The Brave Babes Battle Bus - In Search Of Sobriety, Sunshine & Survival!

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Hello, I'm Mouse :)

Welcome to the thread, or our mythical Bus called Gerald!

There is room for everyone. Always

There is help for everyone who wants it. Always

There is unconditional support and kindness. Always

We have two sentences that we believe in here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

No matter what it is that you drink, how much, how often, we've ALL been in your position at one point or another...... so most of us WILL know exactly what it's like to be YOU

If you'd like to read the last thread, it's below -

THIS IS THE PREVIOUS THREAD

And if you want to read a pretty sobering thread and the history behind these many, the reason why we are all here, fighting to stay/get sober is here -

FIRST EVER BRAVE BABES THREAD

Hope to see you soon :)

Mouse x

I've been out to friends who were all drinking Cava. And I did not drink Got drenched in the rain on way home but I could walk, I didn't stumble and I took the dog out. All snuggled up in bed with a cuppa, bliss.

Have to admit I did have a couple of drags on a joint But I am sober, drank that Shloer stuff, too sweet for me, but it looked like Cava

Guggs hang in there over the weekend, distraction techniques, when your mum especially gets on your nerves, icecream, yummy roast lunch, hot chocolate, walk round the block, or you could just get on here for a vent

Night all, Day 5 done

Well done spanna. Throws cloak right back at you. I find once you get over the initial part of the evening when others are drinking it gets easier. But bloody well done. A couple of drags of a joint are neither here nor there. It's alcohol that gets us. I have a couple of drags if goes around, but it's not something I hanker after and I can't seem myself hiding half smoked joints in the bottom of the laundry basket.

thanks faire You're right, I really, really don't want to go back to where I was. It was grim. Even when I miss wine, I need to remind myself of what I will very quickly slide back into. I've got summer to get through....I just want to get one summer done and then I know I can do it. OMG. summer days next a swimming pool with no wine. fek. But I'm not going to drink. I'll find all sorts of lush non-alcoholic drinks.

Bleurgh. Cava last night and feel decidedly grotty this morning. Got a rare sleepover tonight with my bestie and wine will be on the cards...going to have to make tonight the line in the sand.

Today have the joy of taking Ds to buy school shoes

Day 6 and I will not be drinking or smoking today

Soc you are amazing

Have a lovely Saturday everyone x

Good morning my lovelies, still reeling from losing epic post bit I'm going to summarise.

wry I think we all thank our lucky stars you found our bus, we needed to be found!!! You bring us humour, warmth, god is it wrong to wish myself unwell so you can be my nurse, cannot that prat of a man doesn't realise how special you are.xxx

spanna you have a wise and wonderful kind word for everyone, I just don't believe you when you say your grumpy, I simply cannot believe our resident guardian angel is capable of being anything other than serene and always thinking of others, you mighty special to me.

looking I did a makeover on my dd's room while she was away for 4 days, which even involved swapping rooms with mine. New floods, walls, wardrobes, bed and all new soft furnishings, it was crazy but so worth it when she arrived back, she was flabbergasted, I should point out it's a bloody tip as I type this, you have so much to put up with, I don't know how you keep mind, body and soul together, you are so strong and I respect and admire you tremendously!!! Have a great weekend with dd and friends, she's lucky to have a fab mum like you xxx

annie god you and I have exactly the same story, dh is good man but not a match for me, I've settled for a life that doesn't fit me, adapting myself to friends, jobs, relationships and it's hard to know who I actually am, maybe we can figure it out together. It's good to know I'm not the only person that's feels this way, my councillor actually said she has as many "ivory tower" clients as those with terrible abuse, addiction problems. I wish I was better at real life, I'm trying hard to sober and scared.

little nice to have you back lovely and so glad your mums on the mend, your a lifetime member on our bus, no matter how when or why your drinking, your stuck with us.

