It was never 'work stress', it's emotional abuse and you're going to get divorced because of it H! (part3)

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New thread!

As always I'm hopeless and can't link properly to my old thread Work stress? Err I don't think so mate'

Thank you everyone for finishing off the last thread- glad to be starting afresh actually! I did have a little chuckle about Greg the plumber (Phwoar!!) thanks H for the suggestion - us at Mumsnet ran with it and he sounds like my dream man haha!

Anyway - I'm upstairs as usual avoiding going down and seeing old King of the Castle in his throne. He came up half an hour ago in the hope of 'some action' but was told to bugger off - he's manageable at the moment because all of a sudden it's him who's 'scared to rock the boat' and keeps telling me how grateful if he is to have been allowed back - yack! (You didn't give me a lot of choice H though did you? You played every emotional card in your pack and then literally forced your way in!)

Anyway - I'm feeling strong, seeing the police tomorrow - and action plan will be in place!

Love to you all

Tinned veg soup does good vom sounds into the bog, plus it contains carrot bits.

ISTR that the carrot bits are actually bits of stomach lining, but I can't evidence that claim. Not on my iphone anyway. Anyone else prepared to consult google & report back?

I'm a lurker on your thread. Just wanted to say that taking 2-3 colon cleanse tablets the night before will give you 2-3 quick bowels movements in the morning. I take Aloe Pura from my local health store, but I only take 1 at night. It's not ideal but just a suggestion.

DustBunnyFarmer you're right, bits of stomach lining, I never knew that, yuck!!

Is that the origin of the phrase "puke your guts out", I wonder?
Imho, Grand Master Twatchops' plans sound like plans for a seduction.
Can your RL friends pop round for a spontaneous surprise party at yours, name, and support the Frozen theme?

Omg at all the carrots, veg soup and fruit cocktail down the loo . Way too funny.

"Chemist
Laxatives"

Poo troll

How are things today name ?

Oh alright thanks Marip

Birthday week is well under way round here at the mo and thankfully it's all about DD now - I've managed to dodge the Wednesday night out and have opted for a film and takeaway instead which is good.

But H has been laying it on really thick, flowers, cards, wants to plan a holiday etc - It's been tough - being under this kind of pressure makes me feel more vulnerable than usual, more in need of hugs, affection and support - and the only person that appears to be offering me all of that is my bloody abuser!

Don't worry though - after him having a straight run at being charming all evening he went into a right huff when I said I was going to bed and had a bit of a go that I don't go up when he goes up and now I'm going before him and he wants to spend time with me. I apologised a couple of times and said I was tired and then eventually I got a sigh off him and a 'fine, go' you are dismissed

I will never understand that! I'm glad though because I will admit there were times tonight when I looked at him and wondered whether change really was possible....of course it bloody isn't!!! Leopards and spots spring to mind!

Anyway, thanks for all your messages about puke and the squits! Had a laugh at the thought of a can of veg soup and some Del Monte down the loo haha! Reminds me of being at school and trying to break free from authoritarian control to have some fun......how things change!

Thankfully I've got the Freedom Programme this morning! Just need to try and get back to sleep - it's the anxiety that wakes me up at 2 or 3am at the moment annoyingly.

Speak later - thank you everyone so much

Name, you know what he is, don't forget. This charming man spat on you and didn't talk to you for months because DD2 was a girl.

Koko.

Name - he also didn't want to spend any time with any of you for months on end...funny that he decides now is the time to pretend to show that he 'really cares'.

And wasn't this the guy who said, c.1 week ago, "I'm not going to control when you go to bed [anymore]"? He can't even keep that promise long. Sheesh.

Glad you dodged the "birthday bullet", though. YY to the film being something girlie. Have to take issue with Frozen making [all] Daddies crazy: DP loves it! Mind, it's early days for us; bought it over the weekend.

The thing is even if you wore a T shirt saying 'You're a twat and I'm divorcing you' he would ignore you as he doesn't believe for one moment you will go a head with it.

PS It's my Birthday tomorrow as well, spending the evening watching a film and a takeaway with your children sounds perfect although I bet he will do something to make it all about him.

HB for tomorrow clutter!

I'm ok thanks everyone - I know what a total abusive weirdo he is - I just want this week out the way now!

But yeah, last night and my bedtime again - I said I wasn't feeling that great and was tired!

You know, the holiday planning could be a great cover for you this week. You start to plan a fantastic holiday together, I mean, you don't need to book it till next week, do you..(after 13th ), he thinks you're on board, and relaxes his guard = easier week for you

Yes you could keep a conversation going, punctuated by research about potential exotic destinations, for quite some time.... :)

total abusive weirdo he is - absolutely. Never, ever, ever forget that! Total abusive weirdos are worth divorcing for that description alone .

Well done on avoiding the intimate birthday do as well.

Have the holiday discussions, do the research, go by yourself with the girls

I agree with making it as easy as possible for you. I understand that you need to be true to yourself and you don't want to give him ammo for 'but last week we were booking a holiday and now you've had me arrested.'

But it really is about staying safe and sane this week And getting over rough ground smoothly. You can do it.

You could even have the traditional arguments over budget/flight duration with DCs/hotel v apartment for added authenticity (or is that just us?)

And his contract at work really needs to be signed before you can book anything.

That might just be you aftereight haha not sure h and I have ever had a traditional argument!

Yes definitely Band, he's having a meeting about his contract this week apparently, so fingers crossed!

Thank you everyone as always

Not feeling all that great today, think I might be coming down with something

Oh dear >lobs name a pack of paracetamol<

KOKO sweetness, you are doing so well.

bbf x

Ahh thanks Guys!

Was at the freedom programme this morning - good to get my focus back on track :)

Hi Name Yep he didnt keep his promise about not bullying you about bedtime for long did he Tosser.

Its all part of the cycle of abuse. I bet there are many lurkers reading this thread who are just as shocked as we are about the hoops a woman has to jump through just to keep safe. You are doing fantastically