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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Mouseface · 01/08/2014 15:59

Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald! Grin

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

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babyjane1 · 09/08/2014 15:52

wry try having shiny white and Crohn's disease, never a good thing (TMI)

spanna allowed 15 year old dd to order school blouses on my next account and was relieved when they arrived this morning. Dd says "mum the buttons are on the wrong side and the blouse is really long, bloody eejit orders boys shirts, I really do worry about that girl, mind you should have known, it's my world, how the F could it be straightforward..

Nae wonder I drank xxxx

babyjane1 · 09/08/2014 15:57

ma your so right, teenagers are horrible and ungrateful, I keeping thinking "I would never have spoken to my like that" but I probably did, deep breaths and think of sexy eyes!!!

spanna41 · 09/08/2014 16:06

Wry Oh yes 'tracing paper' bog roll (what I used to call it when we were hacking up the M1 and stopped at the service stations on the way!)
Can you be my Auntie pleeeeeeease? I want to be your niece Grin

My DD1 (15) has just woken up Shock honestly these teenagers Hmm

dementedma · 09/08/2014 16:37

He is STILL at it! Even dh, who thinks the sun shines out of ds's arse has lost patience and read him the riot act! So glad I'm going out tonight - those not in favour of corporal punishment look away now- or Ds would have a thick ear to add to his troubles!

Sexy eyes is haunting my thoughts somewhat...

littlewhitebag · 09/08/2014 17:51

MY DD2 (16) is the loveliest teenager in the world. Never a single strop or tantrum. BUT why oh why is her bedroom always such pit? She has a beautiful room with an en suite and you would need a hazmat suit to enter it.

I swiped all her towels to wash this morning then sent her a text (she is at work) saying that her room/bathroom was disgusting and if it wasn't cleaned to my (very high) standard by this evening then i was charging her £50 to go in and do it. I am also charging £5 for every item of clothing i have to pick up. I can guarantee it will be gleaming before i go to bed!

Anyhoo. I am sitting chilling with a bottle of fake beer (as we have taken to calling alcohol free beer). DH loves the Becks Blue as much as i do, so thank you to whoever it was that recommended it.

spanna41 · 09/08/2014 18:54

I have been at my trough on and off all day Hmm I feel like a weeble and I am wobbling but I ain't gonna fall down because I'm sober Grin Seriously I can't stop eating. I am Miss Piggy Smile

Anneisnotmyname · 09/08/2014 20:52

Welcome catkisser love the username :) I've cut back from what I used to drink, I daren't use the word successfully as I still have to keep a close eye on it. I don't kid myself that I couldn't easily slip back to daily drinking if I let my guard down. I'm trying to stick to approx ten units a week so that means if I want wine I have to have at least four af days a week, if I don't drink wine I don't really need to plan so much. I can't managemmore than two bottles of lager so that takes care of itself. Note to self - don't drink wine Hmm

baby I'd never heard of ivory tower syndrome but I'll be looking it up. Definitely sounds like me, trying to fix things, make myself fit. I can even see how I've used wine to blur the edges, to help me tolerance the intolerable....

spanna41 · 09/08/2014 22:04

good to see you Smile

Day 6 nearly done 'move over WW and Smokey Joe and fuck right off' all good although bit of a white knuckle ride. I am stuffed to the gills to the point where my stomach looks like twins are due. And I've drunk so many flipping cups of tea I'm currently speeding on caffeine Hmm

Night night you lovely lot, sorry for 'thread hogging' today, just keeping myself distracted Smile

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 22:05

Evening all! How are you all?

How are you lovey? Salukis hold a very dear place in my heart, my lovely old granny used to look after three of them while their owner went to work. Such beautiful, elegant dogs. You lucky thing you! I am a lab fan as a rule, but one day I would love to belong to a Borzoi. I saw one locally a couple of months ago, so rare up here. T'other half was affronted when I ran after the chap walking him to give him a clap. (The dog, not the owner). Gorgeous, he was.

