Dating thread 77

[neiljames77]

Just got in from my holiday and saw that 76 was full.

Jarlin how lovely that you've been invited to Sunday dinner with son; it's a shame it looks like Slow was backed into it but maybe he would have invited you anyway. I'm glad you're going - I think you're doing the wise thing in accepting. I would probably have thrown a few more toys out of the pram and told him to fuck off. I am practising doing the wise thing (at least vicariously, anyway).

I've decided that the only normal person I know is me!!

My exH - who I get on with really well, reckons that all the decent men are married or gay. Wish I still bloody loved him, he's a lovely guy! But 8 years divorced is a long time!

Jarlin I'm really pleased and wish I had your poise and control with it all. Like before said I would be throwing my toys out pram good and proper but I too need to work on this!

Ah louby any more potentials in pipeline?

Awe hope things work out for you and Slow Jarlin. Seemed such a shame yesterday that you were thinking of ending things as you seemed so happy few weeks ago.

Louby he's your ex for a reason

louby44. sounds like my Mr keen who sends me poetry by text regularly even though date was in February
I got a diamond necklace on our one and only date...he is now sleeping with my pushy mate who wanted us to get together in the first place

I have given up on men for the moment!

pink I know! I don't love him, he knows that! He's a lovely guy though.

lizzie a diamond necklace!!! on your first date!! oooo er!!

No real potentials yet but I was chatting to a Tinder guy earlier but not reading much into it!

Do I download Tinder... so many sites! Too much confusion!

Hi all, not been on here much so will have to catch up properly! I deleted my OD profile a few months ago and don't regret it at all. I have a snoop on there now and again to see who's about and it's the same old same old so no regrets there, I feel free!

Question / opinions needed though - I met a guy while out in a group about six weeks ago. He sent me his number afterwards and we began texting. We've met since for a coffee. I do fancy him but there's not really a meeting of the minds and I don't see it as ever going anywhere. He's offered to help with some work I need on my house and we exchanged a couple of messages to arrange for him to come and look at it. My problem is I'm worried about a) letting someone I don't know well into my house b) I think it could lead to 'you know what' and it's been a while since I've been intimate and I think I'm afraid of letting anyone get close.
I put him off the work on the house and said perhaps we could rearrange for this weekend, he's said he'll let me know if he's free. I sense a cooling on his part and blame my barriers for that.

I would like to see him again but just wonder how I can get past my fears of being close to someone...he's going to be moving out of the area in the near future too, not too far away but I feel I'm letting the chance of a bit of lighthearted fun and company pass me by...we both know it will be a fling I guess and even though it's not what I really want longterm, it's ages since I met anyone I fancied, really don't know how to proceed with this.

Hey just popping in for some advice!

I've got a first date tomorrow, I'm really in need of some action, do you think it's a really bad idea to sleep with a guy on the first date?

Do you think it makes it then only about the sex and it won't be on a great dating level after?

positively I don't know really, it depends, what's the build-up to the date been? but are you sure he'd be up for it on a first date? Not all guys would be, or am I wrong there?

Well we havnt been talking naughty or anything, I normally find most guys up for it on a first date! I don't always sleep with people on the first date but the times I have I certainly can't remember anyone saying no

I think if you want to have sex then you should. Even though I've seen it said elsewhere on mumsnet from some people that this is a bad idea. If you know you can handle it then why not?

H&G if you're not sure but would like to tentatively move forward with him how about suggesting another coffee or some form of meet up on neutral territory? Might be less full on than him coming to your house?

H&G I'd go down neutral territory route too for lunch or similar and see how it feels.

Thanks for replies Must and Minime, that's the most obvious and sensible way to go too I think :)

Wow! I've just messaged someone earlier, we've exchanged a few messages and then he asked me out! Asked me if I am free tonight, we swopped numbers and are meeting for a drink tonight!!

Quicker than speed dating that! Why mess about though!!

Louby we want a loo update later then

mini I'll try! He isn't drop dead gorgeous but sounded really nice on the phone!

I'm praying for normal - please oh dating God let me meet someone normal!! No snakeskin trousers, crying, or obesity!!! It is my time

Good luck louby!

I love those spur of the moment dates....go Louby !

Want to feel some of the positive vibes coming from this thread today myself.

Why do you have a date too Minime?