Dating thread 77

[neiljames77]

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full.

What can I say. We are at a Chinese restaurant. The girl has been brought up with a Malaysian stepfather and can pick up a single grain of rice with a chopstick. Mr Teacher v impressed.

Lottie Go with your instincts hard as it is.

I did get a reply thank goodness, but it hasnt really put me at ease as it wasn't personal in anyway, so I'm still confused and reading into the fact that he put less xxx's at the end than he usually does...How do I stop analysing everything, I'm sure it can't be health At the end of the day he has replied, why can't that just be good enough?

These early days are meant to be exciting, not such a big worry aren't they?

Sorry Tis and giddy things don't seem to be going so well. It's so hard to not read into every text and x like you say. I'm a devil for it.

Don't it sounds like mr teacher is good fun

dont sounds like a good night so far!

Been to the pub, made new friends. Came home and the house is still standing and my 2 boys haven't killed each other!

Life is good! Tea and digestives now then bed!!

Oh God. He kissed me and he smells of popcorn.He went on about how I'd enriched his life and how beautiful I was.

He's not the one.

I've just been chatting with my friend who thinks this man is probably married. It would explain a LOT about his behaviour - the overspending the pushing my boundaries about my sexuality and pressing me to dress up for him. And a lot of other things. I realised that I've been talking to him for about a month but he deleted his profile after the second day and just texted me apparently because 'a nurse at work saw me on there and it was embarrassing'.

hello everyone! I wonder if you could help me. I've been on four dates now with a chap I met OLD. I think we get on really well, but he hasn't kissed me yet! tonight he dropped me off outside my house and kind of squeezed my arm, but made no attempt to kiss me. he thanked me for coming with him to the concert and said something along the lines of, "it's nice to have someone to go to these things with." I've got an uneasy feeling that he is just looking for friendship, but, if that's the case, why go on a dating website?
Does anyone have any thoughts on this???

ceelo can you not just ask him? Find out whether it's just friendship he wants! 4 dates in and I'd expect some sort of physical contact, do you fancy him?

dont how are you feeling this morning?

lottie have you googled him?

I have googled him but can't find any information that would suggest either way. Something is up though as far as I can tell.

Ceelo - have you observed his body language. IME when a man is interested in you that way they will sit directly pointing towards you, will lean in to speak to you and find reasons to touch you.

Like touch lightly on the arm or putting their arm lightly around you as you walk.

Thanks for your replies!
Yes, body language good - we were at a gig and we sat with knees or shoulders touching for a lot of the time . he does also often touch my arm or hand when talking to me, and I think he has that 'I like her' smile when he looks at me, iyswim!
I'm feeling a little better about it this morning, and I think that maybe he is just shy. on date 3 he lingered by my car for ages before I got into it & I think he was trying to summon the courage to kiss me. of course, I kicked myself afterwards for not taking the initiative first!
has anyone on here done that? just KISSED the man (woman) and be done with it????

Go for it - you don't have to wait for him to kiss you, not at all

hi ceelo - im in a similar position, posted about it a few pages back ^ although bit worse... (7 'dates' and no action!) . the longer it goes on the harder it is to do anything about it or know whether or they are interested at all. Interested to know how you get on! I think it sounds like he does like you, if you feel you can do it then I'd go for it and just kiss him :)

Ceelo kiss him. What have u got to loose? I can't remember who posted it but on this thread there's a brilliant explanation of how to move in for that first kiss.

With my last date before mr pof I said at the end of the date can I have a kiss then and moved in for one. Mr pof more forward so I didn't have to.

I sometimes think the first kiss is more important than the first shag.

Well this morning I feel pretty certain that Mr Teacher is not for me. He keeps messaging me saying I've enriched his life...

I had an ok time, but don't want to see him again. And mademan you're right. The kiss did it! Also his excessive compliments.

Don't did you stick to your rules of three drinks and no over-sharing?

A man must smell like a man - popcorn would not do it for me. Plus that first kiss is crucial. If they can't kiss they don't move to the next date.

He sounds a bit obsequious to me; I hate that in a man. You need the Goldilocks ratio of compliments - too few and he's not attentive, too many and he's desperate/ grovelling/ irritating... I'm glad I'm a woman

Keeps messaging to say you've enriched his life There has to be a balance. The problem is that when someone doesn't smell right the attraction won't be there. For me the smell is as important as his the guy looks.

I also don't message back people who have a strange style of dress that may not to together with mine - like a shell suit and brown, leather shoes

I did, before - well I may have had 4. I did not mention my ex and I was a total lady. When the date ended, he still knew little about me.

However I was quite badly behaved and stayed out after the date and drank more with my friend (male) who has also featured on this thread at some point. I woke up at his this morning but nothing untoward occurred.

I am a very bad person.

Mr Teacher messaged last night saying he had a dilemma about brushing his teeth. I assume as he kissed me

Oh dear, he sounds really beyond geeky!

Oh he was lottie. I like a bit of geek, but he was a bit desperado.

Oh, that teeth brushing comment is just cringeworthy and a bit childish...

At least he's making your 'no spark' text easier to send!

It's a shame he spoiled it. Why can't I just find a man who doesn't smell of popcorn and who doesn't tell me how beautiful I am every 5 minutes?

Whoa, whoa, whoa!!!! Back up a bit. He turned up on a date wearing a shell suit and brown leather shoes????
That beats a velvet jacket and snakeskin pants any day of the week!!!