The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald!

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

It's a bloody disgrace that dresses like that exist when people can't eat.

Anyhoo it's not the actual dress more what it represents.

Yes it is spectacular etc etc, but what I WANTED not everyone else who had taken over, what I wanted was to get married. That's it. DH gets it which is lovely and we spent a long time discussing how nice we were being by indulging mil and letting her have her way on a lot.

How pathetic.

I can't even look at that bloody arsing dress.

Good Morning All

Day 7 woooop wooooop - one whole week, can't remember the last time I managed that

Auntie Wry thank you for just being you. That chicken dish sounds lush. I'm secretly glad that your Wankbadger let you down again, hopefully this will get your mind nearer to leaving the Twunt that doesn't deserve such a lovely woman in his life. (there I said it!!!!) You'd be so much better off without him and available to meet someone who really does deserve you, he is out there, trust me Are you working today my lovely? or have you got a day with lovely lab?

Just I think selling your wedding dress is an honourable thing to do and to such a good cause. My lovely Dad died from pancreatic cancer nearly 8 years ago and although he was only in the hospice for 3 nights, his Macmillan nurse was an absolute diamond. I think £12K is about right for a designer dress these days ladies, my cousin's cost her £8K and that was the designer's lowest price in the range of her dresses. Little if you think £165 in monetary terms now would probably be up in the £1000s with interests rates rising etc

Little don't beat yourself up about the small glass of wine, it's done now and it was yesterday, today is today. Live for now, not what's happened. Just keep going and keep posting, it's good to have you on board. I'm really glad DD sorted her room out, funny what makes these teenagers tick, isn't it?

Baton down the hatches today ladies, there's going to be a humdinger of a storm

Love to you all x

Just sorry X-posted with you. It is not pathetic at all and you don't have to explain. MIL's can be nightmares, as some of us are well aware

Just re read my previous post. DD cleaned her room, not DH. Stoopid me.

Morning, just a quick check in as have to mobilise dd and friends after her party - need them out by 12 so I can go to dreaded IKEA and they are still asleep after staying up all last night watching girly films.

Allowing myself a leetle moment of pride today - after WB attack on Friday got that churning stressy feeling I always get when someone has a go at me and thought 'sod it, have a glass of wine, everyone will be drinking at dd's party tomorrow anyway', but I didn't. It was hard but I didn't do it, as realise that drinking when upset or stressed is my huge trigger. So sat through it minute by minute, took dd to Tesco, didn't buy wine!

Also yesterday was lovely. Took dd and pals to the fair, then left them to it for 3 hours while I walked round the park, sat in the sun admiring nature and reading my book with diet coke and coffee (caffeine addict now )

Came back and WBs family arrived - calmly served food and drink, had one weak 4 percent bellini and half a glass of white then put the kettle on. Lots of e numbers, had the most amazing cake from my beautiful niece, her kids were whizzing around like nutters and I was ignoring the family tensions of wb's lot and rising above it. WB actually disappeared to watch TV with ds, and they're his family. I give up! But anyway, I had a wonderful day and couldn't have got through it without thinking of you lot!

Faire talking of songs that remind you of the bus, I thought of this one and played it this morning - Thinking of You by the Colourfield

It actually has a line in it that goes 'We should take a bus, to somewhere else, to something new'^ - TERRY HALL PREDICTED GERALD!!!!!

And the next line goes 'Thank god we're alive, and bite off more than we can chew. Do the things that just don't matter. Laugh while others look in anger. Stumble over four leaf clovers - and say goodbye to lonely banners.' I love that. Am going to sing it in my head all the time while imagining you lot on the crazy bus!

And Spanna you made me laugh with the Lianne Moriarty gaffe! Ha, you crazy lady . Next time you are in the library get 'Little Lies' out - it is incredible. Read it yesterday and had to keep re-reading bits. Don't normally pick up 'chick lit' as am habitual English graduate snob (almost started a postgrad in European political literature but swapped it for arts admin at last minute) but actually someone pointed out in an interview that the term 'chick lit' and putting everything in pink book jackets is just a way to undermine the quality of literature that deals with issues to do with home and personal life, and they did the same to Jane Austen in the 18th century! So there!

Anyway, sorry not to name check all but have to go and make breakfast for gang of sleep deprived 11 year olds before facing the furniture emporium from the seventh circle of hell.

Will be back later. Love you all (still shaking head at Terry Hall's prescient powers way back in the 1980's)

Good morning, apologies to all for my lengthy bibbling last night. Keeping my hands busy prevents them from clutching a glass.

spanna Hello lovely, what are you up to today? Little and I have the whole day to ourselves! We've had a wee lie in, just back from our walk and now it's washing time. Not too much to do, should manage to get it all ironed during Columbo later.

Will fly a duster round, do a spot of hovering, the usual stuff. On earlies tomorrow, so will try to get an early night.

Not too long until the horse trials, so excited! xx

ma Did you have a good night with your chum though? That's the main thing! xx

Just hopefully you've risen this morning still pleased with yourself, as you should be. I have no doubt it's a bonny frock, someone else will get the benefit of it (maybe another mother-in-law ).

