The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Sipping Super Summer Mocktails Whilst Soaking Up Some Sun.

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

I'm what some would call a 'controlled' drinker these day, but I wasn't always and I'm not alone on this wonderful bus, Gerald, when I say that.

We have drinkers who drink each day, those who abstain completely and those who are not sure what it is that they actually want just yet....

We won't judge you for drinking, no matter what your reason is, we've all been in your shoes somewhere along the way!! And we have ALL used every excuse under the sun too!

We have some Babes who ride on the Roof-Rack, (clinging on for dear life ) and then we have an expandable Side-Car, which some Babes use, but the bus, well, the bus, our wonderful Gerald, who takes us here and there, to pick up people in need of an unbiased and much needed ear to listen to. :)

There are lots of ears on this bus, and not a single one will turn you away and not listen!

Two things that we do believe here are -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

If you are lurking and reading this thread, there is a reason for it, isn't there?

Stay lurking or come and say hello! We don't always bite.

And for those who'd like a bit of history, HERE'S THE LAST THREAD

And of course, THIS IS WHY WE ARE ALL HERE IN THE FIRST PLACE, A VERY AWE INSPIRING READ

See you soon x

ma you know you can tell me, I am very good at listening, and I won't tell another soul not even these nosy babes lurking around

But I am seriously jealous of your gliding - wow!

ma you've got half an hour to get yer arse back here and spill da beans. Or I'm sending over me fridge.

You heard.

Me fridge. And she meaner than your mofo.

Word.

Innit.

I didn't drink any wine btw. Had two fake beers and an Indian ready meal. My cheerleaders (my DD's) have been waving their virtual pom poms and generally spurring me on.

Are you going gliding at Portmoak ma? The gliders always look so peaceful and serene. I hope you have a lovely day.

Pmsl at wry
Sorry, email is highly confidential but I appear to be causing him some sleepless nights!
Oh yeah, still got it!
Fortunately, work commitments means I am unlikely to ever see him again but my word, its good for the ego!

Well done you little, you gave the WW the heave-ho, via the mighty pom-poms!

Your fridge contents. A workmate of mine poaches eggs in second day mince. It's one of her favourite teas.

I'd never heard of it but apparently it exists. Eggs. Poached in mince.

Like eggs in purgatory. But not. not going round for tea anytime soon

Yup, ya still got it!

Sleepless nights eh?

I'm sure he has the matter in hand. So to speak.

Eggs poached in mince? Boak.

little probably too late now, but Bobotie uses mince and eggs recipe here

Not sure I'd serve it with coleslaw though...

ma - he shouldn't be telling you tings like that. I think you should give him a stiff talking to

A stiff talking to venus? ma might find it a bit hard...

I'm a disgrace. I know it. I'm going to get moved to the front of the bus...

In my defence I've had an Irn Bru.

Eggs poached in mince! Bobotie sounds quite fine venus

Tut tut. Nun Soc wakes up to this disgrace. Get to the front all of you!!! There will be no Opal fruits for a whole hour.

And on the topic of sleep I have NEVER slept this well. Oh my god it's wonderful. Took a few weeks though.

X

Now see what you've done wry!

Hi my lovely babes, looking you are much loved on here and in my recent crisis (caravangate) you and the others gave me strength and courage, I am paying it forward to you, your in my thoughts my friend.

ma this life of yours just keeps ramping up in glamour and drama, the only flying I do is off the handle.

I really empathise with the newbies, I think the first month is quite often about seeing the reasons you drank in the first place, boredom, stress, tiredness, general dissatisfaction with life in general, I used wine for all of the above and a sleep aid too. It takes a while to look at your life without the ready brek glow that wines provides.. It may seem a bit grim but as the weeks go by you get some clarity and start to tackle the underlying issues, in some ways it may seem a little worse before it gets better. Learning to process your feelings sober and in full colour is both frightening and liberating in equal measures.

wry your a bloody Quine, I love your posts, bet your looking like a hot naughty nurse, aye he'll be sorry, specially with that bullet lodged in his b*s.

I think your all super brave, in the face of adversity there is humour, warmth and compassion and that my friends is a wondrous gift.

