The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald!

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

You been rummaging in your veg patch then ma?

im miles behind...

i slipped up. i had a impromptu night out - started with a planned visit to the local for a cheeky soft drink but we ended up in a gay bar in the next city centre....

didnt have too many but still more than i wanted to and ended up getting hit on without the where withall to notice....
luckily pal i was with was driving so sober - she rescued me.

i am a danger to myself when out and pissed....

going to go to hers in a bit for coffee....and only coffee. Id done really well up to last night. feel a bit pissed off with myself.

The important thing, Vicard is not to let one slip up derail you. We call it the 'fuck it' button and it's usually ignited by a small amount of alcohol which can lead to days, weeks, even months of continued/increasing drinking and back into the self-hating cycle.

Treat it as a single, unconnected incident and get back into your groove. Also, maybe you can learn something that will help you next time you're in a similar situation. You went out for a soft drink, so what made you drink alcohol. Venus has some great advice about preparing for an evening out, planning your drinks and having excuses lined up at the ready if you feel under pressure.

Even so, there are still those times when the WW sneaks up behind you when you're least expecting her. Did you eat before you went out? Were you tired? Watch out for her, she's a mean 'un.

ma stuff them! Sorry,couldn't resist
Will have a look at that book though.

I love Rachel's Holiday- and Marian Keyes is a recovered alcoholic too. She seems to be pretty open about that (follow her on twitter). It's a great book,very funny but honest about addiction.

fairie big wave x

something at least you had a decent slip up! If you're going to drink then make it bloody worth while sighs remembering mad drunken nights out

Evening, tis me, Mouse :)

Faire - wonderful to see you back, have you been away? ? I hope you had a great time if so. xx

Trin - WOW WOW WOW WOW! That is the most amazing news I've read on the thread in ages. I mean really. The fact that the girls are finally getting on an even keel in life is truly marvellous.

You have all been through so much. I've missed you. :) xxx

Marian Keyes - amongst others, have been genuinely open in their books, life, about they drinking they have done, the shit they've taken etc, especially when they've had reference to it in their books.

Anyway, tis time for Family Guy, I'm off to the Doc tomorrow to see how I am getting on with my patches.

Night all, will check in tomorrow. Feeling a bit sick and sore in my tummy again actually.... I can really do without being admitted to hospital again. I'm missing DD like I never thought I would, only 10 days until she is back from Spain. :(

Well done to those who have managed to get this far into the weekend without drinking which is awesome.

Laters xxx

Hi Moose, good to see you too and thanks, as always, for the new thread. Yes, I've been away to Spain (only slightly hotter than it has been here) but I was poolside so it was bearable

What is your dd doing in Spain, holiday?

Ooops, that should be Mouse, obviously, not Moose [bush]

FFS

I've not been drinking, I swear

(But I have had quite a bit of cheese)

Marking my place on new thread. Still recovering from op.
Day 10 AF done .
Keep kicking that ww.
I Luffs you all x

thank you ladies....i feel a bit better about it now. went to pals earlier for soft drinks and hot tub....

she said it was really funny because out of the whole group i was the one that is happily married, the rest are single, and i was the only one who was hit on....twice.....once by a very hot lady and then by a very hot man!
i am oblivious....friend rescued me when bloke started letting his hands wander....which i have absolutely no recollection of - i cant even remember how i started talking to him.
apparently he asked me to look after his jacket.
???
and he was very nice looking. apparently. i dont remember.

luckily my friends were looking after me - one was driving after going a bit overboard on the vino herself the night before. i am soooo bloody clueless.
but
i had a brilliant night - i just wish id not got trollied. monday tomorrow. whole new week.
since ive stopped drinking ive been losing a pound in weight per day

good enough reason to stay stopped. mostly.

vicar way to go..
Hit on my a gorgeous bloke eh? Come and sit will me in the Aisle of Allure and I will tell you all about distracted chap...
rural brilliant! Hope you are on the mend and wankbadger is looking after you. If he isn't I will send baby down there to sort him out.
thurso are you out there?

Hey rural, glad you are on the mend . Waves to all other babes from behind mountainous pile of work

mornin all, ah well after fri night I think the 'fuck it button' got a hit, I did not so much fall off the bus as threw myself off on a speedy corner and ninja rolled right at the feet of the WW drank sat and again sun but am reminded how crap it is so will get back on board with my ticket in my sweaty little hand begging for a seat please.

