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Secrets we want to tell but can't

925 replies

LizzieBelle · 02/08/2014 18:35

There was a thread on here a few months ago which was full of confessions and secrets that we can't tell in real life...My secret is that I know the neighbour on one side of me is having a naughty affair with the neighbour on the other side of me. As soon and the husband goes to work and the kids go to school she's off with the single dad on the other side of me...

Has anyone else got a secret??

OP posts:
Laska42 · 07/08/2014 21:48

Ithinkter certainly is more to emerge from the Yew tree forest,, but conspiracy theories abound on the internet.. Have a go at googling kitty and Dando....

DustBunnyFarmer · 07/08/2014 22:23

Erm. The Dando/Kitty link I just read was properly bonkers.

Laska42 · 08/08/2014 07:01

Yup lots of it is completely mad.some unspeakable things coming out,but also lots of people with thier own agendas getting involved .and I suppose thats why its all taking so long to sort out..

CaptainBabywave · 08/08/2014 16:19

Cheeky bump.

Pomegranate · 08/08/2014 16:57

Sorry bit thick here, Can somebody please pm the tennis singer, i know who kitty is?

Thank you

CarbeDiem · 08/08/2014 17:10

Done Pom :)

CarbeDiem · 08/08/2014 17:15

Laska- that last google search you suggested makes so much sense doesn't it. More so than the person and the reasons they prosecuted the guy convicted. Back at the time I always thought it just didn't make sense and I'm positive I'm not the only one.
I hope the whole disgusting and sick truth comes out one day.

Shinyshoes12 · 08/08/2014 18:29

I haven't told a soul about this in real life. My life is perfect on paper and my family and friends would be totally shocked if they knew.

I am married with children but had a 5 year affair with a man (also married with a child) I met at work. We worked together for two years and then continued our relationship for another three after that. It was a very loving and passionate relationship and I even got pregnant (although had to have an abortion for obvious reasons). He begged me to leave my husband many times and I was very tempted but something always stopped me - mainly upsetting the children, but also not wanting to have failed at my marriage, fear that it would be different in a more 'normal' relationship and a fear of what people would think. Eventually I realised I had to make a choice and decided to put everything into fixing my marriage so in January I finished the affair and haven't seen him since. I can't believe my husband still wants to be with me after all the awful things I have done, but somehow he still does and things are getting gradually better between us and I can see a way to a happy future together in time.

6 months on, I think about the OM every single day. I miss him and I still love him, but I know over time it will get easier and it has already. I've done the right thing and I will make it work with my husband for us as a family. It really hurts though.

What an amazingly cathartic feeling it is to write that down...

GarlicAugustus · 08/08/2014 18:32

Flowers Well done, Shiny. I hope you & DH have a long, happy and satisfying future together.

Crazy8 · 08/08/2014 20:04

I have looked at various sites regarding the Dando, Kitty and lots of highly influential people and I am still in shock. So many details from older websites/blogs seem to be coming out in the press in recent months. MP's mentioned in some old articles have since been investigated or arrested.

OiMissus · 08/08/2014 21:42

I really don't like my friend's hair style.
(Not mn friends obv!)
I think it looks common.
(Get me! Snob-tastic.)
There. I said it.

Freshnminty · 08/08/2014 22:41

I still wonder what might-have-been with a man I met on a work do a few years back. Amazing chemistry, we were both smitten, but both already in long term relationships.

I'm happily married, but occasionally go on long daydreams about how the alternative might have played out.

My DH would be devastated if he knew Blush Sad

LondonRocks · 08/08/2014 22:58

Marks place.

The Kitty stuff is appalling...

paddleduck · 08/08/2014 23:19

We are suffering secondary infertility and I am secretly torturing myself over karma. I'm convinced it's my fault as I came off the pill without DH'S knowledge a year before we'd agreed to because he was scared conceive baby no1 (who is our world. DH amazing daddy and was so happy when we got our bfp as I knew he would be..but still thinks it was an accidental pregnancy)

I feel so guilty.

honeybeeridiculous · 08/08/2014 23:39

My best friend had an affair with an old friend while her DH was out of the country working. I even baby sat while she went to hotels
when DH came home he bought her a car and a ring!he is still none the wiser.

Sugary · 09/08/2014 01:55

I still don't get the '/' reference...

WeAreAllStarDust · 09/08/2014 02:10

Sugary, what is this punctuation mark called - /
???

yoyo27 · 09/08/2014 03:13

My mum told me recently that when I was at university, and living in a house share with my boyfriend and two girls, that they once took me out for the day. When we got back, they went in first.....and saw my boyfriend rushing to get trousers on and one of the girls we shared with was adjusting her skirt. They never told me.

We got were married for seven years and had four children together! Not surprisingly he left me for another woman. And I am friends with the girl from Uni on facebook (haven't asked her about it though....not sure how much I want to know)

Sugary · 09/08/2014 08:25

Guns and a type of flower?

punygod · 09/08/2014 08:32

It's Slash from Guns and Roses.

Sorry, couldn't stand it any more Grin

something2say · 09/08/2014 08:49

What has slash done?

Oh I have a secret about him, I think.

I had a long distance rel with a man in California. He'd had a bad childhood. His dad was a heroin user, his mum did pills. He wasn't very well cared for, in and out of homes etc, on his own at a young age. Said he used to cruise the streets in LA and occasionally get picked up and taken to parties. He used to go in case there was food there.

So sad.

Anyway one such party was at slash's house, who was away and there were decorators in. Decorators threw the party. People had a beautiful guitar of his and were talking about stealing it. I think my ex stole it. His reasoning was that it was going to be stolen anyway so why not and at least it would go to a good guitarist, which he was. He had extensive work done on it so it would not be recognized. He didn't say whose house but I was always suspicious as it was around that time.

When I read slash's book, it mentions a stolen guitar....

Things like this made me stop the relationship with him. Just a world I didn't want to get involved in....

Curiouslygrumpycola · 09/08/2014 08:54

Yoyo, that's horrendous. If they didn't feel it appropriate to tell you at the time, what made them change their minds later on?

Lweji · 09/08/2014 08:55

It's ok, it's not as if anyone remembers what the first post about it said anyway... Wink

Mumtobenovember · 09/08/2014 09:26

I shagged the vicar from
Call the midwife Smile was delightful

CarbeDiem · 09/08/2014 09:48

Shock Yoyo. That's bloody awful and while I understand your parents feeling shit about telling you, there's really no excuse for not doing so.

Paddle - Let it go, what's done is done and you can't change it now. It's not the reason why you haven't yet conceived, although I very much understand why you would need to blame something (fellow secondary infertility sufferer :( ) Stop torturing yourself. It will happen Thanks

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