Xxx

Sorry Soc

We were a baw hair from getting away with it too...

Soc has a moral compass to keep us straight as well as Gerald's sat nav it would seem

Well done on your 80 days Soc

baby!! Evening lovely lass! Have you had a fine evening? Xx

glad im not the only one with apparently weird non alcohol induced insomnia....well not glad you have it to little but its nice to know im not alone and it should pass....

i feel so much more in control of what im drinking and its a fabulous feeling but im seeing little reward for it!
i had a teeny tiny tinsy half measure of gin topped up with tons of tonic tonight but had no urge to have another.
im feeling very smug. its a milestone for me - not having any at all is one thing, having a tiny bit and then abstaining is another entirely for me at least....i was genuinely beginning to believe i was a full blown alcoholic and that i couldnt have that first drink ever....

now allthis opal fruit talk has made me want to find my contraband stash of skittles.....

wry I'm not sure that the southern babes will understand the 'missed by a whisker' meaning of "baw hair"..... Some (like isindie ) might even ask for a translation!

Sleep well and safe everyone.

Wide awake and ready to "slip the surly bonds of earth" and take to the skies! Looks like a calm day too thankfully.
Be good. I will look out for a tiny Gerald trundling along with all my ground crew....

ma, have a fabulous day! May the weather stay fine for you! Xx

Oooh and get jets. Or gliders. Or summat.

I feel the need...the need for speed glide

Hi babes. Sorry for not posting yesterday. I don't feel strong enough to discuss yet, but I read all your lovely posts and they were the only bright spot in a terrible day. Was working,from home yesterday as kids had friends over so locked myself in room with laptop and did my best between naps. Unlike you baby, oh does not love me, and when I f*ck up he makes the most of it, so spent yesterday intermittently coming in to hurl abuse. Was cooking kids tea and he wouldn't move so I could open the oven so I said the dinner would burn and he said, 'oh well have a glass of wine then, or three,' and called me a disgusting cow. Ds is lovely and compassionate and Dd is alternating between needing me and using the situation to guilt trip me using her dad's insults. So rock and a hard place - if I book time off I will get grief and stress at home. I feel low because they deserve to be angry, but still recognise oh is using this to hurt me more. Perhaps if they were supportive it wouldn't come to this. Still feel shit though. Thank you for being there for me babes. Have to get up and work now, then funeral this afternoon which will be a difficult one, all old work mates including the one that got me very drunk and had to see me home on Tuesday. Every minute is a struggle, I just want to sleep. Am scared to go and make a cup of tea in case I bump into him in kitchen and get abused again. What a strange half life this is

My darlin looking I have had exactly the same situation, dd1 was deeply worried, ashamed but is very good at hiding her vulnerable side so took to looking at me with disgust and brief shows of tolerance when money or getting away with things were involved. She bullied and manipulated the hell out of me which relieved her anger and increased my shame. Dh was at first baffled by my erratic behaviour and angry towards the end, I was abusive and cruel about him and his family (who haven't ever shown me kindness, even before my breakdown) if I'm honest dh and have never reconnected, I resent him for neglecting me in the months prior to my breakdown, he's a decent man but not romantic or sentimental and I'm very needy of love and affection so the result of my loneliness and anxiety it ended in a total meltdown.

I feel your sadness in every post, you need something from the doc to calm you down and definately therapy of some sort, please reach out to anyone in RL who can help, I've been there and the climax was a huge drink induced nervous breakdown and I wouldn't wish it on anyone so PLEASE PLEASE don't fight this alone, I wish I could hug you but you have the strength and love of every babe behind you.

I wish I could do more, your hurtling towards a very bad situation which you do not deserve, sit your family down and try to make them see what going on for you, alienating you does nothing to help.

You have our great affection and I'm sending you strength my lovely lovely babe xxx

Thanks baby. You are a rock to me. Just working atm but dreading funeral. There will be lots of drink there but am driving, so excuse not to, and am taking ds to athletics later so good to get out of the house. I have antidepressants but they don't help. I know this needs to change but can't go off sick till after September, and atmosphere at home awful... Right, 2 more hours of work then shower. I hope I can get to where you are soon, but atm everything in my life seems wrong...