Met guy online 6 months ago....

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

...and I've just seen he has activated his profile yesterday! He's been online last night after he told me he was having an early night.
We have been together for 6 months exclusively. As far as I was concerned, everything was great. He's loving, caring, affectionate...and I thought honest and trustworthy.
He will be calling me tonight. How do I broach the subject that I saw him online dating?
(Reason I saw him was my friend is online dating on the same site, and she was showing me her profile and messages. That's when I saw him online. Was a real shock).
Any advice as to what to say to him is welcome. Thanks.

Yooo Hooo!!! FooFoo!!! Where are you? We need an update.

Maybe she has got back with him and feels awkward!

In regards to the excuse though, about receiving an email and clicking on the link.

I met my DP on POF and after a few dates I removed my profile. Every so often I would receive emails from other OD sites that I had signed up to and simply forgot about, these would either be ignored or deleted! I would never take a look at a match if I was happy in a relationship.

You are being very strong and you deserve better than this. Even if his online activity was innocent, the lies are there.

After several months of dating my DP I activated my account to look at the first few messages we had sent each other, the difference is I told my DP what I was doing.

Hope it all works out, and don't jump straight back into dating, be kind to yourself and take some time out

I'm really disappointed that there is no update for this. OP, we just want to know what happened.

Is it possible to send our FooFoo a private message??

It's a bit stalky though, isn't it? I suppose if she'd wanted to update, she would have... Frustrating.

A aargh - perhaps she's on holiday with him

Hiya. Sorry for delay. I went on holiday for a week to somewhere remote and had no internet access. Even the local pub had no wifi! Just got back in the early hours of this morning. It was my first holiday away as a single mum and it was quite a worry for me. But we had a lovely time and the weather was great. I also had a bereavement whilst away so it's been a difficult week. So apologies. I should have mentioned it before I left last week.
Regards my dilemma. I met up with him the night before I left. We both laid everything out on the table. I reiterated everything I said before. It was a really honest and emotional discussion. He has deleted the profile. He says he logged on as he had email messages from the site. He says he never contacted anyone and he showed me before deleting his profile. I spoke about trust, etc which he took on board. He says he wants things to work and because I really do like him a lot I've decided to give it a go. I will see him tonight for the first time since our chat. He's been texting and calling all week whilst I've been away. So all ok and I will let you know how I get on.
You have all been amazing. Thank you.

It's nice to hear from you, good luck tonight, I really hope you get the answers you need.

So he logged on (for a few hrs on several occasions) because he had email messages from the site? when I met my DP from OD I didn't open any more messages and I sent all messages from the site straight to automatic deletion in my email settings.

Thanks for the update FooFoo. Sorry for your loss. I would advise to proceed with caution (esp as you will be vulnerable after the bereavement)

I looked at who he had viewed on the site and it tied up with the messages he received via the site into his email account. Maybe he forgot to log out. I can't be sure. I will remain sceptical but have decided to give him a chance. He has also agreed to some bereavement counselling which is a step forward.
I will keep you updated.

Hope it works out for you FooFoo. Just keep your wits about you.

Hope your evening goes well FooFoo.

Great news. I hope it works out. I despair of the Mumsnet tendency towards LTB . Your bf sounds lovely

Well to be fair MrsBrownsGirls the OP spotted her bf online on several different occasions and he even viewed her fake profile so he was clearly browsing which, let's face it, isn't good. I'm glad the OP has sorted it out with him but I'm also glad she will 'remain sceptical'.

That's good news LLFF. I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt if you like him. There aren't many decent guys out there x

Good for you, I hope the talk cleared the air and also made it clear what you expect from him/the relationship. And I am pleased to hear that he's getting some counseling. Good luck, foofoo.

Thanks. All good so far :0)

Reported again

You'd think she'd got better things to do now her husbands come home

Apparently not though. I've reported her twice already this morning

I wonder what Dr Swami did to her poor husband.

No need for Dr Swami here...a combination of my good looks, charm, wit and my ample breasts brought my man home ;0)

Ha ha, good for you LittleLadyFooFoo - honest to goodness, there are some strange people on this site! Glad to hear you're happy, I followed this one keeping fingers crossed for you x

What on earth happened at the end of the thread!?