Met guy online 6 months ago....

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

...and I've just seen he has activated his profile yesterday! He's been online last night after he told me he was having an early night.
We have been together for 6 months exclusively. As far as I was concerned, everything was great. He's loving, caring, affectionate...and I thought honest and trustworthy.
He will be calling me tonight. How do I broach the subject that I saw him online dating?
(Reason I saw him was my friend is online dating on the same site, and she was showing me her profile and messages. That's when I saw him online. Was a real shock).
Any advice as to what to say to him is welcome. Thanks.

[BitOutOfPractice]

Oh! I bet he nearly wet his pants!!

[TalisaMaegyr]

I'm assuming he hasn't replied?

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

No reply as of yet, but he could be in bed. Might be morning before I hear anything.

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

His online status has now moved to "online this week" as opposed to "online today".... Could be a number of reasons. I shall await with baited breath!!

[ohldoneedtogetagrip]

you sent the text at 10.30pm -do you really think he is in bed at that time on a Saturday night?
He is either trying to think up a good excuse
or
Out with someone he met online

I doubt he is in bed (me of little faith)

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

He sent a text earlier saying he was watching the football. I know he has to be up early to catch a train to his family's house. He said he was in.
I think is more than likely astounded by my text and doesn't know how to reply (as in an excuse) or he is in bed.

[MimsyBorogroves]

Urgh, you have my sympathy - my ex did much of the same sort of things. Twat.

[BitOutOfPractice]

Did he reply op?

[Cerisier]

I liked your text- breezy and unemotional. It will be interesting to see his response.

[Rachie1986]

Has he replied?? Has he replied??

[FrontForward]

I like the text as well! I can imagine his face. How quickly does he normally respond? To me the fact that he is not responding quickly is because he's guilty.

If it was innocent he would come straight back with the truth

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

Ok...no reply as yet, but it's still early...will update :0)

[ethelb]

Sorry this has happened op. How are u feeling this am?

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

I feel a bit sad. Last summer my DP and I separated. I had hoped that this summer would be fun and carefree with this guy. We had planned so many things we were going to do. It had given me confidence to move on from my past.
But I've developed a thicker skin, so will have to accept whatever happens and have fun anyway.

[eddielizzard]

yes, rebound guy. you deserve better than this.

[McBear]

Summers still got a while left so you never know!

Still no reply?

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

Thanks everyone.
Still no reply.

[Goodadvice1980]

I like how Jennifer Aniston described her relationship with Vince Vaughan after she split with Brad Pitt - it was a defibrilator relationship as it brought her back to life (so to speak!).

Onwards and upwards OP

[Gobbolinothewitchscat]

Immediately plan something to do next weekend - it will make you feel loads better

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

OP, I started dating someone I met online (Tinder) at the start of the year. Things were going ok and I really, really liked him and he said the same, but we hadn't had the exclusivity chat. One day I went on Tinder to read back some of our messages we'd exchanged and noticed he'd been online recently. I knew he'd had an account on another site that I wasn't a member of, so I had a browse; within seconds I saw his profile and it said 'online recently'. I was not happy. He carried on as normal with me until I asked him how he saw me - 'just as a friend' was his response. I was gutted but he wanted to stay friends. I wasn't so sure but he kept instigating communication by texting and asking me to meet for a cup of tea a cup of tea, ffs . I never met him for a cup of tea and it didn't take long before I worked out he just wanted to keep me hanging to one side as an option, and believe me, I am no-one's option! Two weeks ago I deleted all his photos and texts, deleted his number and deleted him off Whatsapp.

These men clearly have Sweet Trolley Syndrome. The moral of this is don't drag it out like I did. I'm still struggling to get over him now, whereas if I'd done it as soon as I saw him back online, I'd be fine by now. I know you've text him but he can (and is) avoid replying. Call him and confront him.

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

I have the number of a guy I met on the site over 6 months ago. We never got round to meeting as I started seeing Mr Evasive!! He text me about a month ago asking how I was doing. I might text him back.....

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

Soft kitty...cross post.
Sorry to hear your story. Seems very similar.
If I get no reply by this evening, I think I will have my answer, but I will call him also. I feel at least I've made the first move in letting him know.