Secrets we want to tell but can't

[LizzieBelle]

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

mumtobe that vicar is hot!! high five

Winner! Haha :)

Yoyo WTF They SHOULD have told you what on earth did they have to gain by not telling you. grandchildren

Curiouslygrumpy, I don't think they'd have ever told me! It was only when I was out for coffee with my mum the other week and my exH came up in conversation. I saw that I am convinced that his affair that ended us wasn't his first (and said why). She said "no it wasn't".

Honestly, that man broke my heart.

I have been having an affair with a MM, for 9 years. I am married, though not happily. Complicated, can't leave.
It's more a FWB than an affair TBH, I am happy with this, I don't want him to leave his DW. He makes my home life more bearable.

Carbediem ... Thanks

The sound of dh chewing his food makes me want to stick pins in my eyes

A) I fancy my dentist. He's hot and smells gorgeous. Can't wait for my appointment on Thursday!!

B) I'm still in contact with my first love. We both acknowledge we should be together but don't want to split up our families. We fantasise regularly about what could have been. We meet for sneaky drinks every now and again.

C) it was I, who put the laxative laced coleslaw in the fridge at uni to catch out the food thief. I wasn't to knowthat said thief was actually bulimic...

ChangelingToday I agree. The sound of my DH eating can drive me mad. Also the sound of my DM eating drives me crazy. I have had to leave the room on many occasions. I'm honest with my DH and have to make an excuse when my DM stays over.

DP was close friends with a woman, and I know her eldest child is not her ex-husband's. He knows, but the child doesn't, and the child's father doesn't, they broke up just before she found out she was pregnant. None of her/his family know. I believe she got together with her husband to avoid being a single parent - she was 18, and the babysitter of his child. I've heard the story of how she gradually seduced him.

The thing is, the woman is vile. DP is not friends with her any longer, she tried her hardest to break us up. She's physically attacked DP as well. There have been a few times I have seriously fantasized about revealing this secret, because she's a seriously horrible woman, who once in a while still attempts to contact DP to stir things up.

However, I can't be that spiteful, and I worry the most it would accomplish is upset for the child (now a teenager). I wobble about it sometimes, as I also don't think it's fair that he doesn't know his birth father, especially as the man who raised him was physically abusive as well.

Same, Changeling and Crazy8, except I haven't kept it a secret. I either leave the room or block the ear closest to him. He gets very offended but I have a proper physical response to him eating. It's a recognised disorder though - misophonia . I'm at Level 6 on the self test scale.

I can't stand secrets like that, shocked. I mean it's a basic in life surely, to know ones parents...

A family member is in a controlling marriage, her husband tells her what colour she can and can't die her hair, what she can and can't wear who she can be friends with etc. No one knows and I only found out when her mum told me by mistake after a few drinks, she then tried to back track and told me not to say anything. I always thought the husband was a bit of a twat and this now confirms it.

A nasty girl was sending dd anonymous messages online.

After I told her mum and she denied her daughter would ever do that (while daughter looked very uncomfortable and squirmy), I replied telling her some very nasty things I thought of her.

Because she can't ever tell her mum...

She stopped harassing my daughter though.

I wish as soon as DH told me he already had children and was still married (but separated 6 months before I met him) I had ended the relationship.

I wouldn't change our DD's for the world and I do love my DH but I thought it would get easier / I would get used to it. But no. I wish it was just our family of 4.

Marking place

I'm pregnant and we're delighted but don't want to tell anyone before I get to 12 weeks. I'm struggling to hide my all day sickness and we fear we will be 'outed' before we get to tell people ourselves. We want to tell our family and friends in our own way when the time comes and not have some twat announce OUR news before we get to tell people

I'm another one who got pregnant AOP -thanks for not letting me be the only one puddleduck. I had been with my partner around 6 months, and we went through a bad patch and he threatened to leave, I got my period that morning and decided not to take my pill for a few weeks. Not to trap him, but because I was scared I would not have the opportunity again - bad relationship history and getting well into my 30s.

Then sorted things out realised I was being unfair and decided to go back on the pill after I got my period. I never got my period. My son is three now and I also have a daughter (second time round it was a joint decision). I think we would have got to where we are now had I left well alone, but a little later. We're very happy as a family now - so thankfully it all worked out.

Shortly after my wife left for a six week holiday in Oz with her sister, one of her friends called at the house in the evening. She said she had something urgent to discuss so I invited her in and offered her a drink.
She asked if I was seeing anyone while my wife was away which I thought was a bit odd. When I said no she suggested visiting me each Tuesday when her husband was out with his mates. She said she was getting a bit desperate and I should consider myself priviliged receiving such an offer.
I was not sure how to respond as a refusal could result in her getting upset. Clearly she had used all her courage to ask me. I agreed she could come to the house on the following Tuesday but had no intention meeting her. I stayed at the office and got home very late for the rest of the week.
Several weeks before I received the offer I mentioned to my wife that this friend of hers always kissed me fully on the lips when saying goodbye and always sat very close to me at dinners/parties. My wife seemed to think it ridiculous that any other woman would be interested in me.
I have never told her about her friend's offer, I doubt if she would have believed if I had told her.
On reaching her early fifties my wife decided that she and therefore I, was giving up sex .I sometimes regret refusing the offer of six weekly sex sessions.

Me and DP are clinging onto our relationship by a thread. I honestly don't see us lasting for another year. Our children will be devestated. I'm a really shit mother with really crap skills and I honestly know that their DF coming home each night from work makes the house happy again.

tenthirty ive been through similar to you except for the fact i actually had an affair after 7 years of a celibate marriage.

One of my friends came on my stag do just after getting back from his honeymoon. He was a virgin when he married. Within the first 5 hours he had visited two prostitutes.

Marking my place!