guggs your doing do brilliantly, you mustn't let your mum take all that away, that's give her way too much power. Remember tums in, head up, you are a strong courageous woman and I'm here for you if you need to go out for a walk and post, you've inspired me so much, I wish your mum could see how much you've changed the life of others and be proud!! Thinking of you xxx

ma how do you cope being trapped in an unhappy marriage? Your so vibrant and full of life and fun, you deserve a partner who sees this and appreciates your magic. I watched moonstruck yesterday and it reminded me of you, dh and sexy eyes. You deserve happiness, we all do xxx

I can't read back much so sorry if I've missed anyone, hugs to sober faire marfisa trin mouse ladame inside

Infact I luffs every single goddam one of you xxx

Good morning lovely Baby

How are you honey and what plans have you got this weekend? Your posts are so warm, heartfelt and soooooo comforting You will be ok I promise you. One minute, hour, day at a time. You are on the right path and you know that. This is your journey of self discovery, you are literally getting to know yourself again, but this time it is the 'real' you, not the one 'fogged' with booze Be kind to yourself, you have us here right by your side.

I wish I could say that I'm not a grumpy git, but I'm afraid to say that I am. In fact today I feel really emotional and tearful. I put this down to the fact that there is a mega full moon tomorrow, so I'm just going to ride the moon wave and just go with the flow and if that means crying all day, then so be it

thank you

Well I am nice and calm and am working on staying in the moment. And I have an evil plan for tonight- I may just forget to offer and wine with dinner. The look of horror will be priceless Ahem. I mean I am working on my serenity.

Was very tempted by the ww last night but played the video through to the end and remembered how vile the spinning room sensation is and how argumentative I get.

baby that is so kind xxx I hope that you are ok? I know you felt a little low earlier on this week? I intended to post and say that I think those ups and downs are part of long term sobriety. I don't mean that in a 'put up with it way' but it tends to help me to know that they crop up,like bloody nits,and you just have to let the feelings happen. Be kind to yourself,go to bed early,tell the world to fuck off until you can deal with it again and it will pass. I get highs as well sometimes and need to remind myself that the highs can be too high and will also pass. I'm not sure that makes sense but I think it's just to do with staying sober emotionally or even spiritually as well as physically.Have a great day lovely x

Also a quick apology to those who have lost a DM recently,I appreciate that you miss your DM. i know there are at least 3 babes in that position.My DM is a PITA but I really am trying to build a better relationship with her and appreciate having a mum.

Guggs you are so lovely
re wine for dinner or lack of it!! How about offering AF wine that would be quite humourous Anyway we're here if you need to rant x

Hope have fun with DD and her friends today. Do WB avoidance and have fun with the kids. I can feel some E numbers coming on

Wry how are you chick? what you up to over the weekend? x

Little hope you're Mum is ok? how are you doing? x

spanna I swear I'm always mega cranky and tearful around the full moon but people (i.e. my husband) say I'm crackers for thinking that. I say if it has the power to pull the whole sea then it can do anything.

What's everyone up to today? I reckon this will be the last sunny day we see for a little while.

Hi Username I agree with you, the moon is very powerful I think you're right, last sunny day for a while, we've got the backlash of Bertha coming in Stormy stormy times ahead ! What you up to today? I'm playing it all by ear, if I plan before a full moon it all seems to go pete tong. I'm off to the library in a bit, got some very overdue books Have a good one Username surf those moon waves babe x

babyj what a lovely post, you're amazing for remembering everyone; I can barely remember the names of my own children

I'm riding out my hangover by cleaning like a woman possessed before heading out to a garden centre for coffee and cake plants for the garden.

I've never thought about the moon causing plans to go awry, I'll keep my eye out for that one.

Have a good day

Good morning all. That's me firmly back on board and day 1 completed (again!).

I have just taken the dog out for a lovely walk and DH and i are considering what to do today.

Thanks for asking about my mum. She is home now and understandably anxious. The main issue is that she has lost her appetite and at a very slight 7 st she has no extra weight to lose. I will keep an eye on her and maybe suggest she tries some build up type drinks if she is struggling to eat.

I hope all of you lovely bus people are having a good Saturday.