Thanks ma and hope my fellow sufferers of wankbadger syndrome
Said wankbadger not a happy teddy. I am not mobile at the mo and he can't cook. cant turn a washing machine on and even the household tasks he is capable of he doesn't do as of course all this is womans work.

He has taken to going through my grocery shopping receipts and marking everything that he does not eat with my name including pets food and DCs food and then adding up the cost..
Happy days....
Day 11 af today

Flipping heck rural, I hope your 'one day...' comes soon for you x

Eccles there is a little button on the dashboard to counteract the 'fuck it' button. Press it and everything will be reset for you. Glad you're back on board.

Press this button

Angsty today but still sober on day 4. The anxiety is related to starting work again after being in holiday mode (even as I type that, I realise how spoilt and trivial it makes me sound, but never mind) and also to cash flow problems, since the pay from the extra work project that DH took on specifically to fund the holiday hasn't come through yet. Argh. Everything will be fine but I have irrational knots in the pit of my stomach.

I'm going to go to an AA lunchtime meeting, my first meeting in 10 days or so. Hopefully that will calm me down as I usually do leave meetings feeling that as long as I'm not drinking, everything is under control and I will have the ability to deal with it. One day at a time.

Guggenheim and mouse, I read a bit more about Marian Keyes after reading your comments, and I'm very impressed. She has been very open about her depression as well as her alcoholism. She's also a damn good writer. Anyone have more reading recs related to recovery? I confess the Big Book hasn't quite won me over yet.

Glad you're feeling better, vicar. Keep going! Every time I give up drinking, it's a little easier than the time before, so you're not just back to step 1. The sobriety you've already achieved counts for something.

Wry, your dinner sounds delish. I never heard of tomino cheese - am intrigued.

Flippin' heck, rural, the shopping receipt story makes me livid on your behalf. Are the DC his as well as yours? How are their costs not his costs? God, but men are terribly poor stuff.

Happy Monday to all. x

Thanks faire and marfisa.
Love the reset button faire and glad you had a lovely holiday.
marfisa Out of the 6 DCS between us the 2 still living at home are dsd (his dd)
and DS who is his ds too.
Wankbadger is just that and feel like he is just one more of my children and a particularly uncaring and selfish one.
DS has been a great help since my op however and has taken away some of my concern about him becoming a wankbadger like his DF. x

rural ffs! I'm so sorry- what a waste of fecking space. stay strong and stay af,you need a clear head to deal with twat. big hug x

marfisa oh yes- I'd forgotten about MK and depression.She's an amazing person

Yeah,the big book. Ahem. It was written a very long time ago and it shows! Doesn't really speak to me but I know lots of people who live by it.Enjoy the meeting though!

rural he takes wankbadgeriness to a whole new level
I could come down there and slap him on your behalf. One day love!
faire love the button.
eccles it happens. Impressed with the ninja roll.
marfisa that is an excellent point about not being back at square 1 and that the sobriety achieved counts. I like that a lot and hereby declare it Thought of the Day.

Fairenuff loving that button dementedma thanks

Hi gorgeous babes, I've had a lovely but exhausting weekend camping so I'm knee deep in manky clothes. I will read back and post more t

Tomorrow but my assassin catsuit is a bit tight after a weekend of eating but there's no doubt about it rural and looking's wank wadgers are getting it!

Never fear baby's here xxxxx

Hi all. Been trying to post but my phone was playing up yesterday and kept saying the site had timed out. Oh well...

So I drank on Saturday. The first glass was lovely but then after a bottle I can't remember what the rest tasted like. Then I ate loads of crap, gaining back two of the six pounds I'd lost. It's just not worth it. Woke up feeling vile yesterday. It's a relief to be AF again. There are no more occasions coming up. Holiday in three weeks but self catering in Cornwall so I doubt I will drink. I hate the inertia and tiredness next day. I'd rather enjoy the week away.

I really prefer my life without alcohol. I just need to be brave and commited enough to believe and practise that full time.

Still so love reading this thread and the brilliant honesty and empathy of everyone here.

Evening all, day 8 almost done for me. I'm amazed at how much time I have in the evenings now without wine swallowing it all up. It's always felt like work, wine, bed then repeat but now I'm having leisurely baths and reading books. I'm really hoping this feeling lasts so I'm tempted to go beyond my original two week plan and make it longer term. Hope everyone is well (as can be - in some cases). Take care xx

Well done username