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Original poster

For those who have followed my SIL threads, things have gotten a whole lot worse and I am so upset...

167 replies

Northerner · 19/09/2006 14:45

Deep breath.

So SIL asks me to ahve her kids 3 weekends in a row for sleepover, I say no, we'll do 2. 3 is too many.

She gets upset and speaks to MIL. MIL tells me SIL is upset. I am cross, MIL tells me to let SIL calm down.

Have spoken to SIL today who has called a meeting for me and her at her house tonight as she is upset and dissapointed in things I have been saying to MIL about her. What MIL has told her God only knows. Yes I have moaned about her in the past, but so has MIL, so why has she been stirring the s**t?

Have phone MIl she denied all knowledge and called us silly little girls, said she's sick of being in the middle and 'she'll see me around sometime'

I am so upset at work, and now have to face my SIL at her house tonight.

What a F**k up.

OP posts:
ssd · 19/09/2006 20:56

northener, please come back and tell us how it went!

TLV · 19/09/2006 21:04

hope everything went ok

cod · 19/09/2006 21:06

Message withdrawn

Reece · 19/09/2006 21:09

Back yet?

ssd · 19/09/2006 21:18

whats keeping her?

doesn't she know we're waiting!

IvortheEngine · 19/09/2006 21:35

Has anyone else decided to be more assertive with walk-over-types as a result of this thread? I know I have. I'm practising the phrase right now:- "I'm sorry, but we've decided on a quiet Christmas at home this year."

Another one watching with bated breath, here. I hope it has gone well for you, Northerner.

Twiglett · 19/09/2006 21:43

so?

what happened?

cod · 19/09/2006 21:44

Message withdrawn

Twiglett · 19/09/2006 21:45

snort

NotQuiteCockney · 19/09/2006 21:46

Can you get designer rope?

And surely SIL would get one of her other minions to do it, rather than doing it herself?

cod · 19/09/2006 21:46

Message withdrawn

FrannyandZooey · 19/09/2006 21:46

Ivor. assertive types would never say "I'm sorry"

you aren't sorry and you have nothing to apologise for

"We have decided on a quiet Christmas alone this year, and I am really looking forward to it." Be positive!

IvortheEngine · 19/09/2006 21:55

You're right, FrannyandZooey. It's going to go down like the proverbial lead balloon and bring on wailing and gnashing of teeth and "No-body loves us" like you wouldn't believe, but you're right. I was asked our Christmas plans by my bil's wife in August. I skipped over it, saying we hadn't thought that far ahead. If I do follow this course of action, will you promise to contibute to my thread when the proverbial hits the fan? Please?

IvortheEngine · 19/09/2006 21:57

Where did that hyphen in nobody come from? I don't know. One glass of wine and one eye on the tv and look what happens!

UrsulatheSeaWitch · 19/09/2006 22:42

Wot, no news?

I was following this at work with bated breath (couldn't post, sodding customers kept ringing) and I was hoping Northerner would have been back by now - I couldn't believe she has never ever told her SIL to get stuffed (well yes I could, anything for a relatively quiet life and all that, but this summons to the court of Queen SIL was just outrageous - hope it hasn't come to fisticuffs )

VeniVidiVickiQV · 19/09/2006 22:44

oh northerner update!

UrsulatheSeaWitch · 19/09/2006 22:47

I think we should organise a communal slapfest for the SIL - like the hysterical woman in Airplane - form an orderly queue (no baseball bats please)

Saturn74 · 19/09/2006 22:48

still no news?

at what time do we scramble the search party?

SherlockLGJ · 19/09/2006 22:50

Well..... if she was around to read my post she is in one of two of the best wine bars in town and SIL or no SIL will not be rushing home.

Especially if she got a window table in Hedleys.

hunkermunker · 19/09/2006 22:54

My personal favourite from Cod on this thread is:

sill y beaviour

Sounds foreign. He wears a scarf, that's for sure. And has floppy hair. Sill Y Beaviour. Speaks with an accent. Smells of garlic and, oddly, Fishermans Friends.

Anyhoo.

Northerner, I hope you didn't get the red mist and scratch 'er eyes aht, like I may have done in your shoes [common]

dmo · 19/09/2006 22:56

come on its nearly 11pm you must be home by now or dead
tell your dh later let us know first

IvortheEngine · 19/09/2006 23:30

Yes, dh can wait! How many of us are going to check this first thing tomorrow?

Pages · 20/09/2006 03:25

Hi there

I can really symapathise. Didn't read your original thread but something similar has happened to me recently with my mother in the middle of me and SIL and my mother and SIL have sided with each other and blamed me for it all, and the rest of my family save for older brother have joined in. My mother has been gossipping about everyone for years. My SIL has told me she never wants to see me again.

I hope your meeting went ok and that you don't end up being the scapegoat in all of this.

Twiglett · 20/09/2006 06:15

WTF happened northerner ol' gal ol' frien'

Miaou · 20/09/2006 07:15

Northerner..... what happened?