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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Mouseface · 01/08/2014 15:59

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald! Grin

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

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lookingforhope · 14/08/2014 19:10

Hi Violet. Welcome, and congratulations on your little one Smile Thanks for sharing your story. You are in a great place here, lots of wise babes to talk to.

spanna41 · 14/08/2014 19:29

Hey Hope how you doing babe? thank you for your PB translation, I felt even more Doh once you explained. I am really struggling today, gawd I could do with a crisp, dry, cold glass of fizz (luckily I have no money until tomorrow so that wouldn't be possible) Blush I'm gagging for a fag, AAArgh Confused. I agree with you, Baby and Guggs boredom is a trigger. It's really hard to fill the 'wine void' and everything is so much clearer (not sure I like this) 'the wine haze' is so much easier to deal with. Anyway, Day 11 for me today, terrible nightmares last night and lack of flipping sleep. Early night for me tonight, but I'm almost scared to go to sleep for fear of more nightmares Sad they were proper bolt up right, sweaty jobs, truly awful!

Baby darling there must be something in the air, my DD2 (10) is being a nightmare, not listening, answering back, swearing, generally YUKE. I love her very much but I don't like her at all at the moment. It's always good to read your posts babe, you keep it so real and we are all here for you lovely one x

Wry how's your day been lovely? I took my little out earlier, she'd been in for a while and was clearly desperate for a pee. We passed this pug who she always says hello to, well she completely ignored her, head forward and as I suspected just needed a weeeeeee. Anyway all relieved now and back under my bed, bless her Smile

dementedma · 14/08/2014 21:24

Welcome violet
I'm really lost right now. Was doing well but back to a bottle a night. Fucking hate myself!
Emergency board meeting next month. Lovely boss will probably leave and I will get asked to go part time or seriously reduced pay.
Trying to cut a deal with distracted chaps company - for professional reasons but personal intruding. All a bit of a mess right now.

spanna41 · 14/08/2014 21:31

Ma lovely, sending you hugs babe. Try and drink a pint of water before you crash. Change is never good for the balance of the brain. I wish you a restful nights sleep lovely lady Flowers

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 14/08/2014 21:32

Whheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. Another lovely day! How is everyone doing?

baby hello gorgeousness! Lovely to see you! I'm on steroids at the minute, shiting things. Also struggling with weight gain, but trying hard to keep everything else in check.

My pattern goes like this.

I don't look after my fragile skin.

I don't bother with make up and look tired and old.

I don't straighten my hair. Big one that. Frizz fest without the ghds.

Baggy, dark clothing. If I'm off work and going out, I float about in girly stuff, pretty linens and velvets, posh bag. If I feel shite, I look like a bag of it. Grin

I bite/pick my nails. This is a good indicator of shiteness. If my nails are stubby, raw and bleeding, I'm crying out for help.

Ironing piles up to mammoth proportions. Not even Columbo inspires me to tackle it. xx

guggs you had me crying at feet! GrinFeet! Grin xx

Soc I don't live in a hilly village anymore. To be honest, I haven't lived there since I got myself in a bit of a spot one night. Long story short, I got pissed and someone robbed me. He took all my jewellery, and the last bit of my self respect. Was too pissed to notice. And too ashamed to let the police know. I heard he got arrested a few months later, I was glad. The only time I was okay was when I walked round the lochs in the afternoons. Always hungover in the morning, always drunk at night. But that little window in the afternoon? An oasis of peace, calm and hope.

I thank the stars Facebook and mobile cameras didn't exist then. I feel very fortunate that most of my indiscretions were confined to the village. and that very little photographic evidence exists. xx

ma how are you the day? I hope the melancholy has eased a little. xx

looking, I get full of Big Plans Of What I'm Going To Do. Then I'll delay starting until 9am, which turns into 10am, 11am and so on and so forth. Then maybe I'll just watch this on the telly...then maybe tomorrow..then definitely next weekend....I hate myself for that. xx

Hello Violet, how are you lovely? Tis a fab bus this, no regulation bus stops, no bad tempered drivers, it picks you up right outside your house and drops you off again, all buoyed up and ready to face the day. It's always available, there's always a duvet and there is always a hand to hold. xx

spanna!! Hello you!! (I didn't know what PB meant either Grin) I am also fancy a glass of cold fizz, I settled for carrot and orange juice. I'm trying to stay strong, but it's hard. I have an image of Father Ted, the one where they give up things for Lent. Where he is hallucinating - Aaaaaaaaaaaah Lovely Faaaaaaaaaaggggs. Grin

Sorry you had such a bad night lovely, I wish you the dreamiest of dreams tonight and a restful snooze. I'm the opposite at the minute, I'm exhausted, and sleep through. My dreams are vivid but not scary, just achingly sad.

