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My brother has gone missing

179 replies

maewest · 03/10/2006 14:12

He went out to work yesterday morning and didn't turn up. My mum got at phone call from them at 10am asking where he was. He's 26 and lives at home, but is v shy and reserved person, def not a 'lad'. He's now been out all night and my parents have called the police. They are both so worried and I feel so far away from them right now .

That's it really...

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handlemecarefully · 04/10/2006 15:07

Maewest - still rooting for you...

Peridot30 · 04/10/2006 16:13

maewest thinking bout you and your family. Hope he just needs some time to himself and turns up safe and well. Sending you lots of (hugs).

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maewest · 04/10/2006 16:38

Still no news

I keep doing 'normal' things, trying to take my mind off it. This just feels so unreal, like a bad soap opera. A friend in RL worked out who I was this morning from this thread and gave me a ring, was really supportive. Part of me feels a little angry with him now for doing this to my parents, but I also feel so sad that none of us realised how low he was feeling. I have had depression in the past, and know that it can make you behave in ways that you would not normally.

DS is being lovely today, he just wants me to play with him. Must admit it is lovely to have a nice warm baby to cuddle at this point.

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CountessDracula · 04/10/2006 16:55

Oh god

thinking of you

loopylou0612 · 04/10/2006 16:58

Oh Maewest.

A truly horrible time for you all, but you can take comfort from your ds.

I really hope your brother turns up safe and sound and soon.

cupcakes · 04/10/2006 17:00

Really hope you get some good news soon.

Sparkler1 · 04/10/2006 17:01

oh no - I looked for this thread thinking there would be something positive and was sure you would have said that he had appeared. Can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling - all I can do is offer my thoughts. Where are you? Just wondered if you posted a piccie on MN someone who lives near could look out for him.

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maewest · 04/10/2006 17:32

My family lives in North Herts - anybody from around there? Not sure about posting a photo - is this a good idea to post a pic of a vunerable person? Genuine question, as unfortunately not only nice people are on MN . Have been googling his name and think he was using chat forum for his local football team, so may try posting a message there.

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 04/10/2006 17:38

maewest

I note that your Mum has spoken with the NMPH (National Missing Persons Helpline). Have you done so?.

The Metro free newspaper (given out at many London mainline and surbuban stations) has daily details of missing people with the NMPH number on it. I would contact them with a view to possibly getting your brother's details in that paper.

nutcracker · 04/10/2006 17:40

Hi maewest, my brother did a similar thing a couple of years ago. He was due to go to some dance thing and never turned up. After 24 hours my dad reported him missing. The police were very good but stressed that he was a grown man and could go where he liked really, but that they would do some checks on things.

Anyway after 2 days he text me just to say he was ok and that he would be back soon. He came back the next day.

He had just needed some time, he had alot of things on his mind and had gotten a bit bogged down by it all. Have just got in his car and driven around and slept in it too.

I hope this is the case with your brother and that he will be home soon XXX

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maewest · 04/10/2006 17:53

Attila, will try and do this, thank you. Don't want to do the wrong thing, but want to do something.

Nutcracker - good to hear that your brother turned up, hope the same is true for us.

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maewest · 04/10/2006 18:33

bit of a glimmer of hope. Have just spoken to my parents, the police seem to think that my brother was making travel arrangements to go to the west country (I am in Bristol, he had also stayed in Exeter for a holiday recently). They couldn't say too much, but were following this up. The police are also asking his football club to post a message and photo on their website asking him to get in touch or phone NMPH, they say its a bit too soon for other media such as newspapers.

My parents have also been trying to work out the password for his hotmail account, no joy so far, but have emailed him in case he picks it up. My mum sounded much more positive - obv we want to hear from him, but at least we have something to go on.

Thank you everyone, you have all been so supportive. It's not over, but feeling hopeful.

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TarkaTheHeadlessOtter · 04/10/2006 18:38

wonderful news!!!!!

Daffydil · 04/10/2006 18:38

That does sound hopeful. Got everything crossed for you!

BudaBeast · 04/10/2006 20:36

Fingers crossed for you!

hulababy · 04/10/2006 20:37

Fingers crossed.

Aero · 04/10/2006 20:52

Just seen this now. I hope he returns home safely soon. Will be thinking of you.

foxinsocks · 04/10/2006 20:53

I'm glad the police are following some leads. Fingers crossed for a good outcome.

makemineadouble · 04/10/2006 22:03

This might sound really obvious but have you tried locl pubs, has he been talking? speaking of plans, do you know his girlfriends? any trouble there? his mates? tell them your worried? so sorry if this sounds strange just have experience in this god bless

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heavenis · 04/10/2006 22:08

I hope he gets in contact soon.

DeathwatchBeetle73 · 04/10/2006 22:10

MW, I'm really sorry he hasn't turned up yet. Glad the police are following leads. Thinking of you and your family.

Rhubarb · 04/10/2006 22:14

You can get his hotmail password if you click on "forgot password" and then answer the secret question. The questions they have are from a drop down menu so you don't get a right lot of choice, they are things like "name of first pet" and so on, chances are your parents might know the answer to the secret question and then hey presto! You're in!

Worth a try?

makemineadouble · 04/10/2006 22:19

Good idea rhubard! good thinking

makemineadouble · 04/10/2006 22:22

have police checked his mobile yet? very easy once cleared takes few seconds to place last contact and location! did'nt they do this last night!! you have to keep on at them