DP still out, please can someone tell me to stop crying

[fatedtopretend]

DP and I don't live together, when he goes out he tends to stay out a day or 2 usually. He invited DD and I to sleep at his last night, went to meet his friends for a few hours around 6pm and still isn't back.
I had a missed call around 1am from one of his friend's phones (his phone will have died) but nothing else.

I really hope he gets back before DD wakes up, she will be gutted.

I fear there is much more to this than meets the eye....initially.

Some of your posting is quite worrying....

What do you want to happen?

Agreeing strongly with what others have said. Your first responsibility is to your daughter. Having a relationship with this guy is currently an obstacle to your being able to parent your daughter properly. That may not be the case for ever but you can't count on it changing. You need to extricate yourself from him, get some counselling and focus on trying to feel OK about yourself and being on your own.

I don't want to be harsh and judge you as you are obviously struggling with this and you sound miserable, but the reality is you can't be an adequate parent to your daughter and be with this guy. You need to make a choice now.

Does op live with parents ? If so may explain why she is reluctant to simply go home, as it might mean admitting there is a problem.

Have nothing much to add other than his behaviour is abusive.

Nothing constructive to add except to say that I am constantly amazed at the shite that some women put up with.

It's okay he doesn't have a drink problem, only a coke problem...

WTAF?

Why are you with this 'man'? Is your DD his?

OP, please find a way to ask for some real life help.

Some of these posts are going to make the OP feel even less capable.

You are capable, but you also must ask for help. It's OK to ask for help, not many people could cope in this situation, and especially not if their sense of worth has taken a prolonged battering.

Please do ask for some help. Things can only get better if you do.

You are choosing this whilst you are fully aware of his issues, you have no place to complain.

Exposing your dd to a coke head?

You deserve SS on your fecking doorstep!

I think the OP was looking for some sympathetic replies, 'poor thing' etc. she hasn't got that so probably won't be back. She clearly isn't ready to face the truth of the situation.

OP if you are still reading this, please listen to what people are saying. Forget about this poor excuse for a 'D'P and put your daughter first. She should be your priority, not moping around after a coke head. Please get help

Ooooh surprise. Op has disappeared. How long before she's back pleading heart break again. She's read all our concerns about her daughter and chooses to ignore and prioritise herself. How sad.

I hope she does feel she can come back when she's ready.

fatedtopretend - see how hurt you are that you are at the bottom of priorities of somebody you love.

Like your child is the bottom of your priorities. Do you think your child is hurting? Let down by both you and him?

I hope she does come back, when she feels she can. She must be in a truly horrendous place at the moment. I can't imagine living with all of that uncertainty and angst.

But, as I said in my last post, no sympathy. That won't help her. OP needs support to be strong and I hope she has someone in RL to give her that.