Dating Thread 82

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Psssst Daters over here !!
Come share your stories good and bad

You can't keep his iPad!

I've offered it to him. I've rung. He's ignored. He originally said I could have it.

I'd rather have him anyway.

Haha, Dolly I thiught the opposite- woohoo, free iPad!

I could post it. But why should I pay postage if he won't even have a conversation with me? And going to his house = stalker.

dont I think you are being a little hard on yourself.

Could you leave it at his house somewhere, the shed or something? I know it's frustrating that he won't speak to you and everything, but surely your pride wouldn't allow you to keep his iPad... I would rather eat my own toe.

He lives 40 minutes away. I'll wait a while. See what happens.

Yes I've been a bit brutal with myself over this.

He lives 45 minutes away. If I drove there I'd end up wanting to speak to him and that way stalkerville lies.

Sorry for slight repetition. Phone playing up. It's 40-45 mins dependent on traffic

not sure i would give my address to someone i haven't met in real life carrotbut it's done now i guess

Dont I did similar thing and was sick, fell over and said loads of personal stuff about my ex in front of his work mates. They teased him for years. He needs to except that no ones perfect and we all do silly things. Sorry to hear he's being extreme about it.

made Dolly You have a point, he Is young and asked if we can go next week , he is taking me to a his friends dinner party this weekend.
I also like to pay my way just never had a man admit to being skint.

in other news the guy who dumped me on sunday after 9 pretty intense months because he didn't have the time to commit to the relationship and was really struggling and so I deserve better.... is on pof today boy did I get him wrong.
Presumably he is looking for someone who doesn't deserve as much.

There could be an innocent explanation but I guess I'll never know.

Mink That's horrible, don't know how I would deal with it but know I would feel crap.

Mink whatever it is, it's his failing, he's not right for you, and he's not right for someone else either, as he's still single...

dont leave it. if he wants his ipad, let him face you and come and get it, or make arrangements to get it. don't react/panic, everything will sort itself out.

good skype date, looks like he's going to arrange a trip over in the next week or so! oh that voice, that accent...

:D

"oh that voice, that accent... "

I didn't think I could face online dating, but common sense told me if men were looking for a relationship they would be looking online. I joined up in July, went on a few dates and clicked straight away with one of them. We have a lot of things arranged, have agreed to date exclusively and have deleted our profiles.

Also three of my work colleagues married people they met online this year, so it really can work - even if my bloke (who seems lovely) turns out to be wrong for me.

ha ha MadeMan very good.

I haven't had an engliish boyf/partner since about 1988! i'd love nothing more than to find one, but for some reason it doesn't happen. i'm not discriiminating.

atm, I have an irishhman, a guy from SA and this french guy on whatsapp terms. I won't meet the irish guy, but the SA lives close enough.

there are a couple of english guys, or have been, they say they want to go out, then nothing ever comes of it. i've asked them diectly too. one I asked if he was free last weekend and he saidd no, that he'll be spending his day off with his boys. and that he's a bit low atm etc etc.

no oomph!

either that or they go creepy fast.

oh, I didnt realise the SA guy was from SA until way after we'd swapped details for whatsapp.

Feeling like crap today. I'll be ok. Dumped twice in a year!

dont I remember you...!

It is all too easy to block/ignore etc by Whatsapp or whatever... in the olden days with no internet we just stopped ringing or going round to see someone etc...

I think it sounds with this current guy, nice though he is, it's run its course and there are/were certain problems... sorry to hear that though.

don't we can commiserate each other. although I don't have his ipad. sadly

No idea what I will say to him if he does get in touch.
I was rather pathetically going on the if you want something let it go if it is yours it will come back and it if it doesn't it was never yours in the first place theory and giving him time to miss me.
but the whole pof thing kind of puts a new perspective on the I'm on the verge of a breakdown and cannot have a relationship just now story.

My default position is to trust people and i don't really want to go all MN cynical and start thinking all men are probably scumbags given half a chance. but this really makes me think I am way too gullible. and if being cynical and hard if what it takes to survive relationships then i am not sure it is for me.

at a boats a boat. somehow I had remembered that as being a rather charming film I watched with my parents. how did i miss all the swearing??

strategic coughing fit on the part of your parents mink? Do you recall being sent off to make teas/get biscuits? :)

Don't let him get to you mink that was a shitty thing to do and he has done it for his own reasons. Better you find out now that he's a commitment-phobe than further down the line. he's single remember...probbly for a reason.

You are right to trust people in general, but trust those that merit it. he didn't, but you weren't to know that. It's his failing, not yours. he let you down.

have faith in the fact that you were you, but the person he presented himself to be was fake. he couldn't be that person.

I think I will send his iPad back to be honest.