Mumsnet Poll: how wonderful/ useless is your dh/dp on a scale of 1-10

[TearingMyHairOut]

Just want to hear from other mums how useless/ wonderful their other halves are and why. 10 being fabulour and 1 being totally crap. Also would be nice to know age of children and wheteher he has changed in any way as they grow up?

I booked in for w hole day at health place and took MIL with me so he couldn't possible do that. He went to FIL and FIL looked after babs while hubby went on computer and did "work"! I don't know the answer without causing a row...any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

Am seperated from H but would give him 9/10 when it comes to his abilities as a father, he loses a point though for his inability to realises that fruit shoots are evil!

7 to 8, I reckon. But then I'm about the same.

tearingmyhairout. noooooooo Book the whole week end and give MIL and FIL full instructions that he has to do this himself.

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10/10

ds 5
dd 3

He changes nappies,cooks,does the dishwasher,hoovers,keeps children occupied so I can come on mumsnet,does the weekly shop with the children on a saturday so I can have a lie in.

10/10 for being hardworking/dedicated etc in his professional life/job and therefore making it possible to be a SAHM.

7.5/10 (and slowly improving) for being a good dad. He loses points for never having changed a nappy, not doing many bathtimes (but thats more of a confidence thing which is a bit sad cos I know he coulddo it if he tried),little stuff like that. Otherwise he loves playing with ds and looks after him when I need toget other stuff done or have a lie in or a night out etc.

5/10 in the 'house and home' department though. I do all the diy. He has man-blindness quite frequently regarding tidying up and stuff (although i am workingonhim), but gets points for cooking. Lovely cook when he puts the effort in. Loses a few points for needing to be treated like a toddler to get him out ofthe house thismorning.
"Dh - we are leaving in 10minutes"
"Dh we are leaving in 5minutes"
"We need to leavenow -no you haqven't got time to finish a cupof tea ffs"

10 in every way. No doubt. Can't believe she puts up with me!

10 as a dad
8 for domestic stuff
until recently, about, oh, 3 for taking his share of the responsibility for our future. Slowly on his way up the scale there

(ds 16 months)

9.9 for my dh. LOs are 6 and 3, and he's been brilliant since before they came along. He's far more domesticated than I am, and I bet he'd make a better FTD than I do a FTM. The only reason he doesn't get a full 10 is that he can be a bit hidebound and stuck in his ways.

I have always tried to do all the night feeds, he only ever occasionally did a weekend night feed. At first it was because he had a horrendous 50mile commute by car, and I feared for his life if he had to cope with that without enough sleep, and subsequently because I and the children depend so much upon him, and he does so much, that he needs his sleep more than I need mine.

Tiptoes,is your dh a sahd?

dp is a 10

could drop a minute point of a point for being a little remiss on discipline but he is a great dad and loving partner

ds's are 14,9 3 and 7 months
dd is 11

Mine would score 100 out of 10 even though he's away a lot of the time.

10/10.

DSs are 10 and 8.

Fab Dad; fab husband!

He takes the rubbish out and sometimes clears away piles of newspapers. Oh he also does more food shopping than me - maybe 2 then??? Nah - still 1/10
The worst bit is I'm still putting up with it after 25 years!

10 out of 10 because he's a loving dad and can think of nothing better on a weekend than spending it with us, he never wants to be away from us and we are the same with him.

He's also really good to me and works his hardest so that me DD, and DS have the best life.

10 out of 10 when he is well, which is more than fine

ooh I am a lucky woman (but don't tell him in case he gets lazy LOL)

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My dp scores 10 for being a wonderful man but on a scale of usefulness he is in negative equity.

10/10
he has got better and better as a dad
he is fab

As a Dad and around the house, my DH is 10/10 ... actually probably 15/10 ....
As a partner he is fab in lots of ways but still struggles with 'emotional stuff' ... he tries very hard to understand me and my emotional rollercoaster and any lesser man would have left me to it by now I believe ... but we still have moments when he looks at me as if I am an absolute nutter and shakes his head, muttering, "I just don't get what the problem is!" So in terms of emotional support he used to be 1/10 and now is probably 6/10.

10/10 as a partner, 11/10 as a dad but ds is only 21 months old so far.

welll as he has rated himself as a 9/10 who am i to argue?! LOL

NO, seriously, i give him 1 million / 10 because he is my rock, he is the BEST dad and although things are on the rocks with regards to jobs/houses etc, he is always there to give me a hug and tell me it will all be ok.