Hi Guys I know I am a pain but I am really upset.

[Karenthetoadslayer]

Toad must have broken into the house when we were away and took a large and valuable cutlery set that my parents gave me. Previously I had the set in storage, but I took everything out of storage at the beginning of the year and when we went on holiday, I put valuables in a "secret place" in the house.

I just wanted to put everything back and realised the set is missing. He was after that and tried to take it, when he got evicted (I had covered the empty boxes and saw that these had been messed with).

I have no evidence that he took it, of course.

I wondered why he had taken the silver polish - now I know!

Better luck next time, Tree.

DS has now started counselling and we are just hanging round for him. He was quite happy to do that now and I am pleased about this.

Does the tree-avoiding Toad know that you have made a unilateral decision, or rather his son has, regarding his well-being?

They don't like us doing things that make us feel good about ourselves y'know ...

If you're pleased about something, you just know he's going to be furious!

Parallel universing here too!

Damage done by the tree will be covered by insurance, probably, if you have it. What a shame it missed him though. You'll have to tell it to do better next time - but there won't be a next time, of course! Still, it may pass the news on along the tree-grapevine and they'll all be looking out for Toad whenever they want to shed a branch. Just imagine, every tree in the country looking to knock him on the bonce

Glad ds is happy to do the counselling. What a sensible lad you have!

It is rather peculiar, I think even Toad felt that, because he wrote an email trying to find reasons why this branch came down when and how it did, when he was due to arrive and right in front of the entrance. It must have got blown across the garden quite a bit.

Some confused squirrels were hopping around it earlier this evening.

DS seems to be getting on well with the counsellor and wants to continue. He is all for a scientific approach and the counsellor seems to have grasped that.

Glad today is over! So are the kids and I treated them to McDonalds.

As long as he knows it was intended for him, I guess that will have to do.

I hope eau de Toad has dispersed by now...

'eau de Toad' he must have showered in it, still lingering. Masking 'odeur de Toad' usually.

Right, so we have finally completed the famous 'repair works to the conservatory' successfully in spite of Toad's childish interfering and in spite of mother nature's interference too.

So we can move on to the next issue: Toad volunteering to get the chain saw out in the garden at the weekend. Thanks, but no thanks. Wood swiftly advertised as firewood and hopefully getting collected asap. Phew.

Toad having 'strop on' .

Ten emails later...

I am wondering whether all emails are being reported as breaches of non mol?

Hello, waiting on my own dose of "the Master of the Universe sweeps in to save the day here too!"

If it gets to ten emails, I shall apply for a court order variation as I too am solving the latest round of problems that my life is (more theft!). I too have 'creative solutions' to confound him but am inspired by your brilliant solution to your problem.

Isn't it amazing that when we get shot of them, we learn just how capable we actually are now we're not getting our heads patted!

I'm actually in a strop because I'm getting divorced and it's a rather large headache in my life. To top off my day of problems (well possibly to top it off, undoubtedly more is incoming any time now...) the Mother Component has just rung up with her own version of "Mistress of the Universe sweeps in to save the day" with a completely impractical solution to my problem. Having been told, politely, it's not necessary she's got "The Strop"

I now know how I ended up married to a fuckwit.

WWK would that be a son of a motherfuckwit?

So glad that bit's out the way, Karen!

WWK - yes, it's shocking how much the parentals can influence what we consider to be acceptable in our relationships, isn't it? :(

Thumb yes I am hugely relieved and also that he behaved himself and there was no trouble. Apart from wanting to come back again to do jobs, but that was to be expected and dealt with.

Spent all morning getting quotes for other repairs and shall have a well deserved coffee now.

Wll done Karen - so hugely stressful, and you dealt with it so well.

By chance I have discovered this forum 'psychopath free' which seems to provide a lot of useful information about dealing with abusers in relation to children.

Sounds excellent! Well done on all counts.

Jux I should now receive 5x redundancy money, as per letter today. This morning I was made redundant again. I will go to ACAS with this.

His filing system isn't up to much, is it, else he'd know that he'd already done it. He clearly hasn't a leg to stand on if he's saying you're not needed at work. ACAS should make mincemeat of him. Ho ho ho!

karen, have you checked whether you are named as a director? If you are then he is up Bournville Boulevard without a paddle.

companycheck.co.uk/director/index

If you are being made redundant, isn't he sort of forbidden from employing anyone to do your job, for at least a reasonable amount of time?
How will he cope?

Bogey I was just wondering about your comment on another thread and it took me ages to 'get' it

No, I am not named as a director, unfortunately, but I may be a silent partner. I am currently having a go at investigating this, but it's not easy.

All this litigating is bloody hard work.

Ooh, which comment was that? I do say a lot of rather random bollocks so I think you could be forgiven for not getting it!

Can we help in your investigations in anyway? Maybe post on Legal? Many hands make light work, apparently!

Comment involved a lot of mentioning of 'arseholes'

thank you for your offer of help.

The last week has been a bit more of a nightmare than usual.

My priority was to finalise our/her choice of schools for DD and she has now made her choice which I am pleased with. Luck has it that we are within five minutes walking distance from that school, so we should be accepted.

I need to find out some more about my rights to the business.

I need to log my employment claim for unfair dismissal with ACAS first thing tomorrow. I have to find out how to go about this.

So I am now off to Legal, as you suggested to find out how to do that.

Job done! Two lovely ladies collected most of the wood just for their wood burner. So with the help of DS the four of us were sawing wood all afternoon and it's all cleared up now. no toady intervention required.