More of a wwyd - strange husband situation

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My DH works away from home mon-fri and just recently been working a lot of weekends too. For the past couple of months he never answers his phone but always calls me back saying he didn't hear it, was asleep, in shower etc. didn't think anything if it at first.

Then we went away for a week and while we were there he said he received a phonecall asking him to go back to work a day early. So we got back sat pm and he went away before I woke up on Sunday. Fine because we need the money but found it a bit strange they rang and asked him tbh.

Now he's turned up home with a black eye, broken nose and covered in cuts and bruises. He's given a story he saw a man punch a woman and got into a fight and this is how it happened. He doesn't know the people and although police were involved he's told them he doesn't want to press charges.

This happened on Thursday night. He didn't call me on Thursday or Friday to tell me about it just turned up home on Friday and told me about it.

Am I right thinking this is all a bit suspicious or is it my imagination working overtime? Genuinely looking for honest advice as I can over analyse things sometimes! Sorry for long post

I to would be very suspicious!

Highly highly suspicious! All of it.

Sorry but sounds very suspicious. I think you need to do some detective work.

It does sound suspicious. My thought on reading your initial paragraph was an affair but I'm not sure the emergency phone call and the fight would fit in with that.

I don't know what to suggest!

I'd be upset if my husband hadn't told me about something as serious as this assault the moment he could. If someone hurt me, the first person I'd turn to (after police/medical professionals) would be DP.

I'm afraid you're right to feel suspicious.

So would I. Especially as breaking up a fight and getting injured is something you ring your wife up and tell them about.

He's brushing it off like I'm the one being unreasonable and is being very arrogant about the whole thing. I'm not sure what to do next tbh.

To be perfectly honest my first thought was he's been caught be somebody's husband doing something he shouldn't have done.
I've never ever suspected him of cheating before this but it just doesn't add up to me.

My thought on reading your initial paragraph was an affair but I'm not sure the emergency phone call and the fight would fit in with that.

It would if the husband just found out!

Do you know any of his work colleagues?

He didn't know the people he got involved in the fight with and nobody discussed it afterwards so has no idea what the man allegedly punched the woman for. I also find this strange. Surely afterwards the woman would have thanked him/told him he should've kept out of it rather than just completely ignoring him.

I don't know any of his work mates and doubt they'd tell me anything anyway tbh.

Your suspicions aren't unreasonable at all. I'd be mighty pissed off if my DH didn't call me after being hurt like that. It does all sound rather peculiar in afraid.

My thought on reading your initial paragraph was an affair but I'm not sure the emergency phone call and the fight would fit in with that.

It would if the husband just found out!.

^ this

Funky I am thinking affair too. Emergency phonecall so he could go straight back to work a day early. Fight he's possibly been caught.

You're right of course. I must not watch enough soaps!

I think you need to start trading and watching very carefully as all of this behaviour sounds very weird to me.

*reading

You're right of course. I must not watch enough soaps!

I don't watch any soaps - I don't actually watch TV. Apart from reruns of Seinfeld, House and the odd documentary.

I agree with you in that he husband found out. Can you contact the police to find out were it happened / what happened etc. Name of person involved. Does he have more money from doing the extra hours?

Go through his phone, facebook etc

Emergency phonecall so he could go straight back to work a day early.

Emergency phonecall as the other woman's husband was out that day...

Can you call the office and ask if your husband left his wallet/jacket/keys there when he was in last Sunday?

My first thought is that he is having an affair, sorry, and the OW has got twitchy about why he is going away for the weekend with his DW after all the bullshit he's told her so he's ended up curtailing the weekend to pacify her. The fight could well be related to being caught.

What are you going to do about it?

Is he still doing the extra hours? If not then why would that stop if not connected.

Dont tell him of your suspicions until you have evidence.

Decide what you want to do if it is an affair.

I wouldn't believe a word of it.

If this happened to DP, he'd be calling me as soon as he had the chance, maybe while the police/ambulance were on the way. If all he could do was send a text he probably would. Hell, I'd expect him to call his mum even.

And the story just plain doesn't seem genuine. If he saw a man assault a woman, why doesn't he now have to give evidence? And why would it be on him totally to press charges or not? If he got into a fight, police don't usually take "he started it" and let a participant skip off, do they?

So sorry this is happening to you as him for the crime report number.

Check his phone, his emails and then ask yourself what you want to do next