I have been troughing all day too. Some kind person brought in some Deans shortbread selection boxes. I may or may not have had at least 15 biscuits today. I've had some chicken, the same recipe as last week with the Tomino cheese. It was that fine, it's worth another punt. Baked tattie with sour cream and some asparagus. I have some lemon San Pellegrino to wash it down.

baby Thinking back, shiny white must have been responsible for a lot of nasty laundry. It was the scourge of our school, shiny white. Little boxes dispensing 4 inch square sheets of scrapey hell. It can't have cleaned or moulded into the nooks properly. I never pooed at school, I used to get stage fright even having a pee. Grin Your school shirt saga made me smile. In our day there was a wee shop, imagine right old fashioned with thousands of little wooden drawers and a very strict awd biddy running the show. If you had dared to poke your hot wee hands in a drawer I suspect she would have bitten them off at the wrist. They had all the local mams over a barrel. It was Academy policy to get your uniform from there and there only. However, we were all very smart. Aaaaaaargh. I sound like my mam.....

ma enjoy your sleep over! Sweet dreams.... wonder who what you'll dream about.... Grin Anyhoo, wishing you dreams of lots of rampant interficherin. My wankbadger has stood me up again, but I'm actually thinking it's no great loss. One day...

Bloody crumple crumple crumple. Grin You are not wrong! I truly believe it kept our jannie in a job. It blocked the loos, it was perfect for stopping up the sinks for the lads to flood the place cos lets face it, the stuff was waterproof and it confettied every corridor in the place.

little I predict you will be very rich by bedtime! Grin

guggs how's it going with your mam? Are you sailing on a sea of calm? I hope you have filled your day with lots of distractions to keep you busy and stress free. Thanks

Hello catkisser! How are you lovey? The lovely folk on here taught me never to look back, only forward. When you have a bad day, pick yourself up, dust yourself down and haud gaun. That is keep on, straight and true. Don't look back, you'll torture yourself with thoughts of "I should have..." or "I wish I hadn't...". Know that I am on hand to patch up any scrapes, give you a shine with me chamois or give a bosie. One day at a time, lovely, one day at a time.

faire your tits oot amendment made me Grin Grin Grin And the Broons and Oor Wullie! I used to love a Sunday morning. Them wis the days... I got my moral compass from Little House On The Prairie, The Waltons and The Broons. I really wanted to be like Oor Wullie but he had the potential to be a wrong 'un. Heart in the right place but easily led I reckon. I wonder what became o him? I bet he and Fat Boab ended up in Barlinnie for shoplifting from Farmfoods or something.

I am aware that is blasphemy. I am sorry. but I suspect I am right

Little and I are away to have a profiterole or two. Catch ye in a bit. Today I will not be drinking.

Bosies for all of you and hope you know that you are all keeping me going at the moment. Rocks. Each and every one of you. xxxxxxxx

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 22:06

Night night lovely spanna, sweet dreams!

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 22:21

ma being all glam like in the air.

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 22:27

Me. I know what you're thinking. I remind you of somebody.

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!
MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 22:31

Ooh almost forgot...I hope you followed through with the dry dinner guggs. Brew

Fairenuff · 09/08/2014 23:01

LWB in our house we call alcohol beer or wine 'no real'. As in, is it real, or no real? We have been home from holidays for a week now and dd has yet to unpack her suitcase. Lazy teenagers r us Grin

Wry loving the self portrait (not saying which one). Me and dd have been watching re-reuns of The Waltons on Entertainment (whatever freeview channel that is). We've been watching LHOTP too but it's not as good.

cat I've cut back my drinking and it's been a hell of a journey. All I can advise is to try a few things out and see what works for you. Stay with us and keep posting, even if you're drinking and, hopefully, you will find what works for you.

I started by cutting out certain days. Just try for one day without a drink. If you can do that, it's a massive success which you can build on.

Fairenuff · 09/08/2014 23:02

That was supposed to be alcohol free beer or wine - makes more sense like that Grin

Justpickone · 09/08/2014 23:29

Hello, had a hell of a day (this sounds bloody spoilt and ridiculous), and was on the verge of making a call, but I didn't and it turned out a lovely evening!
The trigger thing you mention here is very useful, you can see it coming the craving and so can manage that feeling in advance.

My mil is distraught that I'm auctioning my wedding dress in aid of Macmillan. It was her choice of dress anyway and there wasn't much of me in the wedding, at the time I really didn't care as I was just happy to marry DH.

Still am, however mil reckons I should keep the gown for dd.

I feel a knob telling you all this but the dress was a LOT (bloody ridiculous, if you ask me I would have worn jeans), and I see no point in keeping it, the marriage is the sentimental bit that I want to keep hold of?!

