Aibu to lock my husband out of the house?

[Rebecca2014]

I am fed up with his bullshit and lies.

In the last few months he has bothered to go out with me and our dd once, just once and I had the pleasure of paying for it out of my child tax credit money. He works constantly, he has one full time job and 2 part time jobs but still complains he is skint after paying all the bills. He is at work 6/7 days a week and doesn't come home on the weekends at all, he tells me sleeps in his car at night. When he is at home his in a bad mood and doesn't want to do anything.

He never helps with childcare, I have to always ask my family for help. He has 2 days a week off from his main job, on one of those days I wanted to get my hair done but he said no as his chosen to work on that day. I am fed up with having to keep depending on my poor family to babysit because my twat of a husband won't take a day off work.

He told me on Sunday he had to go to a meeting in the evening, okay I found that a bit strange but went along with it. I checked his email this morning as I have the password and he lied, it is a work party with dinner and drinks and he could bring his partner along. So he has lied to me again, god knows how many lies he has told me.

I am so angry and when he comes back home on Monday I want to lock him out of the house. I am afraid legally I don't have a leg to stand on due fact we rent and both our names are on the tenancy.

How on earth can a family with a full time job and TWO part time jobs be eligible for tax credits?? And how are they 'yours'?

I don't suppose he has much time for anything if he has 3 jobs!

Sorry I meant child benefit. It is in my name.

I would be angry about the moods, and the lying about the meeting. BUT I think the key otherwise is do you need the money? I presume for him to be working 3 jobs you do?

Seems unfair to be livid with your partner because they are working their fingers to the bone. Why does he have so many jobs?

Child benefit may be in your name but that doesn't make it your money in that sense. It makes if family money surely?

Your 'twat' of a husband won't take a day off work so you can get your hair done? This can't be real??

Do you think he has a second family or something like that?

Child benefit money is for buying things the child needs, it is not yours. And if he is working 3 jobs to support the family is it really fair for him to not have time to relax on his days off. Lying about the work party was dodgy tho.

Can't you enable him to drop his PT jobs by working yourself?

Can't you enable him to drop his PT jobs by working yourself?

WSS

What does wss even mean?

It's admirable that he works so hard BUT you make it sound as he uses working as his ticket out of being a father.

Do you think he's intentionally done that? Does he really have three jobs or do you think he's lying and keeps up the charade so he can do what he likes?

I'd be a bit suspicious with the lying tbh.

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DO you think he's actually working, or do you think he is seeing other women?

Agree it sounds bad but also fail to see Child benefit as "yours". That's family money.

Have you ever been to see him at any of the extra jobs? I would be very very suspicious.

How can he be working three jobs and still be skint all the time? Is there a lot of debt, or do you think he's up to something you don't know about?

Don't lock him out, you don't have the legal right to.

But there's no point things going on like this, it's no way to live, so you need to talk to him and see how things can change. If nothing changes then I don't see why you would want to stay on like this.

Why does he sleep in his car rather than come home? That sounds odd. Cars are so uncomfortable!

Tbh you sound like you are already living separately with your child benefit and his wages. He doesn't come home at night.

He works 3 jobs (but is always skint), he doesn't ever have time off and sleeps in his car. The man is either a saint or a cheat. Is he a saint?

I guess that sums it up Barbarian!

Why can't you work as well?
There's something wrong with your situation. If I was working 3 jobs I would want a break myself, I feel sorry for him.

With the two jobs he has he picks and chooses what days/times he wants to do. I would work part time but I would want to work when he has his days off due to childcare issues but he refuses to compromise with me or sit down and work it out. He wants to have the ultimate flexibility in life while I suffer and have figure everything else out.

The last few weeks he has been working 7 days a week and I find it hard to believe he is always at work. Especially now I got proof on Sunday evening he will not be at work but going to a work do. He does have debt he has to pay off but recently he had to take another pay day loan out....this is after him working all the time. It just makes no sense to me as when he was working just 5 days a week we managed to pay all bills etc, fine.

OP, do you believe that he is working at the weekends or doing something else? What is his income, and are you struggling as a family to cover your bills? Is there a reason why you don't work at the weekends instead?