Grin at your Wouf ignoring her pug friend in the quest for a pee! Little is a sprinkler, can pee 10 - 15 times on a walk. She gets easily distracted if she spots an incoming and has been known to get pissed on because she has a fascination with dog penises. Head straight in there. (one owner who isn't like her dog....).

Sending you a Paddington Hard Stare to sort out your DD, my dad was the master of The Eyebrow. The Eyebrow could stop a full blown tantrum, slay backchat, flatten cheek and dry up a whine at a thousand paces. (It still feckin works! Grin).

I have yet to master The Eyebrow. I am a personal fan of the Thinned Lips. Tell her Auntie Wry is nigh.

I'll put on me Batman Hat and everything. Grin xx

Off for a spot of tea and marmite on toast. Catch you in a bit xx

spanna41 · 14/08/2014 21:33

Little really glad to hear that your Mam's on the mend Smile

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 14/08/2014 21:40

x post ma, sorry lovely. I hope your deal works out in more ways than one. I really do. I wish I knew what to say, but as my lovely auld grunny said, what's for ye winna go by ye. I hope that doesn't sound trite, it isn't meant to be. It's heartfelt and true.

I hope those eyes are for ye. That would brighten up a working day, a lovely view to admire. Uncertainness is a real bugger isn't it? Nae muckle wonder you've been thrown for a loop. xx

spanna41 · 14/08/2014 21:47

Little's fascination with other Dogs penises and pee

Funny my Dad used to have 'a look' and we'd run as fast as we could, OMG just thinking about it has just made my hair go up on the back of my neck Shock

Wry I love your posts they are funny, warm and sensitive Flowers You are a gem and I could squeeze you forever x Glad to hear that you're a Marmite fan, tis part of my staple diet Smile

I may have to witter on into the night babes, as a distraction technique Grin

venusandmars · 14/08/2014 21:52

Well my thing is 'not going out'. I'm a bit agoraphobic (yet somehow always managed to overcome it to get a bottle of wine) and I revert to type. I remember years ago after a massive work project got completed, I was on holiday at home. I was exhausted, elated (project had gone well) and dejected (no new work on the horizon). I went shopping bought all the 'goodie' I could think of. I stayed in for days, seeing no-one, speaking to no-one, until eventually vomiting up 2 boxes of After Eight mints and 2 bottles of wine, I realised I had to get out for a walk....

Not pretty.

spanna41 · 14/08/2014 21:56

Soc bloody well done babe. I want to be you, nearly 100 days, you are my benchmark Grin Flowers

venusandmars · 14/08/2014 21:57

Oh I have a 'look' (known to stop children and arseholes some adults in their tracks. Combined with this I also have "the tone" (the tone of voice which says "I am soooo disappointed, I am not kidding, I am deadly serious, and I am fucking annoyed".

Beware the combination of "the look" and "the tone". Can still make my adult dcs cry Grin

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 14/08/2014 21:57

spanna Not only can I fly, not only am I Batman. I am also fancy it would appear.

I wish I would bloody learn to preview....

I am also fancying a glass of cold fizz. That's what I meant to say.

But oh no. I am also fancy. Check me oot. Hmm

Translation: Thinks she's something special, that one. But she's not really.Grin

marfisa will be weeping. Will no one think of the grammar.... (sorry lovely marfisa xx)

spanna41 · 14/08/2014 22:01

Venus you're scaring me.....

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 14/08/2014 22:09

Ooooooh, The Tone. I forgot about The Tone.

One of my crushes is away to come on the Teev. Francesco's Italy. Francesco da Mosto. Mmmmmmmmm. Something about him, his twinkle,(not a euphemism for penis, honest) his honeyed, fag soaked voice and inner confidence.

Mmmmmmmm.

Unashamedly perving. Grin

venusandmars · 14/08/2014 22:10

spanna yup, that's how "the look" and "the tone" work [evil grin]

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 14/08/2014 22:32

I am slavering like Little when there's liver cake on the go.

He does remind me a little bit of Mossop from The Riddlers, but mmmmm.

I want to eat spaghetti with him. Like Lady and The Tramp.

guggenheim · 15/08/2014 07:50

Morning lovely babes

Good to hear from you all mad things keeping the bus rolling on.
wry you are very funny. I like the saying about 'what's for you won't pass you by" very true.