Anyway I told her today and she was furious at me, but I stuck to what I felt was right and I've got through the day unscathed.

Hope you all had a decent day, thanks for the support x

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 23:33

looking hope your DD and her friends are having a lovely time. I can always come round and sit on the grumpy wankbadger for you. I am full of shortbread, cheese, chicken and profiteroles and weigh about a stone and a half heavier than I did first thing this morning. Should be just heavy enough to make him concentrate on being able to breathe but breathless enough to lose the power of speech.

I could tissue glue his eyes and gob shut to stop his sulky glares and comments? Or I could be a right help and glue his A-hole. Then he really would be full of shite. Hope he isn't spoiling your weekend, fortifying bosie to keep you going, xx

marfisa? Are you okay? I hope you are having a lovely weekend, like Faire said upthread, you have just popped into my head. Have a big bosie and a profiterole. And a hairy hug from Little. She's had some asparagus. That should thrill the vets when they get her urine sample. Grin

MaryMungoAndMidgies · 09/08/2014 23:43

Just Bloody well done on standing your ground! Tell her if she wants the frock that badly to stick a bid in for it! Grin

What a lovely cause, Macmillan nurses helped my old friend. He managed to stay at home with his beloved wife and dogs, peaceful and dignified to the end.

Glad you've had a lovely evening, xx

Justpickone · 09/08/2014 23:48

Thanks! I do feel good, I did something uncomfortable and the world didn't end!

I love Macmillan, the nurses are absolutely second to none and they were so lovely to me and my family.

Dress should net £5k and I'd joyfully hand it over to them to care for someone fighting shitty diseases.

X

Fairenuff · 09/08/2014 23:50

Good on you Just and well done for sticking up for your principles Smile

Justpickone · 09/08/2014 23:55

It represents so much of the me who just let everyone else take over and make my decisions.

What sort of person allows their mil to choose their wedding dress?? At a cost of £12000?! A years salary?!

What a massive knob I was.

This represents the turning point of how I will not be told how to spend my life or my money and if I want to sell the dress I bloody well will.

Seriously who the fuck spends £12000 on a dress.....

A house deposit maybe or a salary for a carer or nurse, but a fucking dress. Such a twat.

littlewhitebag · 10/08/2014 06:43

£12000 on a dress???? No! Dresses don't cost that? Surely not.

My whole wedding only cost £1000. It was in1985 granted and my dress was a mahoosive meringue a la Princess Di. My dress cost £165 and even at that my mum and I were equally aghast and thrilled and spending that amount on a frock for one day.

Anyway, back to the important matter of drinking or not. I was almost tempted to lie to you all but my conscience would have got the better of me.

I had one, very small, glass of wine last night. I have no idea why. It was quite nice but I didn't need it. Stupid me. I think WW(weight watchers) saved me from the WW (wine witch) as I didn't want to squander any more of my lovely food points.

Am away to feed the mutt as I can hear her whining gently down in the kitchen. DH usually feeds her but I have woken up to find he has disappeared. I suspect he sloped off in the night to read his book in the spare room.

I won't bore you lot any further with the mundane details of life chez littlewhite. Have a good Sunday.

littlewhitebag · 10/08/2014 06:51

Oh and btw, I am not rich at all. DH had her room and bathroom clean in jig time.

She is not keen to part with any of her precious wages as she needs all her money to buy clothes. Because she just doesn't have enough clothes. I mean, her wardrobe is full to bursting and she seems to have a need to store clothes on her floor, but still she needs more!

wry My dog is a lab. A yellow one. She is the most beautiful creature in the world (to me). My family are well aware she comes first in line for my love and kisses.

BloodyUserName · 10/08/2014 07:12

Hi just I've been debating whether to get rid of my wedding dress too, like you I'm still happily married. It's been stuck in the wardrobe for years and is going yellowy for some reason (no smoking in this house). Mine was only £120 so I won't be losing any money but I'm not sure if I should (sometimes I like to gaze upon it and remember being a size 10 wonders whether a £12000 dress is encrusted with diamonds

dementedma · 10/08/2014 07:49

wry ya loonie!
Ma heid is bangin. Can't do late nights and too much booze.Need to get my lardarse back into gfear so I can look like wry's image of me...
A grey, wet and hungover morning to you all.