shy and reserved person, def not a 'lad'. He's now been out all night and my parents have called the police. They are both so worried and I feel so far away from them right now .

That's it really...

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Daffydil · 10/10/2006 11:39

Just seen this. Great news.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/10/2006 12:03

Maewest,

Great news indeed, I hope he is located at the football match.

Although I can understand why you feel like this, "but can't help feeling more than a little cross that he hasn't called my parents. I think he doesn't realise how much they care about him" this young man is in all likelihood depressed (you mentioned previously he had been feeling low) and thus not thinking straight. He may not have thought to call the NMPH or to phone home because he perhaps thinks he's in big trouble.

Are the NMPH aware of this latest development?.

People go missing for many reasons - being depressed is one such reason why people just decide to go. I hope in time he is gently encouraged to open up and to talk about his feelings.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/10/2006 12:03

Maewest,

Great news indeed, I hope he is located at the football match.

Although I can understand why you feel like this, "but can't help feeling more than a little cross that he hasn't called my parents. I think he doesn't realise how much they care about him" this young man is in all likelihood depressed (you mentioned previously he had been feeling low) and thus not thinking straight. He may not have thought to call the NMPH or to phone home because he perhaps thinks he's in big trouble.

Are the NMPH aware of this latest development?.

People go missing for many reasons - being depressed is one such reason why people just decide to go. I hope in time he is gently encouraged to open up and to talk about his feelings.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/10/2006 12:04

apologies for the repeat.

maewickedwitchofthewest · 10/10/2006 16:07

apols for onehanded typing. He called home todY AND SPOKE TO MY MUM, he had just checked his email and found msgs from around 80 people, frirends, family, work people, all worried about him so he called home. He plans to go home tomorrow after the match .

Attila - quite take your point and would agree that he is almost certainly depressed. This is really the starting point for our family in terms of supporting my brother whilst he recovers. know from my own wxperience that this can be a long process. Thank you for your support and suuggestions throughout, it has been apprexciated.

HELLisHeavenis · 10/10/2006 16:15

Maewest I'm really pleased he is going to go home. That has got to be the best news. Like you say now you'll be able to help him.

maewickedwitchofthewest · 10/10/2006 16:23

And I think my feelings towards my brother reflect the fact that I feel guilty for what I put my parents thro when I was depressed when I was younger. I never went off, but I did do things that I was not proud of, and that caused them heartache.

maewickedwitchofthewest · 10/10/2006 16:25

Sorry Hellis - x posted.

foxinsocks · 10/10/2006 16:28

oh thank goodness maewest - what a relief for you all

I really hope your brother can get the support he needs now and well done him for being brave enough to ring up and talk about coming back.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 10/10/2006 17:43

Hi maewest,

Am heartened to read that your brother has made contact with his parents along with reading his e-mails. Am certain that the NMPH will be happy to learn of this as well.

You are certainly correct - his return to you all will be the starting point of a long journey towards recovery. Would like to wish him and your family all the very best.

The past is the past and that's the best place for it. Concentrate instead on the present and future!!.

Regards

Attila xx

fussymummy · 10/10/2006 23:22

Hi maewest i'm so pleased for you that you're brother has made contact with your mum.

Really hope he does return home, like he said he would.

Maybe him seeing all his emails made him realise that people really do care.

At least you can understand that depression can be a tough illness to deal with, and can take years to overcome it.

Your lovely brother will now have the support of his caring family.

Wishing you all the luck and love in the world.

Take care. xx

CheesyFeetcomingtoGETyou · 11/10/2006 11:21

What a relief for your mum to have heard his voice.

I'm so pleased for you .

I wish your whole family well xx

KTeepee · 11/10/2006 11:34

Glad to hear he is safe.

maewickedwitchofthewest · 11/10/2006 17:17

He's home. My mum picked him up from the station today. He has been sleeping rough, but at least he's safe now.

Thank you for listening

Alibaldi · 11/10/2006 17:21

That is the best news ever. I'm so pleased for you all that he's home safe and sound.

suejoneziscalmernow · 11/10/2006 17:22

I have been silently lurking but am so pleased there is a happy ending in the MaeWest extended household.

Spookler1 · 11/10/2006 17:23

Hi Maewest. So pleased to hear that your brother is home safely. You must be so relieved. Hope your brother works through his depression real soon.

BudaBeast · 11/10/2006 17:25

That IS good news. Hopefuuly he can get on with getting the help he needs and you can just enjoy your baby!

fussymummy · 12/10/2006 09:09

Brilliant news, so pleased for you all.

fussymummy · 12/10/2006 09:09

Brilliant news, so pleased for you all.

Whimsy · 12/10/2006 09:14

Glad to hear he is safe and home

BettyBatShapedSpaghetti · 12/10/2006 09:17

so glad to hear that hes home

CarolinahowlingattheMoon · 12/10/2006 09:19

glad to hear he's home

HELLisHeavenis · 12/10/2006 13:28

Glad he's home safe and sound.

HauntedsandCastle · 12/10/2006 13:56

maewest, haven't posted before , but have been watching & hoping for a good outcome!

I'm so pleased for you that he's home.