Morning spanna and looking Smile

venus you are such a surprising poster,I was amazed at finding out that you are a celebrant (think that may be humanist weddings and such?) and then you share about agoraphobia. Hope you've overcome that now. You are my role model for serenity and wisdom- well maybe not when it comes to after eights and wine,but the rest of it.

ma you can kick me up the arse for suggesting this,but how about some RL support? Maybe some counselling for alcohol or aa or smart? Feel free to flick v signs at me but I know that I can't stay sober unless I get some RL support too.

welcome violet that was a very honest first post. Hope you get lots of help and support from this thread.

spanna41 · 15/08/2014 08:25

Good morning Guggs

How the devil are you today?

Day 12 here Smile I can't say I'm not struggling. Went to sleep around 10 and woke again at 1.30am and couldn't get back to sleep for hours, but at least I had no nightmares, phew.

It's Friday and that is traditionally a 'wine o'clock' day for me, usually starting straight after school run and normally in bed by 8.30pm sometimes before DDs Blush

Joey how you doing? did your period arrive? I do hope so Smile Wishing you a lovely break away with the family, have fun and try and relax Smile

My cupboards are literally bare so I'm off to Aldi as I have money in the bank today, seriously it's been a broke old week this week. to be honest I couldn't have afforded to buy wine or fags, this could have been a blessing in disguise. But I do think DDs will be pleased to have some 'normal' (as they call it) food as opposed to these 'weird' (them again) meals that I keep producing. Trying to create something out of cupboard dregs Blush

Happy Friday lovely Brave Babes

lookingforhope · 15/08/2014 08:49

Happy Friday all. Working from home this morning (in bed!) which is just as well as am so tired! Decorating this weekend so massive task of clearing dd's room tonight - eek! Hope everyone has a good day x Spanna, hang in there chick, day 12 rocks xxx Buy yourself a lovely AF treat at the shops Smile

spanna41 · 15/08/2014 10:13

Morning Hope, glad to hear you're running the empire from your bed Grin I'm still waiting for that Liane bird's book to turn up from Amazon Hmm seems to be taking ages and I WANT IT NOW. Thank you for the treat advice, funny I always give that one out and never do it! so I will Smile
Good Luck with the bedroom clearing be brutal and get rid of stuff, it's very good for the soul. It will be a good distraction above anything!!! Aldi's done and I popped into the coop first and grabbed a few reduced bargains (woop my life is soooo exciting) anyway just finishing coffee then off out with pooch. x

aliasjoey · 15/08/2014 10:39

Morning babes It's Friday!! Are we all looking forward to the weekend? How are you doing ma? Wish I had words of advice for you, but I'm no good at that. Always ready to listen and share out Opal Fruits though.

I'm definitely not pregnant! Up till now I was ambivalent, thinking we would just cope if the worst happened (my health/advanced age/finances notwithstanding) but actually when my period arrived I felt quite relieved. Will be more careful in future. [it would have been nice to have had a baby on the Bus though Sad ]

perks up am on holiday tomorrow - cramps and soiled underwear and no washing-machine, brill timing - and OMG I've just realised there will be no Wifi and NO Mumsnet and NO BUS Shock

Unless you all come on holiday with me? Anyone fancy a wet week in a wet cottage in wet Wales? With a grumpy wet husband (no Wifi!) grumpy wet children (NO Wifi!!!) and a wet dog?!

spanna41 · 15/08/2014 11:58

Joey that is a relief but I do know what you mean by the 'we'll cope'. Yes a baby on the bus would be lovely, Violet can your little one travel on the bus with us please?
No WIFI, no bus and wet dog - you've really sold it to us Joey Hmm
Anyway lovely, you will have a lovely time in wet Wales, just being out of routine and with your family will be lovely Smile

spanna41 · 15/08/2014 11:59

How many 'lovelys' can I fit into a sentence Hmm

aliasjoey · 15/08/2014 12:24

spanna if you count the one about the baby, I make it 4 'lovely's in a single post Grin

beachestoexplore · 15/08/2014 12:44

It is because you have 'lovely' at your core Spanna Grin. Day 12 peanut! You are doing great and inspiring me. Xx

I have woken up to day 3, all groggy from a heavy sleep. It is a real effort and it am thinking about drinking a lot but I really WANT to get out off the hamster wheel. I feel miserable each morning I wake after drinking and although it subsides during the day (in plenty of time for wine o'clock) it starts the day under a cloud. So, boxing gloves are on and I plan to punch that WW right out of town tonight.

Happy holidays joey. Sending you a little 'sun through the clouds* magic! (and a dog towel) xx.

Waves to hope, guggs, baby, Venus, Ma, wry, violet and all other babes that are on the bus today.