Perspective required on Facebook

[Cockmomo]

This sounds pathetic writing this down as it is about Facebook. My boyfriend will not accept my friend request on Facebook. He says he only uses it for work networking and doesn't really use it, although I know he's recently updated his photo. He says there is no reason for me to be friends with him on there as he doesn't put his personal/family stuff on there. We had a bit of an argument over it a few weeks back and he got quite defensive over it and said that I should just accept it and trust him. Am I being unreasonable to question his reason for not accepting me?

Do you mean he goes back home to the wife and kids of a weekend? I have a gut feeling you are the weekday gf and that actually his wife doesn't know about you, or thinks he has stopped his "affair" with you...

Sounds interesting.

Does he work during the week too?

He moved out the marital home early last year and lives with his parents.

Have you met his parents?

This is all very odd

I'm so sorry but he is clearly still with his wife. I would bet my life on it.

Have you been to his house?

you said your worry is historical stuff that he doesn't want you to see... such as?

He works during the week during school holidays due to the nature of his work being busy then.

What is his job?

Have you tried creating a new Facebook account and searching him with it? That way you can tell if he has blocked you, you could also search his wife and see what her account is like

I have the opposite problem, lots of work people have added me over the years, and now I have to be semi professional at all times. I thought about setting up a seperate friends and family profile, but it was too much hassle. I am just wondering how relevant Facebook is to his job.

Yeah I've met his parents but not been round to his parents for about 6 months. Been out for a meal with them.

And when he is working during the school holidays, you see him at weekends then?

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He's a liar liar pants on fire. What other reason could there be? If he uses it for work, then what is the problem you seeing it? Ask him that.

No he works the weekends as well so he's away for the whole week

Why is his work busier during the school holidays? Is he in a band? My BIL is busier in term time because we are in a student city and he plays more gigs term time.

Soooo...you don't see him at all during those times? A whole 6 weeks during the summer holidays for example? He works every single day when it is school holiday times?

You've never met his friends because they are all mutual friends of him and his ex? Did he lose all his friends or does he still see them, just without you?

It sounds like there is lots of secrecy and separate lives being lived here.

When you said divorce proceedings are starting, is that your divorce or his?

Very odd. I would ask him if he will show you his profile. If he has nothing to hide he surely will happily do this.

you've been together a year and he's never met your friends?

How do you know he's only just told his wife about you?

FWIW I don't have my DH as a friend on facebook. I ignored his request because I know he'll just moan about how much time I spend on there and be stupid about conversations and who I'm friends with.

I don't feel the need to social network with my husband.

I see him during the school holidays on a Sunday for a bit and then he is away again. Yes my divorce has been started. From what he says they all seem to be friends with his wife. I've met some of the people he works with.

Facebook aside, are you happy with this set up?

All sounds a bit odd.