Well, firstly, I have had tears in my eyes reading all your messages haha!! Honestly, I cannot thank you all enough - you kept me fully sane and focused throughout this whole ordeal - any offers of drinks and meals gratefully accepted, I will travel - got a lot of free time on my hands now haha!!
So - this morning - I crept downstairs fully expecting to see H asleep on the sofa, he wasn't, there was no sign of him anywhere. I had the most disturbed nights sleep - I dreamt that I had paid an Indian Restaurant to tell H it was all over, and that his letter was served to him in a fancy looking packet of Bombay Mix 
my poor addled brain!! At first I was hugely relieved he wasn't there and then it was like panic stations, right - he may have worked through the night which might mean he's on his way back to have a day at home so I have to act now.
We live in a terraced house with street parking, so the day before I had made sure the car was parked right outside - I was nervous opening the front door, and did a few checks up and down the street before rushing a couple of bags into the car. The girls were still in bed, so I thought right, Hamster time! I think that was my most nerve racking bit, me struggling to get 2 hamster cages into the boot of the car terrified I was going to get a hand on the shoulder at any point - I thought I would say I was taking them to the animal hospital lol! ? - as soon as they were safely in, I knew I was on the home straight - I quickly phoned the school and told them the girls were both sick - woke them up, said to DD1 to just hurry up and I would tell her what was going on when we got in the car, but if H was to arrive then just to say we're going to the Dr's. So DD2 kept asking, 'are we going to the Dr's?'
And that was it - still shit scared as I pulled away from the house in case he was walking up the road! We stopped for breakfast and I kind of told DD1 in a way a mature 9 year old would understand and she said 'Yessssss!! you've done the right thing Mum!'
Got here about 12ish - my Dad has actually been great - fully on my side, their phones are switched off. My Mum was out with friends but she's back now, also fully on my side - loads of wine in - I'm feeling good.
You know last night, I said a little prayer to the Universe - I'm not religious but I was out in the garden smoking a faaaaggg nervously waiting for H to come home, and I just said 'please make tonight bearable, please make me get through it, and please let us get away safely tomorrow' - well, my prayers were answered, I was left fully alone last night and even though I was a nervous wreck this morning, I managed to get us out undisturbed. Unbelievable.
He will have had Rottie's letter by now. And there is no way he can contact me!!! It's just not about him anymore - It's about Me and the girls - he can go and rot for all I care - it's been 17 years - he's not having a minute more!!!
Cheers to you all, everyone, you all feel like such old friends to me now, I said before I will be sad when this all ends haha. Mumsnet changed my life!! 