Damned if I do.....

[Everybodyleaves]

Ok, lawyer has just advised me to cease STBXH alternate w/end access due to many issues pending resolution (hopefully over next few weeks/couple of months). Last resort I'm afraid.

Knowing it would therefore be a while before DCs overnights resumed, earlier today I asked STBXH for details of the camping trip he had mentioned prior to all this blowing up as none had been forthcoming. He had been aware DCs were unlikely to be going yet had been talking about it with them on phone calls this week. It turned out to be starting tomorrow.

I then offered to let DCs go as a) it is a holiday for them with him b) it might be the last overnights for a long while as he can be VERY stubborn and c) thought it would be a nice gesture as aunts/cousins also going too (just found that out today too).

I asked for one condition to be met: that he agreed to return DCs to me when camping trip ended on Thursday (he was originally due to have then for 11 nights). He refused. He has previously not returned DCs to me when due to, hence my asking.

Many angry texts, calls and two confused and upset children later, he is blaming me for them not going.

Why do I even bother trying???

Perhaps you ought to not to be criticising people for not to read posts is, as you didn't bother to read my apology.

Seeing as how you are so quick to take offence when people misunderstand you.

I am to have completely lost ability to type in coherent sentences.

However, I don't appreciate being described as thick as mince after apologising for misunderstanding a post that wasn't particularly clear in the first place.

Oh, I give up.

flippinada - I got sarky thickasmince comments aimed at ME is what I meant. Does that make it clearer?

I don't understand what was hard to understand about "you've had the legal advice you should really follow that and he won't have a stick to beat you with"

I am utterly confused as to why I'm getting a hard time on this thread. I read the thread. I read all the replies. I posted nicely and pleasantly giving my experience and an example and thought I'd even explained myself nicely when my reply was jumped on.

Obviously there's something here I am just not understanding.

But really at this point, the best thing I can do is hide the thread. My posts are not helpful to the OP or to anyone else and they're derailing the thread, which isn't supposed to be about me, it's supposed to be a supportive thread.

I would like to reiterate that I really was trying to be helpful to everybodyleaves, and that I was not my intention to come across as if I hadn't read the OP or the thread, that I did read the thread and all the replies before I posted, and that I wish everybodyleaves all the very best in trying to sort this out with her ex, but, again, that the very best advice that I can give anyone in this sort of situation is to follow the advice your solicitor gives you to the letter. Don't try to do a man like this a favour, because it won't work, it WILL come back and bite you on the arse and it WILL end up causing stress and hassle that would be better avoided.

I too am genuinely sorry for misunderstanding you as it's very clear from your subsequent posts that you are trying to help.

I did what I always tell myself not to do, and posted without thinking things through and without reading properly - there's no excuse for that.

And, just in case it's not clear, apologies also for the snarky posts . Won't go on cos I don't want to derail the thread any further.

Thanks for replying to my pm isthisanacidtest

I didn't intend any of my responses to you to be sarcastic but reading them again, I can see how some could also be taken as being that. I was going for calm and factual!

Thanks for your input. Take care