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Oh God. I just went for my exH mistress...

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spook · 01/10/2006 13:19

Why oh why am I such a dick??? Just bumped into my exh and the horrible bitch he left me for. He is 48, she is 26. It's the first time since it happened-2 and a half years ago, that I have ever seen her-or them together and I just couldn't deal with the fucking smug look on her face.
But my boys were there and some friends and I just lost it. Calling her a whore and saying I'd like to land her one
I am so ashamed of myself and feel sick and dirty and really really stupid. I am better than that and have lowered myself to their sordid level.
I know noone will tell me its OK. Just needed to offload.

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marthamoo · 07/10/2006 12:13

I am loving orange faced skip rat - I don't suppose you thought to call her that at the time, did you ?

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spook · 07/10/2006 12:15

Ofcourse not MM!! I'm good-but I'm not that good.
If I was I would have used the "promenading with Judith Chalmers" line too!

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Freckle · 07/10/2006 12:17

Ask away .

marthamoo · 07/10/2006 12:20

Worth keeping in mind should you ever bump into them again...

Seriously though, do you feel better for the supportive (and some very funny) postings on this thread? You must have been horribly shaken and upset in the aftermath.

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spook · 07/10/2006 12:39

A million times better thanks MM. MN to Spooks rescue AGAIN!
Freckle-a cuple of months ago we got a speeding ticket for my exh at this address. My new house and one which has absolutely nothing to do with him. I challenged it and he just took the ticket and said it was a mistake.
Well, this morning we have had another one. So it looks like his fucking penis extension car is registered at MY address.
What should I do d'you think???
TIA X

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BATtymumma · 07/10/2006 12:41

call the DVLA first thing monday and inform them that you have nothing to do with this car and the adress is wrong, but you do know the address of the person in questions...all helpfull like.

tell them that as far as your aware the person who owns it is named Miss S Rat.

at the very least they will stop sending things to you and once they o track toss bag down they will give him a nice big fine for not registering correctly.

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spook · 07/10/2006 12:45

Really??? That would just be fab!
The ticket is for 56 in a 40 zone too.
Reckon this will deffo push him over 12 points
I know skip rats taken points for him in the past.
It just gets better and better.....(Spook rubs her hands together in glee)
Thanks Batty

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selma · 07/10/2006 12:48

He is to blame then not her unless she was married too I understand the feelings but still think attacking the woman is a bit much!

BATtymumma · 07/10/2006 12:51

she new he was married though Selma. she is not blameless.

if she had told him that she wasn't interested as he was a maried man things may have been very different now. he would still have been a shit for trying it on but it does take two to tango..and apparantly she does like Tango!

she is just as much to blame as him.

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spook · 07/10/2006 12:56

Oh Selma FFS.
She knew me, she knew my children. She taught them dancing-I dropped them off every Sat morning and she looked me in the eye-for A YEAR.
Now tell me she's not blameless. (my children were 4 & 6 BTW)

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spook · 07/10/2006 12:57

And I didn't "attack" her. I called her a whore. (amongst other things )

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BATtymumma · 07/10/2006 12:57

I think you would think of it very differently if it were your husband that had just run off with some oompah loompah lookalike

Marina · 07/10/2006 12:59

Golly, I hope you're not a permatanned adulterous dance teacher Selma

ghosty · 07/10/2006 12:59

Spook ... I don't normally post on threads like this - never know what to say ....
But I have followed your story and from one spectre to another ... High 5 ....

I think that in all this time, for you to lose it only once means that you are a very strong and dignified woman ... you didn't lose it - you just told her what you thought and who can blame you for that after what you have been through?
PMSL at citrus skip rat brilliant!

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spook · 07/10/2006 13:02

Hey ghosty!! Lets do some haunting together sometime.
Thankyou for your kind words

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ghosty · 07/10/2006 13:02

Woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

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spook · 07/10/2006 13:04

We should have a Halloween emoticon just for us ghouls.

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pooka · 07/10/2006 13:29

Selma - I think Spook has probably made it quite clear to he ex-h how she feels about him as well! It's not like she's seeing him as a poor defenceless (read: unfaithful, b*d) led astray. Think it was about time that CSR/OompaLoompa/Judith Chalmers took her share of the blame too. She knew he was married, she knew he had children. She got involved with him. End of.

Freckle · 07/10/2006 13:47

I would certainly contact the DVLA to inform them that the car is nothing to do with you and that the registered keeper has never lived at your address. Do provide the correct address.

BUT I would wait until the 30 day period has passed (the period during which you can pay the reduced fine and get the automatic 3 points on the licence) so that he gets hit with the full fine and may have a court appearance to boot.

Note that I say that I would do that. I am not, of course, suggesting that you should .

If he goes to court to complain that he didn't get the original ticket, he will have to explain why he registered his car at your address, won't he??

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spook · 07/10/2006 13:51

Excellent Freckle! Thankyou. And I'm sure it is not something you would recommend!

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sanchpanch · 07/10/2006 14:26

dont beat yourself up for losing it with your ex,
i dont know how i would react if i saw my ex with the women he left me and 2 gorgeous girls for, and she is now know as the citrus skip rat as well, - how funny was that saying -love it, it is genius.

I would like to think that i would hold my head up high and probably try and say as little as possible, but also try to look happy... but time will tell how i will react,
your have behaved so well this was probably a long time coming

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spook · 07/10/2006 14:43

Oh sandpanch...you do what you're capable of doing. It's such an emotive moment I don't really think you can plan for it.
Whatever it is you do-rest assured you will always hold your head up high.

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Freckle · 15/11/2006 11:17

Spook, do you know what happened about the parking ticket???

mummaj · 15/11/2006 12:54

Spook This is the most entertaining thread I have EVER seen on MN! Congratulations! Not just for the thread but for relasing some of the tensions you must have built up over those 2.5 years... Now think of the fun you can have devising a name for the car registration documentation...

Ivor Rat-ala'orange

Sounds more like a french dish but it's the 1st thing that popped into my tiny brain!

MrsDoolittle · 15/11/2006 13:19

Another lurker here.

I can't believe that was 2.5 years ago
Feels like yesterday.

Spook may I also offer my support. What a fantastic thread!
All that pent up anger suddenly letting rip. Must have been marvellous.

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