Hello all,
I hope you don't mind me joining your thread - I've got a question. My alcohol intake has been getting me down for years. It increases as the stress in my job increases, but it's got to the point where I've been drinking 3/4 cans and a bottle of wine nightly and I just can't do it anymore. It's seriously hindering my effort to become debt free and I'm just SICK of feeling sluggish, fat and lethargic.

For the last week I've cut down to either nothing or 2 cans a night and I've felt really great. But last night I let myself down and had a real binge. I feel complete self loathing and a nasty voice in my head is saying "you can't do this." But I really want to. I've done my shopping and bought some nice juice and fizzy water, NO booze.

My question really was how do you lot keep motivated when you slip up? Has anyone found they have successfully cut down their intake but not given up entirely? Thanks x

Some lovely posts here this morning, you guys brought a little tear to my eye.

You know that Ollie Murs song, - this bus reminds me of that. Every so often a babe will pop into my head and I think, I wonder how so and so is getting on.

Even if I don't get around to posting, or checking in, I've still got you all with me and I know that means that one of you will sometimes be thinking of me

I love this post from baby to guggs

Remember tums in, head up, you are a strong courageous woman and I'm here for you if you need to go out for a walk and post, you've inspired me so much, I wish your mum could see how much you've changed the life of others and be proud!! Thinking of you xxx

One amendment, to tums in, head up I would add tits out

Hope so funny currently in the library scrawled thru our thread to find the book you recommended and realised I've read it and 'twas me that recommended the husbands secret just made a complete tit of myself Doh!

Hi catkisser I've not been doing this long so am probably not the best person to help (plus I had a slip-up yesterday too). I went 11 days without booze which is much, much better than my usual bottle of wine + a night so the odd slip up won't undo all of that, if this was a game I'd still be winning. Plus each slip up teaches you a little lesson for next time (triggers/strategies etc.). Try not to beat yourself up or think "sod it", just carry on as you were and move on

Good luck .

joey I'm not that bloody good I forgot you, I even had you wrote on my wee list, you know how much support you've given me and all the advice on coping with bowel disease was really appreciated, it's so taboo and yet we can talk about anything here, a true kinship, I feel so proud to have you all in my life, real true heroines of life.

catkisser every day you cut down is a victory, not when you don't a failure IFSWIM, you've already spared your body at least 4 or 5 bottles of wine and £20 at least. If you had lost a stone then gained a pound would that make you a failure, of course it wouldn't. Just work on the one day at a time mantras, yesterday is history, the future is full of possibility, I think your doing brilliantly. When I used to cheat on my diet id keep bingeing til the following new start Monday which is what we do with booze, top up one wee blowout with several others to follow, it's craziness the things we do. Today is a new day, your back to an "A"
Be kind to yourself babe, hugs just for you xx

Welcome Catkisser and well done for posting for the first time If you have some time why don't you read the original thread at the beginning of this thread (hope that makes sense) it is a good read, very emotional but will give you an idea of how this bus started Keep posting your thoughts, feelings and anything you want. No-one will judge you and you will get heaps of support. x

See spanna your a wee angel, I luffs ya girlfriend xxx

Baby stop being nice it's making me rub dust from me eyes, naughty. What you up to? did you find elusive school shirt? x

I swear I am going to kill lovely Ds who is giving it full teenage tantrum because he can't have an iPhone 5 for his upgrade. I have ordered the latest other phone which I can afford and he is sulking and slamming about. How did I raise such a spoiled little bastard? There are children with no homes and no food in this world and he is acting like his life is over. Well I will have the last laugh be snagging the new phone when it comes on Monday and he can do without!!!
Little git!

ma every day I love you a leetle bit more

I reckon you are the mam I would have been. Had I, you know, been able to be a mam.

However, I am a hard line auntie, I adore them. But there is no waah and whinge allowed on my shift. Unless it's by me. I'm a grand fan of do as I say, not as I do.

Catch up wi everyone in a bit, short staffed this morning, so went in for an early shift.

Will be the difference between andrex quilted and shiny white this month but every penny counts!

shudders thinking about shiny white crumple, crumple and crumple again.