And someone will be given peace, comfort and dignity. Priceless. xx

Hope, you got me thinking there, Terry Hall, isn't he the bloke from the Specials and of course he was, I do still know my music Love him. Many moons ago I used to be a singles buyer for Our Price records (remember them) Music was a passion (still is) Even to the point where my X was a DJ (can't say who but you would know him) He is a Twunt
Anyhow, the lady in the library looked up all books available by Liane and Little lies is too new for them still, to have in stock, so I came running home and ordered What Alice Forgot (something like that) for 1p !!! Can't wait for it to arrive because I'm sad like that. Too much info, sorry

looking doesn't it feel great to be in charge of alcohol, instead of it being the other way round. Well done on rising about it all. Imagine how you feel now if you had to cope with all those 'after party' teenagers and their mess with a stonking hangover

Thanks for that song, I had completely forgotten it but it all came back to me as I played it and sang along

Just from the moment I watched Funny Face with the beautiful Audrey, my wedding dress dream has been this.

One day I will.

Hello lovely Wry just lost a mammoth post arrrrgh
I'm off to see one of my Besties whose DP had a stroke at the beginning of this year. He's at home and improving every day but she is struggling with it all and feels a bit trapped IYSWIM. It's not what she was predicting at 49 (he is 66) she always knew that she would probably end up nursing him at some point, but not quite yet. But at least he's still with us, it was a bad stroke and the hospital told her to say goodbye. He's as strong as an Ox but unable to speak (very little) unable to move around unaided and my friend is finding it all a bit much, although incredibly grateful that he's still with us. So that's what I'm up to today. I am also a compulsive poster on here which acts as my deterrent for picking up a glass of vino Have a good day lovely lady and gorgeous lab

A spot of hovering? Wry - can you actually fly???

Do we have an actual superhero on our bus?

Hope , Wry is an angel don't you know
Good luck at the dreaded IKEA, stick to the list don't get sucked in to their marketing strategies and as Nuff said super well done for resisting WW

looking the only hovering happening today will be my spoon hovering over the last of the profiteroles. And that won't be for very long. I wish I could fly. It would be very useful. Especially this week, I'm still breaking in my new clogs.

spanna your friend will find her strength. It's scary how one event can turn many, many people's lives upside down. As I am sure I've said on here before, it's the family and friends who need the most support when things happen. Your friend will lean a little on you today and you will help take a wee bit of the stress from her. You are lovely you know, so many people stay away as they are not sure how to be. By just being there, making a cup of tea, lending an ear, you will make her day. xx

Like the ugly duckling, me feathers are all stubby and brown.

God this Bus moves fast! Are we even sticking to the speed limit?

Rather chuffed with myself as I nearly had a drink last night but didn't. Triggered by DH in a foul mood and we were actually in Sainsbury's at the time, and I just thought D'argh! And bought some wine. But a couple of hours later, persuaded myself to leave it til tomorrow. (From experience I know that if I'd had a drink last night, then I'd have ended up buying more and drinking tonight as well)

Made me wonder exactly what was going through my head at the time. It felt like a sort of "F--- You" - to who? My DH? Maybe myself. I want to be naughty, I will be naughty - you can't stop me!

Anyway, crisis averted and I can smugly drink my glass of wine tonight in a better frame of mind.

I also learnt that even if I get triggered into buying some alcohol, it IS possible to still calm down and NOT drink it.

This is what I imagine my frock to look like in white. With a wee half veil. I already have my tiara. I saw it a few years ago and thought it was perfect, not too proud from my head, made of intertwined daisies.

I want to have a big picnic on the banks of Eilean Donan castle where people can bring their dogs and kids. A wee dog crèche corral with sandpits and paddling pools so they can caper about and be dogs.

Red sauce please wry
Have had 3 cups of coffee and 2 bacon rolls and feel a bit more human.

joey have a hearty slap on the back! Enjoy your wine tonight, you've earned it!

You're all a bunch of superheros in my eyes. Utterly mad mind you. The posts are fabulous.

I love this bus.

Good night.
Xx

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Here is the offending item.

Don't feel quite as glamorous today as have spent a lot of time wearing marigolds and hoovering while doing a good fish wife impression at dd to put the iPad down, sweaty hair stuck to forehead, lovely.....

But yes Macmillan has a special place in my heart and frankly she can fuck off if she thinks I can be bullied again!

Goooooooo team JUST!

On reflection I'm actually quite pleased as this is the first Sunday in a looooong time I've actually used productively instead of feeling like crap or struggling through the haze.

This bus is very therapeutic for a newbie!

Can I jus twitter on about whatever?

You have inspired me as it's evident there are lots of babes who can and do cope without their drug of choice and yes it's hard but you do get rewards, god I'm boring myself now, sorry! Off to iron stuff :-)

Just spent ages painstakingly hemming Ds school trousers only to find the legs are different lengths now. hurls offending garment across room.
Its pissing down. Ds is bored and dh is getting on my tits.

Wow!!! Just that really is some dress, I think its absolutely gorgeous and am sure someone else will love wearing that on their special day (helping Macmillan and saving some money to boot).

Chin up Ma.