Perspective required on Facebook

[Cockmomo]

This sounds pathetic writing this down as it is about Facebook. My boyfriend will not accept my friend request on Facebook. He says he only uses it for work networking and doesn't really use it, although I know he's recently updated his photo. He says there is no reason for me to be friends with him on there as he doesn't put his personal/family stuff on there. We had a bit of an argument over it a few weeks back and he got quite defensive over it and said that I should just accept it and trust him. Am I being unreasonable to question his reason for not accepting me?

For whatever reason, this man is not anything like as invested in the relationship as you are. He may be taking things slowly post-separation and not wanting to make it too obvious to his XW or DC or mutual friends that he is seeing someone else, but given that you have been seeing him for a year, that would make it quite likely that you are his 'will do for now' partner. Or he may well still be married or seeing someone else. For all you know, his parents may be aware that he is a fannyrat and be prepared to be polite and friendly to any woman he happens to bring along to a family occasion because they don't see his relationships as much of their business.

To not really care about being Facebook friends with your significant other is one thing.

To remain stubborn when they've made it clear it's important to them is another.

Plus all the other stuff? Red flag city. Something isn't adding up here with the wife situation.

I think you need to delve further. This isn't about Facebook.

Mm it's a tricky one, I met my Dh before Facebook, he was separated but still amacable with his ex wife -used to meet for the occasional drink.mainly to sort out selling their house. I can see that if Facebook had been around he wouldn't have friended me simply because it would have hurt his wife's feelings. Like your DP he waited 2 years to sort out the divorce, possibly longer simply because he is not that organised.

When Facebook arrived he had a message from ex wife saying she didn't want to be friends with him, I guess seeing pictures of our children would be too painful. I wasn't bothered by their friendship and the way he cared about hurting her feelings highlighted to me that he was a decent bloke.

OP I'm curious about what he does in the music business that keeps him busy in the school holidays though, and would be inclined to agree with others that he is seeing his family, sorry.

Red flag