Text message meant for someone else?

[springchickennolonger]

Looked at my phone this morning. Found a text message from Dp which was obviously not meant for me. It's incriminating -to another woman- but I don't want to draw any conclusions until I'm sure it's from his phone.

Is there any way it could be from somewhere else?

I'm a bit shocked tbh and not sure what to do.

My gut feeling is to gather more evidence before confronting him. Any advice?

Thanks.

Well done you.

Sounds like you are pretty together. Don't falter!

Good luck OP. You've done the right thing.
Both of you have to deal with whatever this turns out to be.

I hope you're ok

Good luck x

Best of British. You sound very lovely and worthy of someone who treats you with respect and kindness.

Good for you

good luck op, i am sorry you have found this text.

the language doesn't have to nor would it be how you 'know' him, i guess, as he's being a different person with her.

If it was innocent - the reply would have come back immediately. the fact she is still waiting speaks volumes. He knows the game is up and surfing the web for rentals right now...

Holy shit. Just looked at the frequent locations and it's scary how accurate that is. I had no idea that my phone was recording all this information!

Good luck OP, a horrible situation to be in and you seem to be handling it very well. Let us know how the showdown goes later

Well done OP.

Just be prepared for what he comes back with - denial.

Everything from someone used my phone, it's not me, the phone company said they got accounts confused etc

Then when that fails - no you cant see my phone. You don't trust me. I'm not pandering to your paranoid accusations...

Then finally yes there is someone but you drove me away and it's all your fault.

Personally I'd just sit quietly with a raised eyebrow and let him hang himself. Just throwing in the the odd comment "you surely can't think I'm going to believe that?" / "any more wild and frankly ridiculous lies you want to tell me?"/"it might allow you to maintain a tiny amount of dignity if you actually felt able to take responsibility as an adult for what you have done and tell me the truth".

Wow, OP, you are one classy lady! Your text back was totally brilliant reaction. Now awaiting to hear how he squirms out of trouble ...

Honestly, from reading the entire thread, you DO deserve better, you really do.

Been lurking on this thread and wanted to come out from under my stone to say you have reacted brilliantly, OP. Commendable.

round of applause

Well done OP on your response.

I am fuming on your behalf.

Well done OP. I'm looking forward to seeing his explanation. You've done the right thing.

I'm furious for you.

Well done for sending that text - I bet he's absolutely shitting his pants.

Great response. I hope things go as well as they can and you and your dd will be ok.

And locations thing on iPhone? Bloody scary!

Brilliant response!

Very good response, wonder what he comes up with.

My money is on complete and utter denial. He didn't write it, his phone didn't send it, and so without being at all responsible for it the only possible explanation is some weird technical glitch in the network.

If he denies it. Insist that he logs into his phone bill then look up who he was texting that night. Then search his bill for the number.

He will only need to ring his network provider to get an online pass code to view it online.

Well done for confronting the issue

Gee, thanks all. There's no response yet! Sent text 9.30 this morning. Yes, he's going to deny it and, yes, he's going to have to prove it wasn't him. Friend has just been here and she can't believe it either....language all wrong for his age and personality (ie grumpy middle-aged git).

And yes, he's going to blame me for "driving him away".

Don't take none of his crap! Go op !

Any bets on whether or not he tries the incredibly stupid "someone else nabbed my phone and was messing around with it at work" excuse, hoping you didn't see what time it was sent??

I don't know.

I think he will be in touch with the OW today, and they might decide to go for it.

I hope you are prepared as much as you can be, OP.

Wow, you sent it at 9.30am and still no response? When are you expecting him home? Can't imagine what his opening gambit is going to be. Good luck, OP, you sound great