Met guy online 6 months ago....

[LittleLadyFooFoo]

...and I've just seen he has activated his profile yesterday! He's been online last night after he told me he was having an early night.
We have been together for 6 months exclusively. As far as I was concerned, everything was great. He's loving, caring, affectionate...and I thought honest and trustworthy.
He will be calling me tonight. How do I broach the subject that I saw him online dating?
(Reason I saw him was my friend is online dating on the same site, and she was showing me her profile and messages. That's when I saw him online. Was a real shock).
Any advice as to what to say to him is welcome. Thanks.

No, I don't think he suspects a thing. My friend blocked him so he won't be able to see her. He never replied to my message no.
I am seething. I must be slipping with my judgements of people. I honestly thought my luck was in....I thought he was honest and trustworthy as well as fun and attractive. But hey, I've learnt a lesson...not to be so gullible. Thanks for your message.
And just as I finished typing that last sentence, he's sent me a lovely, good morning text!!!! Now thinking maybe I'm not the only one he's texting.

I think you have done amazing not to blurt it out. Is it tonight you are seeing him? Can you arrange to see a friend or go out afterwards? Don't let him completely ruin your evening.

Sorry Op it is vile when it happens. I do understand.

I'm meeting him with the intentions of a drink and cinema, but I have signed up to my work staff night out...so I shall meet him for a drink, tell him what I know...and then go out partying with my colleagues :0)

Great....glad you have plans.

Thank goodness you have found out now.

Please keep us updated!! Well done for refusing to put up with this crap behaviour

Good luck OP. What a horrible man.

Good luck FooFoo

How did it go LittleLady?

You saw him on the site. You were on it so maybe he was on for an equally innocent reason. Talk to him. Talk to him and sort it out. Don't let some stupid worry spoil what you have but talk and see where it leads.

You will be so disappointed in me... I cancelled meeting him and just went on my works night out. I made an excuse. I was actually looking forward to going out with my colleagues, that I didn't want to spoil it but upsetting myself beforehand, iykwim. So, I bottled it!
I just got in now, I'm a bit merry, and I don't know what to do. I shall make a plan when I'm sober in the morning. Thank you everyone. Sorry I was weak. But I will do this tomorrow ....

Pauline the op wasn't logged on as herself. Her friend was on it and she saw him online. She went back to check and he had been on it more. He was logged on as himself in the evenings.

Just send him a message through the dating site saying I see you are back on here so it is over.
Job done. Bang to rights.

Do you know what, I just wouldn't bother ever talking to him or replying to his texts again. Seriously. You know the score, why bother. Why waste time

Re activate your proper profile and get back online. Ignore him.

Not disappointed at all just glad you enjoyed your works night out.

And you did well in not coming home and sending him a drink taken slightly merry mean text or voicemail.

Have a good weekend and I hope the hangover isn't too bad.

Glad you enjoyed your night out with your colleagues....have you talked to him yet? If you don't feel you want to see him I'd say a dump via call is perfectly acceptable in this instance!!

Hi, he text me 3 times today and I havent replied. His last text said he would call me tonight. He has probably now got the hint something is wrong. Im going out for dinner so i mught not be in to take his call!! However, if I am I have decided to confront on phone as we were meant to be going away next weekend.

Bet he goes online while you're out for dinner.

Have a good evening out anyway.

I'm not sure what you're gaining by ignoring him?

I think it's a bit like the elephant in the room...I know it's there but I'm ignoring it. I suppose I'm protecting myself from hurt. I know I'm going to have to mention it. Just checked and he's not been online for 2 days now. But that could be because he has someone's number!!! Or it could be that he has decided not to, but why not delete his profile??!
Just got in from a family meal out and feeling good. Will mention if he calls as I spoke to my sister about it, and she agrees, I can't let it hang over me.

Ok...I've sent a text...eek!

Ah - he's got the 'thrill of the chase' in his nostrils now that you've been incommunicado. Not a relationship you either need or want, I think?

Oh no what did u say..?

Oh goodness. What did you say?

Just said ... "Hi, hope you had a good day. Wondered if we are still on for next weekend, as I have noticed that you are active on the OD site. I would appreciate some honesty if you wish to seek friendship/dating elsewhere. LLFF"