Dating thread 79

[louby44]

Wow! 79 already...

Welcome to all daters, new, experienced or tearing your hair out at the frustration!

That is weird, Jarlin. I feel like OLD is not the real world - people's responses there seem to be totally different to 'old fashioned' dating!! Next!

Hi all. .. am back after holiday... jarlin what kind of response is that ? sounds like he was on another date and is waiting to hear before responding properly.
I was meant to have date 2 tonight. .. but travel was delayed , got home later than planned , plus unloading etc ... so I asked to reschedule. . He understood. . or so he said.. but not sure!!

Jarlin that's rubbish! I don't get these guys sometimes. I've suspended/hidden my POF account. Going to have a little break from it!

It gets a bit much doesn't it!

Bloody hell Jarlin what a weird response! Do you think he is keeping you on the back burner?

I actually think that old fashioned dating is probably the best way to go, it's just so hard finding men that way

What an odd response Jarlin ... does sound like there could be someone else around?
Bit entitiled too.

Good date with Walt today!

Sounds promising AndCat

I'm chatting to a guy on twitter who is 4 years younger than me...I usually go older, is 4 years younger ok? He is certainly more literate and entertaining than the guy a year older who talks in txt spk and calls me babe and darl (in my defense I was bored this evening and trying to distract myself from the fact it has been 2 weeks with no contact from the last man...not my choice )

Twitter = Tinder, not sure how I got that wrong...

Jarlin he sounds like a total knob....onwards and upwards I'll march with you (anyone else welcome to join us)

Jarlin - I hope you didn't answer him and you are really busy from now on! MrH has not been in touch, shame really he was very amusing!

Tish - I only go older, but I guess it depends on what you are after. I got a lecture about Mr H being too old...its OK now but in 10 years time....I don't know why I had bothered discussing it with this person in RL...a smug married...who doesn't seem to get that its was a date...not an engagement. Text speak I find OK....but strange spelling mistakes I find really hard to get over!!!

Week passed since my last date with the man who wants to be friends, I really fancy him and we had a great date. He is still texting me, not flirty text just asking how I am and what I'm doing. Last text was 11pm last night to let me know he's watching match of the day...what's his booked game. I told him I fancied him and that I am mot on pof to make friends....he replied that he was sad I didn't want to be friends, he cares about me. How can I be friends with a man I slept with and fancy. Bant maybe you could give me your male opinion, is this bloke messing with me. I don't think he's into me but don't understand why he keeps sending me messages, I made it clear that I fancy him and don't want to be friends. His ex cheated on him and he's having problems seeing his child. I am a good listener and think he might be attracted to my caring nature.

Confussed?? should I just ignore him.

Wish I could give advice instead of asking, jarlin your date sounds as confusing as my last date, I liked my date but he's not asked me out but keeps messaging me.

Jarlin, yes, it sounds like he might be going on other dates and is waiting to see how they pan out. But it's still a weird response - I'd be feeling deflated as well. Are you chatting to anyone else?

gotta, I agree with Jarlin. If he only wants to be friends, and you don't, it seems to me that it's better not to be in contact with him. He's taking up space in your head that you could be giving to other people.

Tis, I think 4 years younger is fine.

Justatoe, good luck for your date today. Let us know how it goes!

Meanwhile, I had a huge shock yesterday when Walt mentioned Mumsnet! I have no idea if it was just an innocent mention or if he was trying to warn me that he'd seen this thread. My reaction must have seemed very weird to him - I probably looked terrified, gave a very cagey response and changed the subject as soon as I could!

Jarlin, it is very draining and after getting over a marriage that was making me depressed I just want to find some positive in all this dating but its hard to.
I did ignore the book but he keeps contacting me, and it sucks because he's the first guy I have been attracted to for years.

I know I should ignore him and suppose I hope he is going to ask for a 2nd date, how pathetic is that.

Cat, your right about taking up headspace. Even my ex tells me his problems and I think I need to be firm, seems that the men that come in to my life have issues and in my last relationship I tried to fix my ex problems. Glad I cancelled pof date I had Saturday. Didn't feel right and the guy he was ott with comments.

Thanks jarlin, ex has my kids today so I'm going to go out and keep busy, will ignore him now. And see if he goes away or asks me out, think he will just disappear but he lives very local so bound to bump in to him one day.

Nice looking bloke is messaging me on pof and I will see what happens.

No crying, already did that. Felt down after dtd but coming on here really helped me.

Gotta - he sounds odd. I completely agree that anything good for you should make you feel good and positive and if it doesn't, move on. Maybe some people on these sites are attention seekers? I've been trying to shake off the dodgy one if mine too and he doesn't seem to want to go quietly. It's just weird.